WIBU to air my dirty laundry on FB, just this once?

(104 Posts)
Jolleigh Sat 05-Apr-14 20:32:24

Over a decade ago, when I was in my early teens, I stayed with an aunty for a while because my uncle and parents were in Spain caring for my nana who'd fallen ill with cancer while we were on holiday over there. During this time, aunty was looking after her own 3 children plus me, alone, and took us for a long scenic walk to try to keep us occupied. While on said walk, aunty and I had an accident and fell rather clumsily part way down a hill.

Aunty's reaction, rather than checking I was ok, was to start screaming at me at the bottom, under the impression I pushed her. She then stormed off and left me there, bruised, bleeding and not knowing the way back to the car.

I called my mum distraught at the time while I was finding my way back, though it was more for comfort than anything - I knew she couldn't really help. Back at the house when things had calmed down, both my uncle and my mum spoke to me on the phone several times saying they knew it was an accident but sometimes people need to apologise to keep the peace. Circumstances being what they were, I tried several times to clear the air. The apologies were thrown back in my face every time, right up until the attempt the evening before my mum came to collect me.

I was never left in my aunt's care again. Because they live half the country away, this meant I only saw that half of the family when they came to us.

Fast forward to present day. There are several people with long standing issues against this aunt, all separate from my own issue. My mum though has recently chosen to try to bury the hatchet to help her relationship with her brother and they've added each other on Facebook.

There were several of us chatting about a photo of us all as children which my mum had posted to sort of dedicate to me in a way (I'll be giving birth very soon as I'm 10 days overdue). The aunt has 'misunderstood' an in-joke (easy for her to do really as there were quite a few of us there who'd cut ties with her at one time or other) and made an almighty leap...

She asked if we were all talking about the time I pushed her down a hill.

I am so extremely sorely tempted to give my tuppence worth now that I'm older, no longer in such delicate family circumstances and don't have to blindy do as I'm told. I've never once aired drama on Facebook but I'd love to tell her how any normal person would have shown concern for the child after such an accident rather than react the way she did.

It really isn't worth the drama, is it?

eddielizzard Sat 05-Apr-14 20:34:31

oh god don't. the drama that you'll unleash won't be vaguely worth it.

she sounds awful.

Eatriskier Sat 05-Apr-14 20:35:05

Its probably not, but I'd personally be sorely tempted to write something back like 'I wish I had pushed you down the hill, life would be a lot more peaceful' wink

picnicbasketcase Sat 05-Apr-14 20:36:38

You shouldn't, but I can see how tempting it would be to reply 'That never happened, you know it never happened, we both fell, it was an accident, now fuck off you massive mental dick.'

TittyMcFartyFlaps Sat 05-Apr-14 20:38:15

I would, it needs to be said I think. And I'm not one for airing dirty laundry either, but she got away with it then, don't let her get away with it again.

wonderingsoul Sat 05-Apr-14 20:38:26

i would...

you woudlnt have to air anything really.. just.. "we both know i didnt push you.. it was an accideant"

or maybe even start asking why SHE pushed YOU.

drnoitall Sat 05-Apr-14 20:39:27

I wouldn't, because she sounds like a lunatic who would twist your words and besides if you are having a baby in the next few days, you don't want mud thrown on your beautiful babies photos.
I can see why you are tempted though.

picnicbasketcase Sat 05-Apr-14 20:41:06

How does she account for you falling as well, if you're meant to have pushed her? Seriously, she sounds like an utter loon.

Abbierhodes Sat 05-Apr-14 20:41:24

I don't blame you in the least for being tempted!!

TeaAndALemonTart Sat 05-Apr-14 20:41:43

I would.

I would say do you mean the time when I was x years old and you left me crying and hurt and then acted disgracefully?'No, we weren't talking about that.

ginmakesitallok Sat 05-Apr-14 20:41:49

I take it posting something along the lines of "should have pushed you bloody harder you old witch" wouldn't be appropriate?

Stropzilla Sat 05-Apr-14 20:42:54

Yes. Would you like to start screaming at me again line you did when I was a child?

In reality, I'd ignore her.

Nomama Sat 05-Apr-14 20:45:32

These days I probably would - I may also start wearing purple smile

TeaAndLemonTart's response is a goody'un.

But if your mum knows the truth then you can just reply "Sorry Aunty, how rude of us" or wait for your mum to have a pop!

wrapsuperstar Sat 05-Apr-14 20:45:33

I'd just block and ignore the poisonous woman. I'm not a big believer in tolerating someone's nastiness for the sake of keeping the peace.

Don't know if it's relevant, but I went on a social media for business course recently and was told to never, ever argue in public on social media sites. Very often, it's what the other person wants so you should rise above it and ignore her.

Endymion Sat 05-Apr-14 20:46:57

Just post

"We both fell down the hill!"

tripecity Sat 05-Apr-14 20:49:38

I'd say something, now you are older and you don't care as much. she sounds like a total cow

DoJo Sat 05-Apr-14 20:51:45

I suppose you could say something like - 'Are you on glue?'

Or if you are really still smarting over it, you could try 'I remember you accusing me of pushing you down a hill, but all I remember of the actual event was that you left me in a heap at the bottom and I had to find my own way back to your house. I hope you don't still feel as hurt by that incident as I do because it was awful and being accused of pushing you was much worse than the physical injuries. After all, I was only (insert age here).'

ICanSeeTheSun Sat 05-Apr-14 20:53:15

I would because I would hate people thinking that I pushed someone down a hill.

WhoNickedMyName Sat 05-Apr-14 20:53:48

I wouldn't.

Simply because you will unleash a shitstorm around the time when all of your focus should be on enjoying the time with your beautiful new baby (when he/she arrives). Don't taint this time.

Aventurine Sat 05-Apr-14 20:55:06

I think you should defend yourself. She is wrongly accusing you yet again to family members. I would feel compelled to defend myself as it would eat me up otherwise. I'm not sure what you have to lose.

RedBlanket Sat 05-Apr-14 20:55:18

Out 'lolz' and a smiley face.
Everyone will think she's joking and she'll be pissed off your taking the piss.

Aventurine Sat 05-Apr-14 20:55:51

I would say what DoJo posted

Aventurine Sat 05-Apr-14 20:56:21

(Not the glue bit)

itsmeitscathy Sat 05-Apr-14 20:57:46

I wouldn't be able to leave that- be matter of fact a d tell her you didn't flipping well push her down a hill!

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