Sorry for typos etc, am on phone
5 weeks ago I had a baby, beautiful DD, first born for both grandparents and prior to having her, DH and I moved in with my parents, 200 miles from ILs where we have lived in the same city as them for 12 years and have previously posted about how to deal with their lack of boundaries and got some very helpful advice from mums netters and since addressing these issues, we've all got on fabulously and there have been no issues.
DH works away, 4 weeks at a time so when he returned, we decided to visit his parents, naturally, so we could spend time with them and they could see DD (IL's have been to visit and stay with me while DH has been away btw). During our visit, IL's decided to act like a pair of gobshites.
First incident, FIL kept telling everyone I wouldn't let him take DD out for a walk. I politely said no because DD has been out all day and had literally just shit her brains out. Every time DH left the room, he kept making references to 'taking DD away' to ther holiday home abroad, family members' abroad, on a cruise etc while totally ignoring the fact I made a joke saying 'I'm a first time mum and the thought of her vein away is making me very anxious'. As soon as DH returned, no mention of taking DD abroad.
On Friday, DH arranged to meet a friend for drinks and I was meeting another friend for coffee as I'm breast feeding. Although I wasn't keen, mil was v keen to spend time with her as she had been working all week so I went out and left DD for an hour. When I returned, I really wanted to hold DD as I'd not left her before and she needed feeding. Mil was holding DD and basically, refused to give her to me. Initially she said 'your hands are cold, she's sleeping, I don't want to disturb her'. Then I basically said, give me my baby and he said 'No. I don't want to' and basically didn't hand her over for another half an hour when DD was hungry and soaking wet.
I initially decided not to tell DH due to his dads elaborate bull shitting skills and believing I'm quite hormonal still (I don't deny this!) but I blurted it out and started crying.
I absolutely fucking livid that they have behaved like this but a tiny bit of me is wondering if I am being hormonal????
Advice please wise ones, AIBU?
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Warning - long, ILs related and I am very hormonal!
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Babycino81 · 17/11/2013 20:00
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