Wasn't sure how else to word this so I'll explain.
We have a 4yo, who was conceived very easily. We are so very fortunate and ds is everything to us.
We have been trying to 'complete our family' since ds turned two with no luck. It has most recently become so much harder to stay positive and I feel I can no longer cope with the emotional exhaustion and upset. I have found myself imagining life with only one child.
I am 24 and DH is 5 years older. We purposely got married and decided to have our babies young, and hoped to have them close together- as we wanted to be young enough when they reached a suitable age to take them travelling. We felt that while seeing the world together before children would be amazing- we could enjoy having a family earlier then share these life experiences with them. We save for this and really look forward to this. (Probably not for another 10 years! )
Any who.
My doctor will not progress further because we have no medical reasons causing us not to conceive.
We have come to the decision to stop trying next June, if we have not been lucky by then. We feel we've given it a good try.. (hell, we've done everything we can as a couple) but as the gap gets bigger between ds1 and potential future child, and the longer ttc leaves us feeling in limbo with life decisions (do we buy a small house and keep overall costs low..or do we buy big for growing into blah blah ) we need to set a limit.
Out for a girls meal last week and I shared this with them.
They were aghast that we would "give up" and I was told many stories of friends who had tried for 10 years then had a miracle child! Which is so great for them.. but I don't want to do that. I didn't have ds at the age I did to start over (hypothetically) ten years from now. I don't want to continue this heartbreaking routine month after month for years to come.
Aibu? This should be about us as a family right?
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to think that it's not giving up. It's accepting and moving on.
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cornishbaby · 11/07/2014 19:07
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