Didn't know whether to put this here on in relationships so I am sorry in advance if it's wrong.
Name change for obvious reasons.
Brief history: Married 15 years, have kids together. Found out DH was having emotional affair which ended 18 months ago. He changed jobs and since then has done everything to try and put things right. BUT. His old workplace have asked him to go back up there to work for a week. It is where he met HER, but she isn't there. But it is the place where he betrayed me. He went up there last christmas too, and promised that he wouldn't go there again and that he told them he wouldn't. Fast forward to 2 weeks ago and it crops up again. I am more upset that he has broken a promise on something that is a big deal in our relationship. He hasn't been willing to compromise about it, been selfish saying that I keep him a prisoner (erm...no I haven't stopped him doing ANYTHING which all things considered I think is pretty reasonable!) just this one thing I don't want him to do and I think he is being a bit selfish. This past year hasn't been easy. We have had a lot of added stresses including a miscarriage (unplanned pregnancy but still upsetting) and a sick child and other close family member. He said he doesn't remember even promising me Yes it's extra money, yadda yadda but I really don't care. That place is where he betrayed me in the first place and him going back there feels like a kick in the guts....
I just don't know what to do. It feels like the straw that broke the camels back. My mum said to get him to sign something to say that he won't go there again, but I shouldn't have to do that??
Day to day things have been ok but he is always promising things, ok, little things, like 'we will go to the cinema next week....I promise we will make X night our night and I will cook' etc...but he never does
I love him to bits, but I am fed up of just feeling constantly let down by him.
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WantToFeelBetter · 11/11/2013 12:01
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