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To want to block people on FB for bragging about how well their babies are sleeping?!

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LadySnapcase · 09/02/2014 11:29

"Aww thanks to my little man for the 10 hours sleep, luv you so much!!!"

I swear to god, if I have to read another version of that status I'm going to go fucking postal. And yes, I am just jealous. Really, seriously, bone achingly tired jealous Envy Envy

Lucky Bastards.

(BTW, I know I'm BU, of course people want to brag about their babies...but shit, it's just really hitting hard today Sad)

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HoratiaDrelincourt · 09/02/2014 11:41

YANBU

"First full night in months - well done Aloysius! I feel like a new woman" - fine.

"So glad baby has slept through since she was 2wo - luv you princess!" - fuck off.

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Mrsb999 · 09/02/2014 11:42

I have never bragged about anything like that....you never know when it's going to come back and bite you in the ass when all of a sudden they don't sleep!!

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Glitterfeet · 09/02/2014 11:44

Irritating to hear if you're sleep deprived but it's not bragging.

Stating that your precious baby has been sleeping though since birth because of your superior parenting - is bragging.

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brokenhearted55a · 09/02/2014 11:45

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NotSoChicAfterAll · 09/02/2014 11:46

My DD started to sleep through at 5 weeks, I'm glad I never boasted about it on Facebook as now she wakes 2-3 times a night from 4months!

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Fairenuff · 09/02/2014 11:47

It's important to them though isn't it. Forget about that, come and tell us what you're going through. Sleep deprivation is the pits.

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FreyaFridays · 09/02/2014 11:47

Your friends need to get some lives outside of their offspring's sleeping patterns. Seriously. Why would you bother updating anybody with that? With regards to your own baby (I'm guessing not sleeping so well?), this too will pass. It really will.

Are they really friends? Any chance you could cull them? Anyone I've not spoken to in real life for over a year is culled on my Facebook.

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Glitterfeet · 09/02/2014 11:49

I've cared knowing that a friend or family member finally had a good nights sleep.

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Pagwatch · 09/02/2014 11:51

Then block them.
i would block anyone who used 'lil man'tbh

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Littlegreyauditor · 09/02/2014 11:54

Not unreasonable at all. It is hard to take when you're knackered and apparently have the only child who didn't sleep through from 2 weeks old.

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trilbydoll · 09/02/2014 11:54

One of my Facebook friends constantly refers to her darling little angel sleeping so well. For my own sanity, I have decided her baby is dim, and only sleeps because there is nothing going on in its head. I know this isn't remotely fair, or true, but it gets me through the day on very little sleep!

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AgentZigzag · 09/02/2014 11:57

Not block them, no, the netiquette in this situation is to snipe at them by posting cryptic passive aggressive statuses (stati?).

That way, when you receive the oversentimental sympathy questions, you can make it clear in your replies who you're inboxing/ignoring and who's getting talked about Wink

Grin

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Wishfulmakeupping · 09/02/2014 11:58

Agreed they need to fuck right off FB bragging is shit as is the sympathic head tilts at baby groups when you mention that no your baby doesn't managed 10 hours every night arghhh

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LadySnapcase · 09/02/2014 11:59

I think it's like Horatia says, it's a fine distinction! Someone who has finally got a good nights sleep, yes, totally something to celebrate even if only one or two people are actually interested. But people who repeatedly go on about how great a sleeper their bubz is just wind me up.

I was very tempted to tell them to google the 4 month regression, but that really would have felt like allowing my bitterness to get the better of me Grin

Freya they are work friends who I occasionally go out with... the trouble is it's isolating enough being on maternity leave, don't really want to cut the cord completely. They feel like an irritating link to my 'old' life IYKWIM?

Fairenuff It's not even like I have a massive amount to complain about! DS is 6 months, up till 2 months he was up every two hours, then every 3, and now he wakes anywhere from twice to (one awful night) 6 times. Some of these are 2 minute resettles, some are 2 hour screamathons, but he has on rare occasions gone 7 hours. So it's not really anything too horrific (I've seen the sleep regression board!) but I don't tend to be able to get back to sleep easily after he's resettled, so feels worse than it is probably.

Anyway! This Too Shall Pass, apparently Smile

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MothratheMighty · 09/02/2014 12:02

They are happy, the fact that they are sharing it with the rest of the world is fine, if you can't handle it then block them, hide the post or unfriend.
As the parent of two with SN of different sorts, I've just learned to live with the envy and the bragging IRL. My FB friends are a higher calibre than the average Joe or Josephine

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Dwerf · 09/02/2014 12:04

Oh, months of no sleep is the absolute pits. None of mine slept through as babies. Two of them were managing it by a year old. One was reliably sleeping through at 3 once she went to nursery. The worst offender was at full time school before she managed to be in bed at a reasonable hour and down for the night.

My two year old granddaughter is a bugger for not sleeping also, as apparently was I. I'm wondering if there's a genetic non-sleeping gene. (or it's karma, one or the other)

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TheBookThief · 09/02/2014 12:13

Block away, or lie and bait them with tales of how fabulous your baby is Grin

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Twattyzombiebollocks · 09/02/2014 12:19

Yanbu. My daughter was an amazing sleeper from 6 weeks to 5.5 months, she would sleep from 7.30 until 3am, have a quick boob and nappy change, then go back to sleep until 7am. I never said anything on fb or in real life because I knew that 1) a baby who sleeps well is purely a matter of luck, and having had 2 non sleepers prior to this little gem I know mothers of non sleepers do not need their noses rubbing in it.
2) it would likely all go tits up at some point and I didn't want egg on my face. Sure neigh at 5.5 months she started waking up virtually every hour for a feed until 7 months when I moved her onto formula. Then she started doing a 2-3 hour stint of waking up and not going back to sleep, which has only just resolved itself now at 12 months. Finally this last 3 weeks she has started sleeping through properly!

So no, people should shut the fuck up bragging about their child's amazing sleep patterns on fb. People whose babies don't sleep frankly don't need to hear it, and nobody else gives a flying fuck anyways.

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CoffeeTea103 · 09/02/2014 12:20

Blocking someone for that? That's ott. You can just hide their threads.

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Pagwatch · 09/02/2014 12:30

Grin at agent zigzag

I don't have anyone on my Facebook page that pisses me off. Life is too short. It's not compulsory

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brokenhearted55a · 09/02/2014 13:19

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SpoonfulOfJam · 09/02/2014 13:51

They're all fucking liars. I don't believe any baby can sleep through the night. It's all fucking lies.

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FanFuckingTastic · 09/02/2014 13:55

If it makes you feel any better, my DD still doesn't sleep through the night aged five.

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MothratheMighty · 09/02/2014 13:57

Mine did, Spoonful. Both of them, from 6 weeks.
But as I had no wish to be beaten to death by sleep-deprived and insane mothers, I kept that information within my immediate family.
No FB back then. Probably no internet either.

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LadySnapcase · 09/02/2014 13:58

ZigZag Grin

Have calmed down a bit now and realised if I block them I'll never get the chance to remind them of this when bubz starts teething/has a cold/otherwise regresses.

I think it's genetic too Dwerf. I was a horrible sleeper (I suspect DM sees this as payback) and so was DH apparently. I have another friend whose second child was nearly 4 before she slept through, the thought of which makes me want to cry Hmm

trilbydoll I may have had similar uncharitable thoughts Wink. 'Oh, your son is so laid back! Unfortunately DS is just too curious about everything to just lie there quietly...' I'm going to hell aren't I.

Yes brokenhearted, same here... I sometimes suspect they are trying to convince themselves!

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