to want my phone back

(143 Posts)
ScornedWoman Thu 14-Nov-13 20:11:06

My ndn goes through phases of using my phone a lot.
The last few days it's been about 10x a day. They usually take it home with them as " it's a private call." I let them, as I don't want my DC overhearing their dramas/drug deals etc.
She took it at about 5pm yesterday, then asked for it again an hour later. I reminded her that she already had it. It hasn't come back yet.
They're definitely still alive, as they were banging about and shouting until 3am, and I've heard them on and off all evening.
The neighbor was drunk/stoned, as usual, and blood splattered (not so usual) yesterday.
My friend thinks I should get it back and only let them use it in genuine emergencies. I dont really know how to stop them asking, now that they know it works at their house. Also, their lives are a never ending succession of emergencies. Yesterday was, apparently, a sword attack.
I'm wondering if they've just forgotten, or whether they're still using it.
Am I being petty wanting my phone back?

kinkyfuckery Thu 14-Nov-13 20:12:21

WTF?

You think your neighbour was involved in a sword attack and you're wondering how to stop her asking to borrow your phone?

ScornedWoman Thu 14-Nov-13 20:15:49

She said her partner's brother had attacked him with a sword, but that he wasn't hurt badly enough to need medical attention.

YoniMitchell Thu 14-Nov-13 20:20:34

Is this for real? They probably are could be using that phone, traceable to you I assume, to do set up all sorts of dodgy stuff. Are you mad?

mousmous Thu 14-Nov-13 20:21:26

just don't give them the phone at all. they could buy their own.
and call the police about the drug dealing and/or domestic violence.

Heartbrokenmum73 Thu 14-Nov-13 20:23:50

hmm and confused

LifeofPo Thu 14-Nov-13 20:25:03

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ilovesooty Thu 14-Nov-13 20:25:57

Good grief. Why are you even lending them your phone or offering the use of it?

ScornedWoman Thu 14-Nov-13 20:26:33

The police, drug services, social services are well aware of them.
That's my dilemma - they could be running up a massive bill phoning drug dealers on mobiles, or they could have been genuinely scared to be without a phone last night.

OvaryAction Thu 14-Nov-13 20:27:30

Unplug the phone dock at the wall

ScornedWoman Thu 14-Nov-13 20:29:06

I lend them it because they ask. How do you say "sorry you've just been involved in a sword attack, but I'm fed up with you knocking my door for stuff"?

ButtonBoo Thu 14-Nov-13 20:31:13

Seriously now? Come on. WTF?

What Kinky said.

kinkyfuckery Thu 14-Nov-13 20:31:31

Just say NO!

YoniMitchell Thu 14-Nov-13 20:31:51

If it's difficult to just say no, how about 'it's broken/not working' followed by a suggestion that they get a cheap payg phone themselves?

Just because someone asks to borrow something, doesn't mean you have to day yes.

SandyDilbert Thu 14-Nov-13 20:33:39

is this a mobile or landline - if the latter can you unplug at the wall. Your bill could run into hundreds.

BoJolly Thu 14-Nov-13 20:33:48

Tell them you keep getting weird interference on your phone and you think the police are tapping it.

ScornedWoman Thu 14-Nov-13 20:33:59

Ah, didn't think of switching it off, Ovary. My son has just unplugged it.

getmeoutofthismadhouse Thu 14-Nov-13 20:34:27

Buy a plug in the wall phone . No way would I allow someone to go off with my phone , the bills could be huge !

SandyDilbert Thu 14-Nov-13 20:34:59

and what if someone tries to ring you and they answer on your behalf?

CrappyDiem Thu 14-Nov-13 20:37:07

wha?????? confused

do people really live like this?

ScornedWoman Thu 14-Nov-13 20:39:59

It's a landline.
If it were a serious attack, he'd have bled to death by now, but I heard him bollocking her son a little while ago.

RedLondonBus Thu 14-Nov-13 20:42:27

How can you trust people like that with your phone?? They might be ringing mobiles/premium numbers.... You won't know til you get the bill

FannyFifer Thu 14-Nov-13 20:42:40

WTAF. Just unplug it..

YoniMitchell Thu 14-Nov-13 20:43:15

Lol @ 'non-serious sword attack'

ScornedWoman Thu 14-Nov-13 20:43:21

I let them take it a) because I don't want my children to hear the shouting/crying etc and b) because they smell, so I don't want them in my house!

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