To think she should pay?

[notatallslimshady]

Namechanged as don't want to be outed.

DD17 was desparate to see a well known act - one word, starts with E, please don't mention it as she is bound to check Mumsnet to see if I have posted about it, in West London tonight.

Her dad bought her a ticket for £80 for her birthday. Her best mate bought the tickets for DD, BF, and another girl to go and XH paid BF the £80.

When the tickets arrived, there were 6 instead of 3, so the BF sold three of them.

DD goes to London today to go to the gig, has talked about little else for months. Turns out, the Act was also on last night. BF has sold DDs ticket which was for tonight and left the three girls with the tickets for last night which are now obviously useless. BF and the other girl have coughed up £100 each to a tout for tickets for tonight. DD doesn't have £100 so they have let her travel the 2.5 hours home alone.

I am beyond livid on DD behalf. I have spoken to her and she doesn't think BF will be reimbursing her/XH for the £80 he has paid for the ticket BF then sold ( and kept the money for)

I do realise she made a mistake but AIBU in expecting her to pay the money back as it was her mistake and DD/XH shouldn't be out of pocket?

Thanks Vipers.

[NotALondoner]

Bloody hell!!! Of course bf should pay the money back, and your dd should get some better friends. Unbelievable!

[CharmQuark]

Well obviously the BF. who sold the to should have put the proceeds towards née tix and covered the difference for all 3 tickets . At the very least she owes £80 as she was given £80 to buy a ticket and has not produced a ticket .

Not to mention a massive apology.

She sounds like an ex friend, tbh. How could she wreck your Dd's b'day like that and just let her go home alone?

What does your dd think?

Poor girl.

[newsecretidentity]

YANBU-- her best friend profited by selling on her birthday present! Yeah, she should pay.

[notatallslimshady]

Thanks for the replies. DD only really has this one close friend and is very dependent on her. I have had concerns for a while but have said very little . Various instances of BF treating DD in an offhand manner and dropping her when she feels like it.

I fully expect DD to want to brush it all under the carpet but I feel she should pay and if she doesn't pay and apologise she won't be welcome in my home any longer.

DD will end up being angry with me if I go on about it. I just don't know what to do for the best.

XH will cave in to whatever DD wants at the end of the day and I will end up being the only one spitting feathers over itas usual

[LongTimeLurking]

BF should pay for the ticket he sold, I mean what happened to the cash from selling those extra tickets? (side note, could argue this is karma for selling the extra tickets clearly sent in error)

Neither of them sound like very good friends to me.

[mrstiggy]

Bloody hell, that's a rubbish excuse for a friend! Yes, she absolutely should refund her, and morally should have bloomin well stumped up the 100 for a new ticket for tonight seeing as though she had sold your dd's ticket. Who in their right mind says 'oops I sold your ticket by mistake so you'll just have to go home now, but don't expect the money I made from selling it'.

[notatallslimshady]

The only thing I am not sure about is whether BF actually ended up being charged for 6 tickets ( ordered online) or whether they sent three extra uncharged for.

Either way DD has paid for a ticket and BF has sold it.

[LongTimeLurking]

I would terminate a friendship over this type of issue, she has been effectively ripped off for £80. If extra tickets were sent free of charge then really your DD should have received 1 extra ticket or 1/3 of the money made from selling them as well.

This 'friend' sounds like a total bitch to me.

[Pumpkinpositive]

Did DD ever have sight of the three other tickets? Am a bit skeptical about "friend".

[notatallslimshady]

Just talked to XH. Apparently there were 6 tickets charged for so the BF has paid for 6, sold 3 ( the wrong 3) and left the three girls with the tickets for the wrong date.

DD says BF is already £100 out of pocket as she has had to pay the tout and she doesn't think BF will cough up.

I am equally cross that BF and the other girl would leave DD in an unfamiliar part of London, to get the tube and then get train home on her own whilst they go off and enjoy the gig.

I do have a cunning plan though. I have realised that BF has paid XH for other gig tickets, similar price, for later this summer. I will try to persuade DD that she should sell the ticket BF has paid for to another friend and take them instead.

That way XH gets his cash back, BF gets to see what it is like to be on the receiving end, and hopefully DD will get some better friends. WIBU though ?

[LIZS]

Were all the tickets perhaps for last night ? Are BF/BestMate one and the same ?

[petalunicorn]

Did she ever have the ticket in her possession to check the date?

[notatallslimshady]

So sorry, yes, BF is best Friend, not boyfriend - my mistake. I guess we will never know if all the tickets were for last night, or if they were three and three. That is just what the best friend is saying.

To be honest I do believe that is what happened and that it was a mistake, but I just don't see why my daughter has to be the one to suffer when she wasn't anything to do with the purchase or the erroneous sale. If the friend had checked the tickets properly this would not have happened.

[notatallslimshady]

DD never saw the tickets. Best friend had them sent to her address.

[Pumpkinpositive]

I'm wondering if there ever were 6 tickets.

[HotDogJumpingFrogAlburquerque]

Christ almighty, what a terrible friend.

I'd give the friend the option of paying your DD/XH backfor the tickets first, if she refuses, then give herher a taste of her own medicine.

Your poor DD, shed be much better off without this friend.

[CharmQuark]

Well obviously ExH should not hand over the ticket for the next gig until BF coughs up for this one . But I agree using it to sell to a new and better friend is the better way.

The most important thing though is supporting your dd through this.

[notatallslimshady]

Yes you are right, I want to support my DD but I know she will be really upset if I say we are not giving the friend the other ticket unless she coughs up the £80 for this one.

It would be easier if I had the ticket but XH has it and he will cave.

I bloody wouldn't!!!!

[Pipbin]

Why did the friend buy the tickets in the first place? Why not XH or you?
If she is just going to dump her friend like that then she sound like an utter cow.

[notatallslimshady]

The morning they went on sale, DD was at college but the best mate didn't have to go until later so she volunteered to buy the tickets. We didn't think anything of it and DD was so pleased that the friend had managed to get them.
XH agreed he would pay for DDs as her birthday pressie as she couldn't think of much else she wanted.

[Pipbin]

I think that the friend knew this all along. She bought the extra tickets knowing that she could sell them, and used the profit and the £80 to my the tout and pocketed the difference.

[queenofthemountain]

But pipbin why would she sell the tickets for the night they were going if it weren't a mistake?
I don't really understand the relationship between the BF and your XH? How did he know how many tickets were charged for, and why is he buying tickets on the BF's behalf?

[Pipbin]

Queen The friends would know they could buy a ticket from a tout and have the money on hand to do so. That way they could go and see the gig without the OP's DD.

[notatallslimshady]

XH just gave the Best friend £80 for DDs ticket rather than DD having to pay best friend for it. He did this ( via DD) as DDs birthday pressie.

BF bought tickets for herself, DD and another friend who I don't know to go to the gig.

I think it was a genuine mistake but that she should pay up as a consequence of that mistake. If it were the other way round and it had been my DD that had cocked up I would insist that she paid the other girl back, but I suspect the friends mother will not see it like that