I do not let my children visit Mil as BiL also lives there, BiL is on the Sex offenders register for having indecent images of children on his computer.
DH and MiL believe that BiL is innocent and was wrongly convicted (he says he was forced into a guilty plea) therefore I dont feel they would adequately safeguard my dc's as they truly dont think he is a risk. I find him sinister and tbh he scares me.
MiL hates me now as she feels I am disloyal for not standing by her son (BiL), we speak and exchange pleasantries when we see each other but there is no closeness anymore. Until the guilty plea I gave him the benefit of the doubt and since, I have invited MiL for meals, Xmas last year etc but she politely declines, the only time dc's see their gm is when DH takes them round if he knows BiL is out (he doesnt agree with me but respects my wishes, we also told the sw who was dealing with the case that they wouldnt be having contact with BiL, if they did then a risk assessment would have needed to be undertaken)
Tbh, I'm not arsed anymore that they dont see her, it upsets Dh though. she could visit them here or take them out any time but doesnt/wont presumably out of principle.
DH is torn, he loves all of us but believes his twatting brother is innocent, he respects how I feel but it still causes almighty rows.
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to not reinforce dc's relationship with MIL?
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elliegoulding · 21/11/2013 17:36
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