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Really a bit scared

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KellyElly Fri 04-Apr-14 21:50:34

So I posted here because this is where I post the most and hopefully might have a couple of peeps who recognise my name. I don't even know if I will even comeback to this thread. I'm a bit drunk.

So a growth has been found in my throat and I've been referred for surgery as an emergency on 23 April. This has all happened in a couple of weeks. After it gets removed it will be tested for cancer. I'm a single mum and DD is four. I'm all over the place. I'm really scared. I should have name changed but too pissed to do do on my phone. Anyway, I'm not good at asking for help in RL so thought I'd put it out here on here. Not scared for me but scared for her. I need to be around for a long time.

Oh Kelly sorry to hear that. I've got a 4 year old too and can only imagine what your going through right now. Sending {hugs} your way.

WitchWay Fri 04-Apr-14 22:07:04

How old are you? Do you smoke? Do you drink spirits? Are you a man? Has your voice been hoarse? If you are under 50 & the answer to the other questions is No then please try to relax.

It is normal to test all removed growths for cancer. Most are harmless.

pillowaddict Fri 04-Apr-14 22:08:41

Don't want to read and run, I have no advice but stay strong, I'm sorry this is happening. Take all advice and help from the hospital, and I hope it turns out to be nothing g serious flowers

PumpkinPie2013 Fri 04-Apr-14 22:10:05

So sorry to hear you are going through this sad

I hope the results are what you want but even of they are not there may be treatment available which the doctor can explain.

Do you have anyone in RL for support?

You could contact Macmillan - they are excellent.

The samaritans are good as well if you need to talk at any time 08457 909090 is the number.

Take care and be kind to yourself - I hope you manage to return to this thread xx

rabbitlady Fri 04-Apr-14 22:10:14

its normal to be scared. my brother had growths in his mouth removed and tested when he was a child, we were all scared, he was ok.
i'm going to say a prayer for you. i believe in God. i hope you don't mind. positive vibes coming your way, too.

InkleWinkle Fri 04-Apr-14 22:12:04

I have no practical advice but please remember that there are people on here at all times of the day & night who do have good advice. And the rest of us will just listen whenever you need.

comicsansisevil Fri 04-Apr-14 22:15:43

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PansOnFire Fri 04-Apr-14 22:16:22

I'm sorry you're having a scary time, that's an awful thing to go through. I don't have any experience of this but please just think of the odds that it's just something routine and non threatening, it's highly unlikely to be something sinister and growths are so common. I know that doesn't make it any less scary for you but the odds are more likely to be that it's nothing to worry about.

Look after yourself for the next few weeks and don't let anything stress you out, you need to have a clear mind that isn't clogged up with niggly things. Get yourself busy with your DD and remember that you have support on here if you need to chat.

Pleasejustgo Fri 04-Apr-14 22:20:56

Ok so you're not going to know until the biopsy no matter what so try not to panic about the cancer element as all lumps are sent for biopsy even if cancer isn't suspected.

Easier said than done of course but at the moment you have no reason to suspect anything hideous. I had a tiny mole change when I was pregnant and they fast tracked my appointment straight away even though moles change during pregnancy all the time and it's not a type mole that usually becomes cancerous.

The lump could be anything right now so don't worry about a worst case scenario as tonight at least it isn't.

June2008 Fri 04-Apr-14 22:23:57

Me too Kelly. Exactly the same except my surgery is on Wednesday this week. Had a similar thing with my thyroid two years ago and that was fine but still scared stiff. Keep thinking what if. I have two dd, 5 and 3. This time its on my tonsils and the stories I've read about having tthose out are bad enough, never mind what the histology results may be. You have my thoughts and sympathy.

KellyElly Fri 04-Apr-14 22:54:36

Witch I'm a woman, am 35,a light smoker but have given up and I do drink spirits.

KellyElly Fri 04-Apr-14 22:55:08

June. I hope it goes well. PM me xx

KellyElly Fri 04-Apr-14 22:56:02

Thanks everyone else. I'm really freaking out x

DoJo Fri 04-Apr-14 23:02:28

I really hope this doesn't sound morbid or negative, but would it help to do something practical? To take control of the situation, speak to people and make plans for you and your daughter so that you can face any of the possible outcomes with at least the knowledge that you have support in place? Nothing will stop you worrying, but at least if you know that you have a plan in place, then no matter what happens you can feel confident that you and your daughter will get as much help and support as you need.

Wishing you all the best and hoping that you do find it within you to ask for a bit of RL help - people actually do like to feel that someone they care about can come to them when they are in need, so don't hold back around those who love you. People want to help - letting them could be the best thing you can do for yourself.

rabbitlady Fri 04-Apr-14 23:11:47

vibes and prayers for you too, june.

KellyElly Fri 04-Apr-14 23:20:23

Thanks DoJo. I've told the bare minimum and have people in place for my op. After that if the news is bad I'll let more people know x

itsmeitscathy Fri 04-Apr-14 23:41:59

I know it's no use to say don't panic, but for now just try to relax. Whatever the outcome is you will deal with it when it happens and when you are better placed to know what to do next. It could be nothing, it could be something - but whatever it is you'll be able to make a game plan when you have all of the information.
Fingers are crossed for you xxx

June2008 Sat 05-Apr-14 07:11:15

Will do Kelly.

Thanks Rabbitlady!

I've got arrangements for Wednesday and then will sort the rest as and when.

I too tried not to tell anyone but you get to the point where you have to. Just the minimum though as I don't want people going out of their way or feeling sorry for me.

Kelly are you going to be in for long?

NannyAnna Sat 05-Apr-14 08:14:31

My boss had a growth in her throat and her voice was husky. She had it tested and she was absolutely fine, has regular checks with the docs every few months to be sure nothings growing back but wasn't cancer. Xx

KellyElly Sat 05-Apr-14 12:31:49

That's good to know Nanny smile

FayeKorgasm Sat 05-Apr-14 12:43:51

Best of luck Kelly.

Mu mum had a lump removed from her throat a number of years ago. It was benign and she needed no further treatment. I do understand why you are so worried though. We were too.

Take care.

KellyElly Fri 11-Apr-14 19:02:49

Hope you are ok June x

madasa Fri 11-Apr-14 19:10:13

Easier said than done but try not to worry.
I had exactly the same thing happen to me when my daughter was 18 months old. I didn't even know I had a lump, my GP spotted it when I took my daughter in because she was ill.

I underwent surgery very quickly. The lump was benign and my daughter is now 23 years old.

Take care of yourself

June2008 Fri 11-Apr-14 20:44:37

Kelly, how are you doing?

I got home yesterday afternoon, not quite the day surgery I was hoping for but now feeling ok. Had a reaction to something that made me really sick (not sure if it was the general or painkillers afterwards) but had some more drugs and a drip overnight and was fine to come home.

Throat very sore but no more tonsils, thats very strange as they have caused me so many problems over the years. Just waiting for the results, the surgeon said it may be up to two weeks but I imagine bad news will come faster if necessary. I think if I've not heard by then it'll be ok. Oddly I am worrying less this time than last, got through it once and feeling positive about this one too.

Kelly do try not to worry and I know that's easier said than done. Try to appreciate all the good things you have right now xx

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