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AIBU to refuse OH's name choices?

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ATotallyOriginalUserName · 31/01/2014 18:16

OH likes the names Dahlia pronounced 'Dah-lee-ah' and Scarlett... He also wants the middle names to be Rose for either name choice. For me, these are far too unusual whereas I'm more of a heard of name person.
Myself liking Charlotte and Katie.

AIBU to completely disagree with those two name choices? (He is getting surname same as his) or should I maybe "try" to like them? What are your opinions on them anyway?

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amyshellfish · 31/01/2014 18:18

Find a different name you both like. Charlotte and katie are dull beyond belief.

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WeAllHaveWings · 31/01/2014 18:19

Keep going until you find something you agree on. I wrote a list of names I liked and so did dh and we picked at least 5 from each others lists and compared. Ended up with a name. From my list which he hasn't considered before.

(Love the name Katie)

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Pobblewhohasnotoes · 31/01/2014 18:20

Of course you aren't being unreasonable, but he has just as much right to disagree with your name choices too.

Why not write separate lists and compare, you must have more names you like.

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NotYouNaanBread · 31/01/2014 18:20

YANBU, but he can also therefore veto your choices. Work with the Rose thing - "heard of" name AND a noun = win! Violet, Poppy, Daisy, Clementine, Lavender (underappreciated!) etc. Posy. Primrose.

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Finola1step · 31/01/2014 18:20

You just both have to keep suggesting names until you hit upon one you both like.

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higgle · 31/01/2014 18:20

I presume the baby has not been born yet? If I'm right just wait until you see what she is like, a name might then present itself quite spontaneously because it suits her.

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Belacoros · 31/01/2014 18:20

Get the top 1000 names and go through it. Find something you both like. You can easily find something a bit toned down from Dahlia and Scarlett - which are not that unusual, frankly. Persephone, yeah, not many about. You can't go to a nursery these days without falling over Scarletts - without being as boring as Katie.

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manchestermummy · 31/01/2014 18:20

I have heard of both of these names Smile and I like the former. I agree though, find a name you both like or wait until the baby is born and see what she looks like.

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freakydoris · 31/01/2014 18:21

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hoppinghare · 31/01/2014 18:21

Charlotte and katie are not dull. They are lovely names. I'd go for a name you both like. You'll both have to use it a lot.

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RunRabbit · 31/01/2014 18:22

Agree with others. Find a name you both like.

Why not Rose as a first name? He likes it and is a 'heard of the name'.

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KatieScarlett2833 · 31/01/2014 18:22

Oi Shock

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Bogeyface · 31/01/2014 18:22

I dont think Scarlett is that out there. Scarlett and and Charlotte are practically the same when you say them out loud anyway.

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manchestermummy · 31/01/2014 18:24

I'm curious: what constitutes an "unheard of" name. I rather liked Xanthe for DD2: DH vetoed that one.

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kerala · 31/01/2014 18:24

They are dull in my opinion (one is my middle name and one my mothers name so i can say that).Lots of middle ground between Charlotte and dahlia

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HavantGuard · 31/01/2014 18:25

They're a world apart.

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nennypops · 31/01/2014 18:26

What on earth is unusual about "Scarlett" or "Rose"? I'd agree with vetoing Dahlia, it makes me think of Aunt Dahlia in the P G Wodehouse Jeeves books.

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wontletmesignin · 31/01/2014 18:27

You pick first name and let him pick middle. Or create a list and find ones that you both like.

Me and ds3 dad had complete different taste in names so a list failed us. Me choosing first name and him choosing middle worked well for us.

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manchestermummy · 31/01/2014 18:28

It's not really a question of dull v look at m innovative baby name, it's a partnership trying to make a decision.

OP: God help you when you actually have to make a proper parenting decision!

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greeneyes1978 · 31/01/2014 18:28

Charlotte and Scarlet are very similar, how about Scarlotte Wink

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manchestermummy · 31/01/2014 18:29

It's not really a question of dull v look at m innovative baby name, it's a partnership trying to make a decision.

OP: God help you when you actually have to make a proper parenting decision!

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manchestermummy · 31/01/2014 18:30

Don't know why I posted that twice!

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ATotallyOriginalUserName · 31/01/2014 18:30

KatieScarlett you name changed on purpose Grin if you didn't thats crazy!

I don't know Scarlett I've never met one? I don't MIND Scarlett so much but Scarlett Rose? Bit of a description isn't it? He has shaken his head to all my name choices. We originally agreed on Kaitlin but have since both changed our mind

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KatieScarlett2833 · 31/01/2014 18:31

I have never namechanged, ever.
Grin

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