to be annoyed that DH couldnt wait 2 hours for me to be home to tell me that we have lost all our photo's off the laptop WHILST Im at work?

[hulahoopsilove]

Im so angry that....

1. He's rang me at work to tell me something that he knew would make me really angry and upset and couldnt wait for 2 hours when I would be home.
   

1. I tell him this and he says "huh my fault again and slams the phone down on me
   

Let's hope he can find the memory stick with half of the pics on particulary DS birth and baby pics

Says he's upset but not that much that bet he goes to golf tonight as planned

[PourquoiTuGachesTaVie]

Yanbu that would have me edgy an unable to concentrate for the rest of the day. Fingers crossed you can get them back.

[Igggi]

Are you annoyed he told you at work, or that he has lost them? How did they get lost, is it his fault? Is there nothing to be done to retrieve them?
Did you upload them anywhere online to send to family etc?

[hulahoopsilove]

Both but more annoyed that he's dropped this bomb shell on me at work whislt Ive been here there and everywhere this week sorting out child care, ill parent and feeling knackered as he knows and he also knows this would just ad to it and not really appropriate to talk over the phone in an office full of people

Virus on laptop sent in for a repair - company had to wipe it all but you sign a piece of paper to say that what ever happens is under our say so sort of thing...

As long as I have baby pics and the last few years hols Im ok I suppose. Ive got a few on FB, and Trueprint etc... I can retrieve

[Suefla62]

If they got accidentally deleted, there's a program called recuva that works miracles.

[hulahoopsilove]

well PC world said that they have to re set the comp or something and its wiped everything

[cakecake]

My DP would have done this too. He just can't wait to get things off his chest. He once phoned me to tell me some really bad news when he knew i was on the bus, unable to do anything or cry my eyes out

[Smilesandpiles]

Re set the computer to an ealier date and you should have everything back.

[moonbells]

Ouch hula

"Suggest" to your DH that he goes and buys a large USB hard drive (at least a Terabyte) and signs up to a cloud storage account with similar amounts of space. Put all photos you take from now onto both of these as well as your laptop. Always keep them in three locations.

Don't use the laptop after you get it back until a pro file restorer has been able to assess it. If it takes 4-5 cycles with random bytes of data to securely wipe a drive even when you want to, I'm sure that PCW won't have killed all of the files.

Put a post up on facebook if you are on it, requesting that people send you all photos that they have that you are on, or of the events that you all went to. Use something like Flickr if you have to, then uploading is easy.

I don't think YABU. I'd be upset if mine rang me at work when I can do diddly squat about something and he knows it'd drive me potty until I got home.

(At the last count I had over 43,000 photos - it's my main hobby - and scans of pre-digital negatives. I take backups very seriously and if I lost them, I would be beyond angry.)

[hulahoopsilove]

god Im shaking Im so annoyed as I cant do anything or help at mo until I finish work as he well bloody knows

[PigletJohn]

I'd very much say take it to a trusted computer mender at once, before using it or doing anything to it.

The quicker it is properly looked at, the more chance you have of good file recovery.

And on your way home, buy some blank DVDs for future backups.

[Picklepest]

Sorry he took the PC in without backing up everything first?

U are married to a dick.

LTB

[PigletJohn]

sorry I missed the update saying it had been taken in to be wiped.

Either stupidity or ignorance.

[Joysmum]

Personally, if I thought DH would think it better for me to be upset and not call him, rather than to call him and share then I'd think he was a selfish wanker.

[MostWicked]

Re set the computer to an ealier date and you should have everything back.
That wouldn't recover deleted files.
The computer has been wiped due to having a virus, then there is very little hope of recovering them.

he took the PC in without backing up everything first?
It's highly likely that a backup would have been impossible. Lots of viruses completely lock you out or delete or corrupt your files.

He was unreasonable to tell you at work. That wasn't fair.

[Inkspellme]

you can't talk to your dh about it as you are in the middle of work but you can post several times on mumsnet in that time ...

[LongTimeLurking]

I find it hard to believe they couldn't recover your photos before wiping the drive. Depending on how they have wiped it a specialist data recovery expert might still be able to retrieve them.... at a price.

As others have mentioned, get a USB stick / external hard drive and back up in the future. Also free / cheap cloud services like google drive and drop box are great for keeping copies of stuff.

[tigermoll]

Tbh I think you are (understandably) angry about losing your pics, and are taking it out on your dp for 'telling you in the wrong way '. If he had waited till you got home, you could just have easily been angry with him for waiting. my boyfriend does this - if I tell him something he doesn't want to hear, he'll often take ten minutes to find a reason that the 'way' i told him is the problem, not the thing itself.

[BoneyBackJefferson]

Given your reaction to this, I wonder if he would rather you have 2 hrs to calm down.

[WhatsGoingOnEh]

Sorry you lost the photos. But i think YABU. I think you're tired and fed up anyway. And taking it out on your DH.

Why shouldn't he go to golf tonight?! Will not going to golf get the photos back..?

I think his reaction to you was very telling. "Huh, my fault again." Do you blame him for a lot of things, maybe more than are actually his fault? Be honest. If you react this way usually, it'd be horrible to live with.

[sunbathe]

hula - hope you can get them back. It's something I worry about.

moonbells - what cloud storage would you recommend?

[Scrumbled]

I'm sorry that you've lost your photos.
Yabu to think that he wouldn't tell you straight away. Some people don't like to be told these things unti they're in a position to act, some people do. It's a bit pot luck. I'd have sent a text to my dp, he would do the same for me.

Do ask about for any photos others may have.
Do sign up to one of the many free cloud services and get an external hard drive.

[ActingBusy]

You're upset and it's understandable after a shitty week. The not backing up/losing of the photos is nobody's fault. And I think Boney might have a point.

[passmethewineplease]

YANBU to feel upset or annoyed that you've lost your pictures.

I would cut him some slack though, he didn't intentionally delete everything, it was an accident, a foolish one.

When everything is kept on mobiles/laptops/tablets it is the risk we take, at least when we we had to print them we had less chance of them just being lost forever due to some technical error.

Hope you can at least retrieve some pictures from others and websites such as FB and Photobucket or something! I would also buy some sort of memory stick or blank discs to back up all pictures and files. Just in case.