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To ask you to help my sister and I plan an epic proposal to her DP?

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ExcitedEmmy · 22/11/2013 15:09

My sister and her DP have been together for 6 years. He has two daughters aged 7 and 8 and she has a 7 year son plus they have a three year old son and one year old daughter together. They have loads of contact with his children and are sickeningly happy, to be honest. They have spoken about marriage and agree its going to be in their future but her DP is shy about proposing in front of anyone. However, he does like positive attention - just not instigating it (if that makes any sense.) My Dsis wants to plan a surprise proposal. For those of you who hate these things, please stop reading now rather than wasting your time commenting negatively.

Some ideas she/we have had are:

Planning a family photoshoot and having the children hold props reading out 'will you marry me?' Which he doesn't see until the photo

Her hiring a screen at the local cinema - it's really small and so inexpensive. She takes him out for a date (they never go out but have been meaning to for ages) and then the film is interrupted by a photo slide show with music and captions of their lives together so far. At the end it says:'will you marry me?' And when the lights go up it turns out their family/friends/kids have sneaked in and they then have an engagement party.

Opinions on these ideas and any other ideas would be Great please. I know not many women propose and some people don't agree with it, but thought I might get some great ideas here.

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Jewels234 · 22/11/2013 15:28

That's so romantic. My favourite proposal of all time is called 'Isaac's live lip dub proposal' on You Tube. It makes me cry hysterically every time :) Look it up!

I love the cinema idea most :)

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ExcitedEmmy · 22/11/2013 15:33

Ooh will have a look now, thank you Smile

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Pobblewhohasnotoes · 22/11/2013 15:38

I was just wondering, why does he have to propse in front of anyone? My DH didn't, it was just me and him!

I like the photo idea, if he's shy what would he really think of the date idea?

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ExcitedEmmy · 22/11/2013 15:45

Because her DP would feel very special knowing my sister,who's also shy, had gone to so much trouble for him and would love the kids and family being involved

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ExcitedEmmy · 22/11/2013 15:45

Jewels - love that video! They're addictive...

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Edendance · 22/11/2013 15:53

I love the cinema idea personally... But will it just be family and friends in there too? Won't he notice??

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MamaPingu · 22/11/2013 15:54

Bump!

I loved your ideas Smile
I like the cinema one!!

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ExcitedEmmy · 22/11/2013 15:58

Edendance - he isn't the most observant, he'd just be chuffed to have my sister to himself I think. If they sat near the front then the friends and family could sneak in as the photos/videos begin or could have some sat in there already and he probably wouldn't notice as it'd be dark. Only concern is how to get everyone there without telling what she's planning in advance

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squoosh · 22/11/2013 16:14

I love the idea of a woman proposing rather than waiting wistfully to be proposed to.

I'm not a fan however of big public proposals. You can't move these days for flash mob proposals.

But I hope she thinks up something that they both love, and that he says 'yes' of course! Grin

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RobinSparkles · 22/11/2013 16:19

The cinema sounds like a good idea. If it's already dark in there he might not notice that the people in the seats are family and friends. You could always tell them all to wear baseball caps :o.

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purplewithred · 22/11/2013 16:22

ooh that cinema one, and film it and put it on youtube please!

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MrsOakenshield · 22/11/2013 16:26

cinema.

Is she absolutely 100% certain he'll say yes, because if she's going to involve the children there can't be any doubt!

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Edendance · 22/11/2013 16:26

Then it sounds great! I love that idea! :-)

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SirChenjin · 22/11/2013 16:27

Love the cinema idea, but please don't put it on youtube - the world really, really does not need another public proposal!

Not trying to put a dampener on things, but will he definitely, definitely say yes?

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Retroformica · 22/11/2013 16:37

On youtube there are a couple of amazing proposals where lots of friends and family mouth the words to a favourite pop song and walk around/dance slightly in an arranged sort of way.

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DontLetTheMugglesGetYouDown · 22/11/2013 16:37

Some right killjoys on this thread, this exactly what the world needs! I'd rather watch something like that than all the bad news we get subjected to.

I love the cinema idea, but then I also love the photo shoot idea

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squoosh · 22/11/2013 16:38

'On youtube there are a couple of amazing proposals where lots of friends and family mouth the words to a favourite pop song and walk around/dance slightly in an arranged sort of way.'

They make me clench my bum cheeks in absolute embarrassment! I'm not American enough for all that public tomfoolery.

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Hogwash · 22/11/2013 16:40

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SirChenjin · 22/11/2013 16:41

No - the world does not need to see another 'look at usssssss, loooooooook" public proposal. Really, honestly, done to death now.

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JustAWaterForMePlease · 22/11/2013 16:46

My friends took part in a flashmob the other day, organised by a man for his girlfriend.

They all did the dance, she was standing filming it not realising it was for her, then suddenly he was there with signs like on Love Actually. You could see her (and the entire crowd) waiting for the proposal...and it never came! He just told her how much he loved her...why would you bother?

(Sorry, not really relevant. But tell her not to do that.)

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clarinetV2 · 22/11/2013 16:53

Thanks, Hogwash, for the link. It's absolutely mind-blowingly indescribably gorgeous. Loving the dancing Jews!

But the cinema hire thing sounds a pretty close second. And if he's on the shy side (even if he likes attention) the darkness and intimacy of a cinema might be rather a good idea. I'm afraid I don't have any creative ideas to offer, but I can see the cinema set-up working. And I don't have any problem whatsoever with the idea of women proposing. Why on earth should that be a problem in the 21st century?

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SirChenjin · 22/11/2013 16:55

[[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=22ec8o7p2bI Be very, very careful!!!]

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clarinetV2 · 22/11/2013 16:56

Oh, and I think the people saying 'the world doesn't need another public proposal' are missing the point. Just because it's been done by others doesn't make it less special to the recipient. Why should it? And if they want to put it on YouTube, that's their business and entirely their decision (I'd hate it myself, but then no-one's likely to make me a public proposal Wink). No-one has to watch it who doesn't want to.

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SirChenjin · 22/11/2013 16:56

Try again Grin

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squoosh · 22/11/2013 16:58

Hmmmmm, to me public proposals often seem to be more about the proposer than the proposee, and I'm suspicious that some are done just to become an internet sensation.

This is my favourite public proposal

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