Brushing hair in public places? The stuff on our heads?

(57 Posts)
Feminine Thu 14-Nov-13 14:59:04

Is it that my Mother just annoying me? or is it bad manners to bring out ones hair-brush and give it a good going over...whipping it in to a fluffy ball-no matter where you are?

The cafe,

The street?

The bus?

This is a lady who prides herself on good manners. When she does this though, she seems to have no respect for those sitting behind/around her?

I am positive she would have told me not to do it when I was younger confused

I think it should be done in the powder -room wink

Lazysuzanne Fri 15-Nov-13 13:56:54

SirChen, I think Thants means that, being a vegetarian, she may find it unpleasant if people eat meat in a public place but she doesnt object because to do so would be unreasonable (?)

Speaking via my own vegetarian identity it has never occurred to me that I might object to people eating meat (I might think it a bit much if they were slaughtering and butchering right next to me)

SirChenjin Fri 15-Nov-13 13:49:51

Thants - given that there are plenty on here who do see it as antisocial, so you'll just need to accept that whilst some people don't mind others do. Maybe it's just something to bear in mind next time you're doing it - and maybe you could make sure that there's no-one in your immediate vicinity who might mind?

Don't veggies eat on trains too down your way? They do up here.. confused

squoosh Fri 15-Nov-13 13:40:07

I wouldn't brush my hair in a café/restaurant etc. as that's a bit minging, but have no problem with giving my hair a quick brush on the street for example, don't see how two stray hairs of mine can be more objectionable than car fumes for example. I was at the train station this morning and the wind had made my hair like a whin bush so I gave it a quick whoosh and all was well again on my bonce. I don't stand there like a mermaid dreamily combing my hair.

Thants Fri 15-Nov-13 13:32:34

Nope it's entirely routine maintenance. And you can do it very discretely. My work would not be happy if I spent so long in the toilets redoing my hair. People eat on trains and I'm veggie I don't wanna be near that but I don't say it's anti social cos it's not!

Lazysuzanne Fri 15-Nov-13 12:25:17

This is not just routine maintenance, there's much flicking and tossing and displaying of the locks going on

Lazysuzanne Fri 15-Nov-13 12:22:50

I've seen women doing this in the gym, making a big performance of putting their hair up whilst walking on the treadmill.
The message seemed to be 'look at my gorgeous long hair, I'm so much better than you with your inferior short hair'

Extravagant public personal grooming is surely done to draw attention to one's appearance ?

I don't understand why you would. Fine in the ladies though.

The thing that really pisses me off though is deoderant spraying at your desk...just why? There are a few repeat offenders who march back in on a lunchtime, past the toilets and then start spraying their pits whilst others are eating. Grim!

CuttedUpPear Fri 15-Nov-13 11:54:21

My mother used to be up in arms at us carrying around combs in our back pockets to fluff up our 80's flicks old gimmer

She was wont to say 'Would you wash your ARMPITS in the street??"
Apparently it was no better than that.

KerwhizzedMyself Fri 15-Nov-13 11:48:29

You can have both. Whenever I've had to look professional for work and been caught in bad weather, I've never needed to shed hair all over the person sitting next to me. There's plenty of places where you aren't less than a foot away from another person where you can fiddle with yourself.

AgathaF Fri 15-Nov-13 11:44:21

You can though Thants. You should get up early enough in the morning to sort your hair out, and I would think all work places have a toilet that can be used for hairbrushing. There's just no need to do it on public transport/in the cafe/in the lift.

Thants Fri 15-Nov-13 11:10:29

Bad Weather, time restrictions and the need to be smart for work are the reasons people need to do their hair on public transport.
There was another recent thread about should it matter what we look like a professional setting. Most posters said it should matter a lot! Therefore your gonna get people hair brushing on public transport. You can't have both!

UriGeller Fri 15-Nov-13 10:10:30

She's obviously decided she doesn't give a fuck!

