to think this woman was bloody rude?

(28 Posts)
Objection Mon 16-Jun-14 15:03:24

I'm currently looking after a gorgeous 6 month old baby whilst his mum is away.
Unfortunately, I came to work this morning to find his grandmother looking knackered and him crying and crying as he hadn't slept all night. I checked him over and suspected he had scarlet fever so we both went to the GP.

We were sat in the waiting room with two other ladies, baby a lot calmer and having a look about from my lap. One of the women was glaring at us the whole time, not sure why as we weren't making any noise.
Anyway, all of a sudden he was very sick, most of it went on me but some splashed the carpet and chair.
The other lady jumped up to get some towels from reception but glarey just continued to frown and began tutting.
I'm now holding a frightened baby, we're both COVERED in vomit and the grandmother is flapping around us trying to clear up with me helping as best I can with one hand.
This woman then says stroppily: "well aren't you going to tell reception so they can clear up your mess??"

She was called in for her appointment before I could reply, fortunately.

AIBU to be astounded that someone could be so rude and unsympathetic?

(Baby does have scarlet fever, as it turns out but he's getting better)

restandpeace Mon 16-Jun-14 15:05:10

WHat a cowbag!! Poor baby

Onesleeptillwembley Mon 16-Jun-14 15:06:46

YABU. She wasn't rude - she was a bitch. Poor baby.

If she was glaring at you the whole time then she was looking for something to have a go at you for, I think baby sensed the staring and tried to vom on her wink

Hope baby gets well soon

Objection Mon 16-Jun-14 15:08:33

The other (kind) lady noticed and told us to ignore people like that.
I'm not entirely sure what we did wrong, it was a Dr's surgery so obviously he was ill...

partialderivative Mon 16-Jun-14 15:08:50

I'm now holding a frightened baby, we're both COVERED in vomit and the grandmother is flapping around us trying to clear up with me helping as best I can with one hand.

So, while all this is happening, one of your first reactions is to tell MN about it? Put the bloody phone down, your attention is needed elsewhere.

TillyTellTale Mon 16-Jun-14 15:09:42

Silly woman. People at doctors' surgeries are often there because they're ill. Sometimes, that leads to vomit.

Silly woman.

itsmethechubbyfunster Mon 16-Jun-14 15:10:40

She was unreasonable.

But - why were they letting you sit in the waiting room with the baby? When DS had suspected scarlet fever they put us in isolation room.

TillyTellTale Mon 16-Jun-14 15:11:08

PartialDerivative

She's using the historic present.

It doesn't mean she's MN'ing instead of doing vomit clear-up.

Um I think you have misunderstood partial, I doubt it is happening in real time as we read it. I'm pretty sure OP was using "now holding" and the present tense as a stylistic way of telling the story with a sense of urgency.

Yeah. Historic present. That's what I meant grin

runningonwillpower Mon 16-Jun-14 15:13:33

You don't know why this other lady was there. Maybe extra medication for her depression or OCD tendencies?

Whatever her problem, it's her problem. Whenever I see intolerant folk, I try - not always successfully - to respond more in sorrow than anger.

Look at it from her point of view. Can't be nice being an intolerant unsympathetic git.

Objection Mon 16-Jun-14 15:13:41

partialderivative yes that's right. I'm sat in a gp surgery covered in sick with a screaming baby in my arms and thought "mumsnet must know!!!"
hmm

We left the surgery 5 hours ago, baby is now sleeping.
Please read the post in context before getting all angsty at me.

Objection Mon 16-Jun-14 15:15:50

look at it from her point of view. Can't be nice being an intolerant unsympathetic git.

This made me snort, thanks! grin

I'm not sure why we weren't isolated tbh as my opening line was "I'm pretty sure he has scarlet fever"

Xcountry Mon 16-Jun-14 15:20:32

Yes it was rude, yes she was unreasonable but I wouldn't waste much more time dwelling on it. The woman was also in the doctors surgery which sort of insinuates that she also isn't feeling well and may have just lost her temper.

partialderivative, somewhere a village has lost its idiot. hmm

IorekByrnisonsArmour Mon 16-Jun-14 15:43:33

grin at pumpkin

Nulliferous Mon 16-Jun-14 15:45:50

AIBU to be astounded that someone could be so rude and unsympathetic?

I don't know about unreasonable, but you're being a bit chippy.

It's a doctors surgery. People aren't feeling well. They're anxious, or they're in pain.

You complain about her lack of empathy for your troubles - where's your empathy for hers? She didn't do you any harm. Try to be more gracious.

rinabean Mon 16-Jun-14 16:05:32

You were both unreasonable, but it's okay because you were worrying about an ill baby and she was surely worrying about her own ill health. Hope the baby is better soon!

Other lady might be an emetophobe or she might have slipped in vomit and injured herself.

Or she might be a rude and irritating person, the type who Tuts while at the GP , waiting.

Singsongmama Mon 16-Jun-14 16:14:39

YANBU, so rude and unnecessary. I think it was Thumper's mum who said that if you haven't anything nice to say, say nothing at all. It's a long time since I saw Bambi but the point is reasonable....

Hope LO feels better soon.

Spidermama Mon 16-Jun-14 16:21:06

Horrible! You have my sympathy. I once sat in A&E waiting for my 2 year old son to be seen with a broken foot. He vomited all over me and I had to clean it up with one hand while holding him in the other. No-one helpede. They either all glared or looked away not catching my eye. I felt very sorry for myself.

I guess all you can do is think these people must be so stressed/sad/angry/busy that they have no room left for compassion and vow never to be like that yourself if you can possibly help it.

Objection Mon 16-Jun-14 16:21:55

Can I ask how I was unreasonable? I didn't do anything or say a word to her.
As an adult I would expect someone to moderate their behaviour enough to not have a go at someone because they're baby vomited.

DizzyKipper Mon 16-Jun-14 16:30:14

He vomited all over me and I had to clean it up with one hand while holding him in the other. No-one helpede.

In that situation I'd think it was on the staff to help, not other sick and/or injured patients. Though of course some one could at least have pointed out the fact to reception so they could have gone and gotten you help.

Bogeyface Mon 16-Jun-14 16:43:24

I suspect that she saw you walk in with a baby and expected him to disturb her in some way. She got what she wanted when he vomitted and was proven right, so she can now spend her day moaning about the appalling thing that happened at the doctors. To some people baby = noisy whinging inconvenience with parent who doesnt care enough to stop it annoying me even if that patently isnt true.

Sometimes people see what they expect to see and not what is actually there.

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