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AIBU to expect a 'please' from a cashier when they ask me 4 money?

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ShakerattlenRoll · 21/01/2014 20:41

I was in Marks and Spencers yesterday I had some rude cashier asking me to move my basket off the conveyer belt without even saying please.I thought I would let it go even though I was niggled by her barking an order at me and being so rude.I moved the basket and said nothing.When it came to paying the woman she asked for the money without saying 'Please'.I was so fed up with her by now that I pulled her up on it and tore a strip off of her.She subsequently apologised and I thought that would be the last of it.
I went back in this evening and went to another cashier and low and behold the same thing happened there when she asked for the money.There was no 'Please' I thought (ffs) what's going on here? I asked her whether it was Marks and Spencers policy to be so impolite when asking for the money when buying goods? She said no but she was not obliged to say 'please'.

I thought ok then if you want to argue the point lets get a manger involved.Along came a manager and he said to me that he didn't know what all the fuss was about and that the cashiers had done nothing wrong by not saying 'Please' when asking for the money and he said he would not be reprimanding them on it.He told me that by the cashier saying 'thank you' and 'have a nice day' was surfice and please was not needed.

I mean to say what is this world coming to? I was brought up to say 'please' and 'thank you' and i'm not going to stop now and i expect people to say please and thank you to me especially if I am a customer at Marks and Spencers being served by a cashier.

I will be making an official complaint tomorrow to the store manager and head office. Your views please.TYIA

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Teeb · 21/01/2014 20:43

You're rude and tedious.

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Mrmonkey · 21/01/2014 20:44

Yes I suppose they could have said please but I think you are worse with your attitude and really does it need a complaint to head office?

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ShakerattlenRoll · 21/01/2014 20:44

Teeb would you like to expand on that please? I don't see how I am rude and tedious?

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Stuckunderababy · 21/01/2014 20:44

What teeb said.

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AgentProvocateur · 21/01/2014 20:45

I expect a please, thank you and a smile. And, yes, I know it's a shit job, serving the public - I did it as a student. But they can't manage basic manners, they're not suited to the job.

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MajesticWhine · 21/01/2014 20:45

YABU. You're overthinking it. I don't really notice whether people say please or not. Although very often they don't say the amount at all and just sit there and wait for you to put your card in the slot. A please and thank you is nice, but not your divine right.

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ThursdayLast · 21/01/2014 20:45

YABU

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HarrietSchulenberg · 21/01/2014 20:45

Yes it's rude not to say "Please" but you're being VU to make such a big deal of it. I'd just raise and eyebrow and be extra polite when handing the money over.

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ShakerattlenRoll · 21/01/2014 20:45

well what would suggest then Mrmonkey if i don't complain to head office?

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AgentProvocateur · 21/01/2014 20:46

Although, having said all that, I wouldn't complain. I just wouldn't shop there in future.

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VampyreofTimeandMemory · 21/01/2014 20:46

so when you take your items to the till, you always say 'this please'?

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Coldlightofday · 21/01/2014 20:46

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ShakerattlenRoll · 21/01/2014 20:46

I agree with AgentProvocateur here here well said.

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VampyreofTimeandMemory · 21/01/2014 20:47

must be a joke Confused

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Tallypet · 21/01/2014 20:47

They're stating the price that you have to pay for your goods. As in "That will be £ x" they're why would they have to say please? YABU and come across as the rude one.

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jacks365 · 21/01/2014 20:47

You are the one requesting to buy goods therefore it is you who should be saying please and thank you.

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Tallypet · 21/01/2014 20:47

They're stating the price that you have to pay for your goods. As in "That will be £ x" they're why would they have to say please? YABU and come across as the rude one.

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NotQuiteCockney · 21/01/2014 20:48

Why should they say please? Are you doing them a favour by buying the goods rather than just stealing them? Hmm

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Littlefish · 21/01/2014 20:48

"I pulled her up on it and tore a strip off her".

How very, very rude of you. You might think she was being rude to you, but I'm absolutely sure she now thinks you are ill mannered and patronising, and I can't blame her.

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bellasuewow · 21/01/2014 20:48

Take a step back op why are you so angry let it go

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ShakerattlenRoll · 21/01/2014 20:48

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SauvignonBlanche · 21/01/2014 20:49

You sound like a real PITA.

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Mrmonkey · 21/01/2014 20:49

You have made a complaint and is been dealt with although not to your liking, and how where you to them? Politeness works both ways you know.

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thenicknameiwantedisgone · 21/01/2014 20:49

i expect a please, thank you and a smile. And, yes, I know it's a shit job, serving the public - I did it as a student. But they can't manage basic manners, they're not suited to the job.

^^ this. After all it's just basic manners isn't it!?
(I have also worked in a shop and was nice and polite, it was waitrose though Grin)

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LaGuardia · 21/01/2014 20:49

Why would you put your basket on the conveyor belt? No-one does that. I bet they hate you coming in.

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