Can't wait til I get to that stage grin

KerwhizzedMyself Fri 15-Nov-13 10:08:02

Just because people don't ask people to stop, doesn't make it not anti social. I think it's rank and when you can see the hair (and dandruff) falling from the persons head and sometimes land on you, it's disgusting. I wouldn't ask someone to stop though because I'm wary of asking the wrong person and getting a punch for my trouble. I just move so the gross person probably continues in a little bubble of "yay it's okay to put my body sheddings on other people".

AgathaF Fri 15-Nov-13 08:25:26

Yuck. I wouldn't like that at all. Common sense tells you that you will get stray hairs floating around and landing on other people. Worse if you have dandruff.

Not surewhy people need to really. Can't they just sort it out in the morning at home then leave it alone for the rest of the day? Wouldn't occur to me to take a brush out with me.

Thants Fri 15-Nov-13 08:07:32

If they hadn't even thought about it then obviously it doesn't bother them! Unless someone had seriously bad dandruff or hadn't brushed their hair in a long time it would not cause a mess. You see people get ready all the time on public transport by doing their hair or makeup and I've never seen anyone tut, stare or ask them not to. Anti social activities usually get called up and this doesn't ergo it isn't anti social. I can't see why this bothers you so much.

nooka Fri 15-Nov-13 08:07:15

I really don't like people putting on eye make up anywhere near me because they are poking around at their eyes which makes me feel really uncomfortable. Brushing hair I don't really care about unless they are poking me with their brush. I've never seen hair or skin floating around in any great volume.

SirChenjin Fri 15-Nov-13 07:55:37

No, most people think it's either not fine/hadn't thought about it/don't own a brush. The ones who think it's totally fine anywhere are in the minority.

Thants Fri 15-Nov-13 06:35:43

But as we have seen on this thread sirchenjin more people think it's fine so it isn't anti social!
I may personally not like people smoking in public but that doesn't make it anti social. Just my personal taste. Same with this.

Crowler Fri 15-Nov-13 06:35:08

I can't imagine brushing my hair in close quarters with someone sitting in proximity. Isn't this kind of attention-seeking behavior?

SpecialAgentFreyPie Fri 15-Nov-13 06:17:58

I wouldn't do it anywhere food is served but I used to do it in public often, it was an anxiety release for me.

That's why I always have my hair braided now!

EmmaBemma Fri 15-Nov-13 06:12:05

I've never needed to brush my hair in public - even when it was long, I brushed it once, in the morning, before I left the house, and that was it for the day. Now it's cropped short I don't even own a brush. That said, I was amazed the first time I saw a thread about this - had no idea that public hair-brushing was such a faux-pas! Doesn't bother me in the slightest. Everyone merrily goes round shedding skin cells and probably tiny bits of snot and saliva and phlegm and whatever else anyway.

lesson I've seen women doing their makeup on a train/bus 'up north' why do you think it's OK in London but not the north? I've put my lippy on on a train myself.

I would brush my hair in public if I was outside, not in a crowd or on a bus or anywhere it's going to leave stray hairs somewhere annoying. It's a bit disgusting to be shedding hair all over people.

lessonsintightropes Fri 15-Nov-13 00:02:55

Mmmm, love the fact MN is anonymous. I do my face on the train in the morning but I'm usually in an empty carriage where no one can be upset. And occasionally I brush my hair too but not often. My rules are never deodorant, nail clipping, eyebrow plucking, but make up is okay if you're not within a few feet of someone else. I do live in London and think there are slightly different standards down here (wouldn't do this up north). Ready for a flaming!

jellyboatsandpirates Thu 14-Nov-13 23:44:53

What the hell's wrong with brushing your hair?! confused Picking your nose, yes. Loud snorts into a hanky followed by a loud "A WHOOOSHOO" sneeze into the air to be wafted about, yes. Could see your point.
Were they doing it around food? If so, I can see your point. If not, YABU.

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