to expect clean sheets if invited to stay?

[baggyoldcow]

How would you handle this?
You are invited by a friend to stay at their house, "please stay, please stay, we've plenty of room etc, etc". That's very kind of them, of course. So you go, and then they put you in the spare bedroom where the bed has clearly been slept in by someone else and the sheets not changed.
This has happened to us a couple of times (not with the same hosts). I find it very odd as I would never invite someone to stay if I didn't have the time or energy or inclination to offer them a clean bed!
Is it unreasonable to feel put out by this, given they are putting us up?
Is it unreasonable to say something? (Any suggestions as to what?)
Is it unreasonable to wash the sheets oneself while hosts are out?!

[SharpLily]

That's manky. Sheets MUST be clean.

[StealthPolarBear]

Urgh

[SirChenjin]

YANBU - tha bare minimum is washed the sheets, fresh towels and a clean loo if you have visitors to stay, surely??

[RevengeWiggle]

Clean sheets are a must, why wouldn't you change the sheets? Takes about 5 minutes.

[eurochick]

That's manky!

Our spare room is in constant use at the moment as we have frequent weekend guests and BIL is staying with us in the week while he finds a house closer to his new job. It's a bit like running a B&B with 2-3 extra loads of sheet and towels per week, but there is no way I would have it otherwise!

[EverybodysStressyEyed]

You strip the bed and make a joke about them being busy so youve helped out and where can you find the clean sheets

It's rank and they are bad hosts!

This has only happened to me once but i did speak uo and ask for clean sheets

[AngelsLieToKeepControl]

I had worse. I stayed at a family members and was expected to sleep in a bed where someone had clearly started their period and when I mentioned it I was told 'it's only a bit of blood, sleep on the other side'.

Sadly that wasn't the most disgusting thing I encountered that weekend, I've never been back to visit.

[RevengeWiggle]

Oh my gosh angels that is vile.

[baggyoldcow]

It's unbelievable, isn't it? I mean if you can't be arsed to change the sheets why invite people?

Angels that is appalling.

[Trills]

YANBU at all.

[HeirToTheIronThrone]

Hmm. I will admit that, if the spare bed has only been slept in for one night by one person - my DM for example - and there is someone else coming to stay soon after, I do tend to air and smooth it out and remake it... But anything other than the 1 and 1 policy and I would always change the sheets!

[areyoutheregoditsmemargaret]

I'm the laziest housekeeper in the world, or thought I was until this. But even I would change sheets/out clean towels out etc.

Angel, what else did you encounter??

[Crowler]

That's so gross. Sleeping is an intimate kind of thing. I do not want to be in a bed where anyone has been. Gross.

[Trills]

It also depends on the people, their relationship to one another, and how much you think they would care.

If my mum had slept in a bed for one night, and then my brother was coming to stay, that might be OK.

If my brother had slept in a bed for one night, and then someone unrelated was coming to stay, I would definitely change the sheets.

[MintyChops]

So lazy and thoughtless/dirty.

Angels that is dreadful

[EverybodysStressyEyed]

My bil and sil had slept in the bed before us and mil thought it would be ok as they arefamily. Er, no thanks. Especially as they were going throught their 'at it like rabbits' phase. Bleurgh

[Bumpsadaisie]

yanbu. This is horrid!

Perhaps I wouldn't mind if it were my sister's bed and she told me she'd only slept in it a couple of times. But otherwise NO!

[AngelsLieToKeepControl]

areyou I warn you, it is disgusting.

They had a large breed dog, and no garden, they had a room in the house where the dog would go to shit, apparently they just ripped the carpet up every few months and replaced it. I went to put dishes in the dishwasher and it was fill of mouldy plates, last but not least I went to top up their electric meter, when I opened the cupboard a swarm of flies flew out, there was a decomposed rat or mouse in there. It must have been in there for weeks, if not longer.

[MoreGin]

Ewww god no. Imagine the dribble on the pillow for starters.

[Crowler]

Angels! This house needs to be condemned! I hope you don't go back.

[Crowler]

MoreGin - I'm feeling a bit delicate today so please no more of that. :-)

[PosyNarker]

To be honest, I'd just say 'where are your sheets, I'll change the bed' as though I thought they just hadn't got round to it.

[RevengeWiggle]

angels why did you stay? I would have left after one of those discoveries!

[areyoutheregoditsmemargaret]

Oh good lord, angels! So the bloody sheets were nothing in the scheme of things

[Rockinhippy]

YADNBU, i wouldnt dream of doing this, your friends are skanks - yuk