Bit of a weird and morbid one but I wanted to know if we (me and DH) were being unreasonable.
I was talking to my cousin and auntie about what happens to the children if the unexpected happened to me and DH.
My cousin said that her sister would take care of her little boy but she'd want her to move to this county (East) rather than where she lives now on the west coast of the UK.
My auntie then asked me if we knew who would look after aour 3 DS if the worst were to happen. I said yes 'The boys Married Godparents' (the boys each have 6 - 4 of whom are our close friends and the other two are a married couple who've been together for over 20 years, have 2 grown up sons, 1 is at university in his 2nd year, he's studying to become a paediatric Dr)
Both our parents are divorced and remarried.
DH mum lives a few hours away, Dhs dad is a no no (DH upbringing and his dads temper)
My mum - no no. Drink always is first with my mum
My dad and stepmum is a no too. They'd have a good life with my dad but I would prefer them not to live with grandparents.
So is our request/decision a bad one, my aunties reaction seemed to think it was!!
We asked the couple about te above and they said they were more than happy to have the boys if the worst happened - also how do I get that put into writing and saved somewhere safe so that I know this would happen. The last thing we'd want is the grandparents pulling and pushing the boys in each and every direction. Also I wouldn't want them taken into care if a plan wasn't in place for the boys.
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M0naLisa · 19/02/2014 09:06
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