Ex H has kids every other weekend. We do not get on, so communicate as little as possible.
Often doesn't have them as goes on holidays and never seems to try to fit these in in the massive amount of time he is not with the kids. He never has the kids another time and he refuses to have them any "extra" or help in any way.
DS is 16 and now has a job on Sat and Sun, which is great and I am very proud.
ExH lives in same town but says kids can't have a key to his (it's his partners house but he has lived there for 7 yrs) because it's not their home .
He has now said as DS is working if he is going away for the weekend when it's "his" weekend then DS will have to stay here as he cannot stay in their house alone. I often go away when the kids are away (or just enjoy not cooking etc) and do not really want to worry about leaving DS here and what he might get up to (he was found drunk in the street by a passer by a while ago while supposedly at a party) he's not really responsible enough and if I am going away I can't relax fully.
So ex h is saying he is responsible enough to be left here but not at theirs.
He has already had a conversation with DS about it before even mentioning it to me and completely disregarded me, my opinion or the fact that this is actually my house. To all intents and purposes saying that his plans take priority over mine .
I have said he needs to adjust his own plans as he only has to feature the kids in 4 days a month as opposed to my 26.
I love my kids and love being with them just trying to put this down in a matter of fact way - not sound like I can't wait to get rid of them.
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Weathergames · 16/06/2014 17:24
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