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AIBU?

To want to shout at this bloody child..

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Wilberforce2 · 24/06/2014 21:20

Not sure if I'm being a bit precious but this is driving me mental.

Every Tuesday my ds does rugby 4-5 and as they are only reception and year 1 all of the parents stay. I like staying and enjoy watching him but one of the little girls of another parent is doing my head in. I have a 4 month old dd and every week this little girl does not leave her alone, constantly plays with the hood on the pram (pushing it backwards and forwards), putting her fingers in the babies mouth, kissing her on the lips, takes her toys/muslin off of her, pokes her eyes it just goes on and on. Last week this girl had a heavy cold and was constantly wiping snot around her face then walked over to dd in her pram (I dared to take my eyes off of her for a second) and stuck her fingers in her mouth, Friday my dd gets an awful cold. The mum just laughs and says "oh she is so motherly" or "she just loves babies" but I want her to tell her to leave her alone for one fricking second. Today I told the girl no a few times and had a couple of looks from the mum who then said "oh *** come over here darling I don't think you are wanted" but I can't just watch her prod and poke her for an hour, she was trying to put a pine cone in her mouth then whipped her with a muslin!

Am I being precious or would you keep telling the girl no? Little girl is 2 years old. Older brother is in my ds's class so I don't want to cause an argument.

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MrsWinnibago · 24/06/2014 21:22

No yanbu but you should have spoken up sooner. It's no good sitting and fuming silently....you need to make your wishes known right away or you cause more offence.

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Wilberforce2 · 24/06/2014 21:23

I know but I'm such a non confrontational wimp!!!

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Delphiniumsblue · 24/06/2014 21:24

Don't cause an argument - just be firm!
Say in a no nonsense tone,'she is going to sleep- you will have to go and play somewhere else today'.

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Fairy13 · 24/06/2014 21:26

The child is two.

I think wrt the fingers in mouth stuff - perhaps 'we don't put fingers in DDs mouth sweetie, it can make her poorly' - and perhaps have a friendly chat with her mum about it

But I think YABU overall - there is a little girl at my slimming group who is obsessed with DS and spends the whole time with him. I do step in occasionally - but I am friendly with her mum and we generally laugh about it.

YWBVVVU to shout at the child.

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Trillions · 24/06/2014 21:26

Don't shout at the 2yo, say no firmly and if she doesn't listen, ask her mother to keep her away from the baby.

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clabsyqueen · 24/06/2014 21:27

YANBU to be irritated but don't shout! Tell her firmly to go away and scoop up your child. Snotty fingers ugh.

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Delphiniumsblue · 24/06/2014 21:28

You do not need to shout - but of course she shouldn't be treating your baby like a doll!

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usualsuspectt · 24/06/2014 21:29

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stargirl1701 · 24/06/2014 21:29

A sling?

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gamerchick · 24/06/2014 21:29

No don't shout at her, she's still a baby. But I wouldn't allow my 2 yr old to make a pest of themselves either. Just keep speaking out calmly so her mother gets the message, it's not the littluns fault.

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ENormaSnob · 24/06/2014 21:30

Yanbu

Wtf is the other mother doing letting her do this in the first place?

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SirChenjin · 24/06/2014 21:30

YANBU - firm voice, smiley face, and tell her she needs to leave the baby alone as she is trying to sleep. Her mum is obviously using you as the babysitter for the hour Wink

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Wilberforce2 · 24/06/2014 21:30

I feel like shouting but definitely wouldn't shout at someone else's child!! Sorry probably shouldn't have said that..

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VenusDeWillendorf · 24/06/2014 21:31

I don't think OP shouted Fairy, she is just so frustrated she wants to!

You must be more assertive OP and tell the little girl not to put her fingers in your baby's mouth, as she's making your baby sick.
Tell her mum you're not happy to have your baby poked so much.

Practice saying it to a mirror, low voice, high voice, super squeaky voice and your normal voice.

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maras2 · 24/06/2014 21:31

Just tell tell the kid to get lost as we would do round these parts.What is Rugby 4-5 anyway? Reception aged kids playing rugger? Oh my Good Lord.

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usualsuspectt · 24/06/2014 21:32

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RollingGreenMarble · 24/06/2014 21:33

Nevermind the child you need to talk to the mum.

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SirChenjin · 24/06/2014 21:34

Not rugger (who calls it that nowadays?!) - it's touch rugby at that age, aka charging about the field, having loads of fun, and exercising. Just what the doctor ordered.

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maddening · 24/06/2014 21:34

Pop the baby in a sling ? Would avoid confrontation as baby would be less accessible and out of reach of the girl.

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Softlysoftlycatchymonkey · 24/06/2014 21:35

I say sling too.

BUT I'm not adverse to actually saying something to DM.

"Can you come and get your dd, she is trying to poke my dc eyes out " cue exasperated laugh.

If she falls out with you - she will make sure she stays away.

And if there are any PA comments aimed at you...just roll your eyes and look bewildered Grin

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Wilberforce2 · 24/06/2014 21:36

Yes she is just two but not my two year old and I don't want her constantly pawing over the baby!

Now I'm getting told off for reception aged rugby! It's just a fun after school class they are passing the ball, playing games and just running around in the fresh air maybe I should take him straight home to play on the Xbox?

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Softlysoftlycatchymonkey · 24/06/2014 21:36

Practice saying it to a mirror, low voice, high voice, super squeaky voice and your normal voice

Ha ha ha reminds me if when I'm teaching my pupils a new word .

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SolomanDaisy · 24/06/2014 21:37

That's not a nice way to talk about a two year-old.

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DizzyKipper · 24/06/2014 21:37

I'm betting you wouldn't really shout at her, you're just feeling wound up and tbf I think it's fair enough that you are. When we took DD to softplay centres there was always a girl 2-3 years older than her who'd be obsessed by her and constantly wanting to follow her around and do things with her the whole time we were there. It gets very tedious - more so when the other parents aren't bothering to manage their child and make sure they're not being too much! Talk to the mum.

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Softlysoftlycatchymonkey · 24/06/2014 21:37

It will be great for co-ordination. Better than at home on a iPad !

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