Why do we even have a board that questions our 'reasonableness'? Are we being the thought police? Do we have so little confidence in our own choices and understanding of our own emotions that we have to refer to others all the time to tell us how we should behave and (god help us) feel in this situation or that? Or are we brainwashed socialised to believe that every difficult emotional situation is somehow our fault, or down to us to put right?
I sometimes wonder if men would ever post regularly on a board entitled 'Am I being an arse?' I can't help thinking, no, most of them wouldn't feel the need to, even (especially!) if they were being arses. They'd feel much better about turning their backs on unbearable situations and just walking away, or shouting 'I don't care what you lot think, I think this is wrong'. Perhaps we need more of this 'sod off' attitude and less of the hand-wringing 'what did I do to deserve this?'
I can't help thinking of George Bernard Shaw's adage about all progress being due to the unreasonable man. After all, many (most?) of the women who fought for the vote, for equal rights, for removing the missiles from Greenham Common, and all sorts of other brave and very right causes, were regarded as incredibly unreasonable, to the point that some were put in jail for their pains. You don't change the world by fitting in with it. And you haven't really grown up on here unless you've been told you are being (vvvvv) unreasonable. (I grew up like that a while ago over a hairdressing thread where I wanted slightly more, um, intuitive service than a tape measure and 'how much do you want off?' I was happy to accept that my expectations were unreasonable for a tenner, but the postscript is that the hairdressers in question has just closed down. Draw your own conclusions. ).
So go on, tell me I'm being VVVVV U. I'm a grown-up. I can handle it.
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To question why this board even exists? Are WE being unreasonable?
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wol1968 · 24/07/2014 15:33
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