To tell DD water is good for her?! Ffs

[Fanfeckintastic]

Ugh I'm really pissed off about this!

I have a friend with a son (4) and me, her, her DS and my DD (3) spend a lot of time together (I actually wrote a thread a few weeks ago asking how to stand my ground with DD when her DS can eat and drink what he likes and gets bought toys every single day/trip we go on) I got some great advice and things have been good, I started bringing lunch and a bottle of water ( sometimes lemon and mint infused etc etc) which really helps as it's harder stick my group when we're out somewhere ordering together or picking up a picnic etc.
I've had a chat with DD about coke because she is more and more curious about it as her pal drinks it all the time, all I said was that we prefer water/milk because it's good (resisted every urge to tell her that coke is terrible for her as would hate to offend my friend) but friend heard DD telling her DS that water was good for her and my friend turned to me and said "in other words coke isn't?!" Said it was smug and went on to justify her choices etc which by the way I don't judge as he's her DS and yes we parent very differently but we are great friends.

How AM I supposed to deal with this then if my very very subtle way has already offended her? What about the next time he has chewing gum, haribo etc, is it unreasonable for me to explain the dangers to my DD for fear of offending my friend?

[whereisshe]

Well coke isn't good for you. Your friend can't make night into day simply by wishing it so

You were quite polite and have every right to parent your daughter. I might be tempted to say "it's not about you" to her - it annoys me when people go looking for things to be offended by.

[hiddenhome]

She's a fool, coke is utter shite and she'll know it.

Stick to your guns. Water is great. Mine are only allowed fizzy pop at birthday parties.

[frames]

You might be good friends but clearly you ate very different in your choices. If you can't compromise then its not going to work

[phantomnamechanger]

well everyone knows coke is not good for a 4yo so she is totally stupid IMO
he will be one of the growing number of kids leaving primary school having had multiple teeth taken out

[gamerchick]

I've never known this sort of thing to be an issue.. mine prefers water or when it's hot dilute juice in water. My pals let their kids drink what they want and it's never come up.

If somebody justified their choices to me I would be wearing a huge perplexed expression on my face to what on earth were they going on about.

Tell her she doesn't have to justify herself to you, crack on and change the subject.

[deakymom]

www.collective-evolution.com/2013/09/22/what-happens-to-our-body-after-drinking-coca-cola/

try this link for her

[deakymom]

just reminded me i need to recommend my friend uses coke on her loo!

[SaucyJack]

You don't need to deal with anything- you're acting like a perfectly normal parent.

She's the one who's in the wrong. Coke is not a suitable drink for a small child. If she doesn't like being reminded of her shoddy judgement that's her problem.

[naturalbaby]

If she was happy and confident with her parenting choices then she wouldn't feel the need to justify them to you, or make a point about it.

[itsbetterthanabox]

I think it might be good to say your dc has weak teeth and coke can be bad for them so it's best your dc doesn't drink it.

[notallytuts]

YANBU

"No, coke isn't good for you" "were you under the illusion it is?"

[Only1scoop]

No need to justify or make excuses re 'weak teeth'....your dd was right....nothing needed to be said.

[ElephantsNeverForgive]

YANBU, sadly no one has ever managed to convince DD2 that water is a drink.

At 13, she realises she's an inconvenient pain (to herself as well as to everyone else as there is lovely free iced water at the sports centre and very expensive drinks machines), but sbe still hates water.

I frequently silently curse DH for prefering squash to tea and introducing her to Coke as a toddler.

[ShadowFall]

How can she possibly think that coke is a good healthy drink for anyone, let alone a 4 yr old?

Does it have any nutritional value at all?

[LittleBearPad]

Whatever she said in justification it won't change the fact that coke isn't good for anyone, which she knows.