Quick background, so this makes sense... I was idly chatting with a friend yesterday and we were talking about what we had done during the day...
She (pretty much normal for her) hadn't done much of anything. Her DCs had been in and out of the house, alternating between playing in the garden and stuck to one screen or another. She has a very laissez faire attitude with regard to her DCs in the summer and she is happy with it. If it works for her, what business is it of mine?
My DD (8) is disabled and medically complex, so requires a lot of my focus - throughout the year, we save up so that I can employ her school nurse for 8 hours a week to allow DD some continuity and myself a bit of time to attend to household responsibilities. While she was out with her nurse yesterday, and DS (16) was off with friends, I took the opportunity to clean the house, do some laundry and make a packed lunch for DH as he works the afternoon shift.
Well, this friend had some strong opinions about this. She seems to think I should use my money to hire a cleaner and spend the time with my DD instead of "wasting a fortune" on her nurse so I can "pawn her off" (mind you, it is 4 hours a day, 2 days a week). She went on about how DS should be expected to mind his sister and not "fart about" with his mates and of course DH should be making his own work meals.
She went on to suggest I am being abused by DH as he is using me as "staff".
I have mulled this over (while making DH's packed lunch and getting DD ready for her nurse's arrival this morning) and I have come to the conclusion that my friend clearly has no clue, and that if I am not bothered by my routine, it is hardly something she needs to get her knickers in a knot over.
Have I lost the plot?
More importantly, how can I tactfully suggest she wind her nose in?
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AIBU?
Do I live on some backwards planet, or was my friend BU?
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CallMeExhausted · 24/07/2014 14:51
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