To think this wasn't offensive?

(526 Posts)
CasioBlues Thu 27-Feb-14 23:19:49

I work in an office, and after meetings, there are often spare sandwiches that are offered around.

I work in one group. A group of people of a similar level, all friends, were talking today and someone mentioned these sandwiches were brought to their group by a female member of staff, and also friend. A friend in another group mentioned sandwiches also came around to their group by a female member of staff.

A male friend in my group quipped about the member of staff who brings them around "what a slag!". A few of us laughed, one friend found it really offensive.

I think among friends, it was obviously a joke on the "promiscuity" of sandwiches, but I'm prepared to admit I was wrong to think it wasn't offensive. It wasn't very professional, but among friends?

DamnBamboo Thu 27-Feb-14 23:21:45

WTF?

WorraLiberty Thu 27-Feb-14 23:21:59

<< Blank stare >>

"The promiscuity of sandwiches?"

Unless you're all very close friends and know each others sense of humour I think this was a very stupid poorly judged comment in a professional situation. And I do politically incorrect banter with friends all the time.

DamnBamboo Thu 27-Feb-14 23:23:10

So a male friend clearly calls a female a slag, you laugh, don't think it's offensive and try to imply he's talking about sandwiches?

softlysoftly Thu 27-Feb-14 23:23:15

I hate that word totally inappropriate in a work environment YABU

CasioBlues Thu 27-Feb-14 23:24:09

It was among close friends ... i.e. a female friend offers sandwiches to group A and group B

Silkyandmoonface Thu 27-Feb-14 23:24:37

I wouldn't have found it funny nor would I have been particularly offended.

was the member of staff he was referring to present at the time?

Funnyfoot Thu 27-Feb-14 23:24:39

Good job she wasn't offering round left over cream buns then or she would of been a whore? hmm

DomesticDisgrace Thu 27-Feb-14 23:24:43

YANBU!

AlbertoFrog Thu 27-Feb-14 23:24:54

As someone who's known as "the desk tart" at work I don't find this offensive but it very much depends on how it was said and if the person it was said about would take offense.

CasioBlues Thu 27-Feb-14 23:25:09

no, the female friend wasn't present

DamnBamboo Thu 27-Feb-14 23:26:24

So then he clearly wasn't talking about the sandwiches.

Please elaborate on that will you... I'm still not quite clear what you mean by the 'promiscuity of sandwiches'

CasioBlues Thu 27-Feb-14 23:27:23

It was clearly about the female member of staff bringing sandwiches to both group A and B if that helps

Caitlin17 Thu 27-Feb-14 23:27:54

I can't imagine any work situation where calling a colleague a slag is appropriate.

DamnBamboo Thu 27-Feb-14 23:28:27

So it wasn't about the sandwiches (no surprise there hmm ) Why did you say it was? Why did you laugh?

fideline Thu 27-Feb-14 23:28:53

YAB extremely surreal grin

CasioBlues Thu 27-Feb-14 23:29:12

It was clearly about the sandwiches, without a shadow of a doubt

YoniMatopoeia Thu 27-Feb-14 23:29:54

Inappropriate imo

ScarletStar Thu 27-Feb-14 23:30:10

He was calling her a 'sandwich slag' because she brings them out and offers them round. I think that's quite funny, especially as she's a friend of everyone.

Funnyfoot Thu 27-Feb-14 23:30:21

OP please make up you mind??

DamnBamboo Thu 27-Feb-14 23:30:22

<bowing out now ... can't bear fruitcake at this time of night>

Tortoiseonthehalfshell Thu 27-Feb-14 23:30:39

It was clearly about the female member of staff bringing sandwiches, or it was clearly about the sandwiches? It can't be both.

CasioBlues Thu 27-Feb-14 23:30:39

Imagine after a meeting there are spare sandwiches - someone goes and offers them to the HR team and then the finance team. Upon hearing that the HR team also get sandwiches, a friend in the finance team said "what a slag" - not a very professional word, but among friends, with the context?

NothinToSeeHere Thu 27-Feb-14 23:31:07

I would have found it funny!

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