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To be upset that DSDs didn't buy me a present ?

(57 Posts)
Primadonnagirl Fri 27-Dec-13 22:38:45

I have known them for 15 years..they rang me on Xmas day to say they loved me..today was our family Xmas day..they bought their father a pressie but not me.Nobody has said anything . Not even DH. They didn't even get us a card.WTF?I just shut myself away and carried on cooking dinner but v upset ..even more upset the DH hasn't said anything..what would you do?

Oakmaiden Fri 27-Dec-13 22:41:13

They rang you on Christmas Day to say they loved you? Wasn't that the best present?

How old are they?

DwellsUndertheSink Fri 27-Dec-13 22:42:26

having them phone you to say they love you - what a priceless gift you received! Would you rather have had smellies from Boots? or some scarf that wasnt really you?

corlan Fri 27-Dec-13 22:43:01

I would forget about the lack of a present and be very proud and happy that they had phoned me to say they loved me. fsmile

NatashaBee Fri 27-Dec-13 22:43:06

YANBU - bit slack of your DH not to check whether they'd got something.

lookingforwardtonewyear Fri 27-Dec-13 22:43:30

I'm just surprised you are surprised mine never even bothered to get their dad anything.

Chippednailvarnish Fri 27-Dec-13 22:44:08

Mmm, depends how old they are.

phantomnamechanger Fri 27-Dec-13 22:44:45

what has happened in previous years? does their dad normally buy something for them to give you?

Primadonnagirl Fri 27-Dec-13 22:45:29

25 and 27!

SlinkyB Fri 27-Dec-13 22:46:19

My 14yo dss didn't get his Dad anything. We don't say anything, but I am disappointed (for dh).

How old are they?

FredFredGeorge Fri 27-Dec-13 22:46:31

So presumably mid / late teens? - how much money do they have to be buying loads of people gifts - they phoned you to say they loved you! Why is that not more than enough?

I'm pretty surprised you're upset - why do material presents matter so much?

VeryExasperated Fri 27-Dec-13 22:46:41

They should have got you something, even if a small token. You can get very thoughtful gifts for less than £10 even, if you put our mind to it. And I presume you got them something? I'd be delighted to be told I was loved by them, but can completely understand your being hurt. Try to remember the lovely phone call though.

AlfAlf Fri 27-Dec-13 22:47:23

How old are they?
My dc didn't get me anything, I don't mind, but they are probably younger (6, 8, and 14).

SlinkyB Fri 27-Dec-13 22:47:51

X-post. Eek, 25 and 27 eh? I would actually expect a little box of chocolates or something tbh. Oh dear, I'll not be holding my breath with dss then! smile

AlfAlf Fri 27-Dec-13 22:50:33

Sorry just saw their ages. YANBU. Try not to let it ruin your day with them though. Maybe mention it to your DH when they've left and he can drop a hint in future?

AlfAlf Fri 27-Dec-13 22:51:50

What did they get their father btw? Is it something that might be for you to share? <clutching straws>

pigletmania Fri 27-Dec-13 22:52:11

Yanbu surely if they loved you they would get you something as well as their father, you known them for 15 years. I gather they are adults as you known them for 15 years

Primadonnagirl Fri 27-Dec-13 22:52:54

We gave them money and I bought them stocking fillers. They don't have a lot of spare cash I know but I can't get over the fact that they thought it was Ok to leave me out...and DH s reaction is even worse..if that was me I'd be apologising on their behalf.

Tanfastic Fri 27-Dec-13 22:55:03

What do they normally do?

We always buy for my FIL's lady friend of 15 years, even though they don't live together. I think it's a but odd but I suppose its not if its the norm for them.

TheOnlySevenSleighbells Fri 27-Dec-13 22:55:36

YANBU. You can buy a nice box of chocs or a bottle of wine for well under a tenner. Do they usually buy you a gift?

VeryExasperated Fri 27-Dec-13 22:56:51

YANBU They are old enough to be more sensitive and considerate. Your DH may just not have taken it in. I don't think men notice presents really. The girls don't need a lot of spare cash to make some effort. But am feeling very raw myself at DSC's attitudes, so am maybe not the best person to comment!

Xmasbaby11 Fri 27-Dec-13 22:58:25

They phoned and said they loved you. That is far more important than a present. I wouldn't read anything into the lack of present.

Primadonnagirl Fri 27-Dec-13 22:58:28

I've always got a present before...Dhs present was something personalised so obvs not for both of us...I sound horribly materialistic I know, but I'm just fphurt and suprised..do I say anything to Dh or do I just let it go?!

TBH I think they should have at least bought you some wine or chocolates to say thank you for cooking let alone anything else!

But as others have said -what did they bring your DH? Do they normally give you something?

Primadonnagirl Fri 27-Dec-13 23:01:58

They got him a personified mug and a diary relevant to his hobby..so something fairly cheap but thoughtful

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