To join fat club or put gastric surgery on the credit card?

(79 Posts)
AtYourCervix Tue 13-May-14 17:25:22

I am fat. Very fat. Much fatter than anyone should be.

I've tried everything and failed miserably. I am a miserable fat failure.

So. The option.

1. Fat club.

2. Surgery.

I did sw fat club about a hundred years ago and lost a few stone but over the last 9 years it's steadily piled back on plus more.

I have an hour to convince myself.

sharonthewaspandthewineywall Tue 13-May-14 17:26:31

Try fat club for a specified length of time- say 3/4 months.
Then revaluate.
I will diet with you if you like as im a heiffer

LadySybilLikesCake Tue 13-May-14 17:27:48

Go for the fat club first. Surgery isn't the best option due to the risks involved so is always the very last resort.

Are you doing the usual? Checking your portion sizes, not snacking, exercise?

specialsubject Tue 13-May-14 17:27:57

why not try your GP for help and referral to a nutritionist?

no life-wrecking surgery, no faddy diets.

HopALongOn Tue 13-May-14 17:29:41

Fat club and maybe a therapist to help you want unpack your feelings and attitudes to food? It's hard, but I'd try the non stop surgical method at least for six months first.

sheeeewee Tue 13-May-14 17:29:42

I am having exactly the same dilemma.

What shall we do ?

fridgepants Tue 13-May-14 17:29:57

Do you have serious health problems - not just general unfitness/feeling rough, but diabetes/bloodpressure etc.? Things that mean you can't wait six months or a year? If not, you might as well try the fat club and then re-evaluate.

Have you discussed with your GP?

Chippednailvarnish Tue 13-May-14 17:30:50

Having surgery won't address why you over eat...

fridgepants Tue 13-May-14 17:30:55

Also, I think LighterLife - though expensive - has a group therapy element. It does involve peculiar 'food packs', though, so I don't know how it works as a long-term solution.

LadySybilLikesCake Tue 13-May-14 17:31:00

Thyroid problems can cause weight issues, so seeing your GP to make sure everything's OK is a good idea smile

Maryz Tue 13-May-14 17:31:11

Boot Camp?

Do you mean size 20 fat, or can't get out of your chair fat?

Because imo gastric bypass is the last possible resort, simply because once people get over the surgery they start to eat more again, the stomach stretches and eventually they are back where they started because they haven't learned to eat properly.

AtYourCervix Tue 13-May-14 17:32:32

Back is knackered. Snore like a hog. Hitting 40 in 3 months.

Not going to the GP.

AtYourCervix Tue 13-May-14 17:35:15

Size 20. Pretty repulsive.

Greedy with a penchent for cheese, wine and cake. I csn stop for a month. Do low carb, low fat, beetroot, dust etc for a month and then think fuckit and slip back to my cheese and toast habit.

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted Tue 13-May-14 17:35:58

Fat club. Even considering gastric surgery is crackers. There is no easy solution but the surgery could bring more problems than is solves

JingletsJangletsYellowBanglets Tue 13-May-14 17:36:13

With the bypass, aren't you pretty much on a diet the rest of your life? I understood you have to start with liquids only, then learn how to eat in very small portions, etc. if you lose weight v quickly you'll need further surgery to get rid of the extra skin too.

LittleMissDisorganized Tue 13-May-14 17:36:34

Bootcamp, definitely. Read Dr Briffa's "Escape the Diet Trap" as this will explain WHY you put weight back on after you had initial success with SW.
And life can change. I've used food to change the way I feel for years. I'm 23lb down but most importantly I'm not eating emotionally nearly as often any more.

This is your turning point, we all need one!

LadySybilLikesCake Tue 13-May-14 17:36:41

Gastric bands don't always work and can stop a body absorbing the nutrients, so can cause malnurishment. It's not a fix as there's ways around it (I worked with Gastric band patients and nurses for a little while). You should get a check over, it could be something medical.

I wouldn't do lighterlife. I'd get a personal trainer to go over my diet and sort out an exercise plan with the money instead. Weight loss diets don't work as people go back to their normal diet afterwards. Healthy eating, portion control and exercise works.

Lizzylou Tue 13-May-14 17:37:04

Try Fat club first, you don't want to go through major surgery without exhausting every option.
Plus I know someone who had a gastric band, lost loads of weight very quickly, but has since put it back on. You need to adjust your eating habits.

Maryz Tue 13-May-14 17:39:05

Size 20 isn't gastric band territory (or repulsive), sorry, you would have to be much bigger for it to have any effect.

Have you tried rewarding yourself? Is there anything you really want, anywhere you want to go? Any way to encourage yourself to stay BC-ing for a full 8 weeks to start with?

JaneRizzoli Tue 13-May-14 17:39:17

I am in a similar position but hate anything like fat club weighing in public. I had some success on slim and save last year. I stopped due to Christmas and just not got back on it. I haven't put all the weight back on either but still have a lot to lose. I am hoping to start back on it tomorrow if you are looking for someone to chat to to give mutual encouragement.

Maryz Tue 13-May-14 17:40:04

And you could start BC today - you are only a week behind. If you stuck 8 and a half weeks and got down a size or two you could relax and eat cake maintain for a bit and then do the next one in September.

That's my plan which isn't working too well today

Maryz Tue 13-May-14 17:40:54

But if you have the money, do BC with a personal dietitian calling to see you once a week, checking your out, giving you recipes and kicking you up the butt - I have a friend for whom that worked wonders.

Yes to fat club/support/small changes

No to the self hating talk - you are NOT door blocking, can't clean your own bum fat wink

You are a size 20, 2 sizes away from the average.

Do people say to a size 12 person OMG, youre so much thinner than the average?

No they don't - in the same way no one says that a size 20 is so much fatter than the average ( apart from inside your head)

Also, find a way to have the things you like. I am also a cheese and biscuit fan and when I was dieting (I'm not dieting but doing 5:2 now) I had lowest calorie crispbreads, grapes, Babybels sliced thin - made the whole plate about 200 calories.

I will go against the grain and say have surgery if you want. A band can be reversed or loosened so it's not permenant. A friend of mine had it done and lost 9 stone.

But I've had plastic surgery too so I'm pro knife grin

Trollsworth Tue 13-May-14 17:45:49

My friends mum died from the surger when she was forty two. Don't do it. Go to fat club.

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