Brief back story: we have two male cats, 6 years old, neutered. We also have ds 11 (dh is step father), and dd 7months.
Dh is very attatched to the cats, and worries when they don't come back after a few hours. He won't go to bed until they are both in, sometimess not going to bed until 1am and later. We live backing onto a large meadow with stables etc, and obviously in the summer this is great for the cats.
Over the last few weeks due to the hot weather one of the cats has been staying out later and later, which my husband is getting more and more worked up about. He has a very senior position in finance, and works long hours to the detriment of family time. I completely understand this, but recently he has been having days off to search for the cat, spending all of his time worrying that the cat doesn't want to live with us anymore and getting really anxious and stressed out! Yesterday the cat stayed out all night, so dh didn't go in work and went searching for it. He found him in a neighbours garden, and tried to carry him home, but cat got spooked and ended up scratching him to pieces, resulting in him needing a tetanus Injection and anti biotics as its infected! !
That day he kept the cat inside, and as such we weren't allowed to have the doors open in case he got out. The following day cat was desperate to go out so I let him, but he again didn't come back that night. We knew he was ok though as various neighbours saw him snoozing in the shade throughout the day. Dh was absolutely out of his mind again with worry, and had me out searching in the heat with dd in her trolley. He got back from work, went out searching with the cat basket, and brought him back! So now we can't open any doors to let air in as he doesn't want cat to go out!!
This evening he has completely been vile towards me, and basically ignored dd. I can't believe how he cares so much about the cats, and is so irrationally obsessed with where they are all of the time, and whether they want to live with us, yet hasn't even shown any particular interest in dd or his ss or myself. This has been building up for months, and his behaviour is getting harder to put up with now that we have dd.
Aibu in thinking his children and myself should have priority, and that his behaviour is irrational, or am I being unreasonable?
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minidisco · 23/07/2014 19:51
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