If you discovered your husband was a paedophile, would you stand by him? I know it seems like a no-brainer, but this is a situation in my family and ive been surprised by some peoples reactions. As its not something I want to talk about in real life, I thought here would be a good place to get an idea of other peoples thoughts (this is my first post).<br>So here's some background. My fil, an apparently upstanding member of society, was arrested for paedophilia two years ago. He had been grooming and abusing my ten year old neice and had thousands of images on his computer. He's now in prison. It was a complete shock to everybody, including his wife. Obviously its a really difficult situation and no one really knows how they'd feel if it happened to them, so I'm not 'getting at' my mil, who is a kind and generous person, but imoan overly adoring wife. She and other family members, including my own parents keep talking of forgiveness. I want nothing to do with the man (I don't mind my husband having contact with his dad, if he wants to). I can't imagine wanting to stay with a man in that situation. Surely that's not an unusual response to have?!