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AIBU to be irritated at dp's weird twisting of conversations?

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InsultingBadger · 27/10/2013 00:20

So the conversation went..

Me - 'I really must stop going to bed so late'
Dp - 'Well go to bed earlier then!'
Me - 'well yes, that is what I meant'
Dp - 'how am I supposed to know, you didn't say that!'
Me -'I thought it was fairly self explanatory that to avoid a late night I would have an early night...'
Dp -'you always twist everything!'

Am I being an idiot or was that just odd?

Just for the record I know this is trivial, I love him really, I think i did come across ever so slightly sarcastically at the end and I should be asleep...

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SoleSorceress · 27/10/2013 00:23

I cannot see any ywisting at all

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InsultingBadger · 27/10/2013 00:25

Oh Shock Really? He got quite annoyed that I hadn't spelled out what I meant when I thought by saying i need to stop going to bed late automatically implied I need to go to bed early..

Oh forget it, I need to go to sleep!

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Thatisall · 27/10/2013 00:27
Hmm
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InsultingBadger · 27/10/2013 00:29
Hmm
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HildaOgden · 27/10/2013 00:34

Get some sleep,you're both snappy with tiredness.

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ToffeeWhirl · 27/10/2013 00:34

I can see what you meant, Insulting. You were clearly implying that you needed to go to bed earlier and didn't need him to spell it out for you!

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InsultingBadger · 27/10/2013 00:34

Agreed!

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ToffeeWhirl · 27/10/2013 00:35

But clearly no need to LTB Wink.

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InsultingBadger · 27/10/2013 00:35

Thanks Toffee Smile
Trivial but irritating...

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ToffeeWhirl · 27/10/2013 00:37

Exactly. Smile

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Trills · 27/10/2013 00:37

That's not twisting, that's making conversation.

Me - 'I really must stop going to bed so late' (subtext: I should go to bed earler)
Dp - 'Well go to bed earlier then!' (subtext: so what's stopping you going to bed earlier?)

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InsultingBadger · 27/10/2013 00:44

Yes Trills, I suppose you're right. Hadn't looked at it like that. I do often get on the defensive as dp can be fairly critical

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lisianthus · 27/10/2013 06:02

I don't know about twisting your words, but I'd get pretty annoyed if someone just took everything I said (assuming from what you said that this is a pretty common occurrence) rephrased it, then sold it back to me as the solution to my problem. I'm afraid I would respond with a facepalm and an amazed "Heavens! Why didn't I think of that!"

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InsultingBadger · 27/10/2013 08:56

Lisianthus - that's exactly what he does!! But I forgive him for now as he has left me in bed and got up with dd Smile

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InsultingBadger · 27/10/2013 08:59

Eg 'ouch I've hurt my finger'
Dp - 'well be careful then'

Do you think maybe I was?!

Me -'I need some milk'
'Well go to the shop then!' Er duh, ya think!

Very minor but very tedious!

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DreaduCated · 27/10/2013 09:08

I used to have an ex like this. It was very tedious.

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DoYourKegels · 27/10/2013 19:54

The other day I was explaining why I was upset about the fact my DB and SIL gets loads of support and I don't. I listed out all the things they have and then ended with, 'And it just sucks!' and cried. Blush.

My H helpfully said, "No, it doesn't suck. It doesn't suck for them. It just sucks for you that you don't have it.'

Um...? OF COURSE THAT IS WHAT I MEANT YOU DUMBASS!

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PhallicGiraffe · 27/10/2013 20:01

You have to understand that he's not twisting your words, he is just being male. Men like it 'fix' things, he is offering a solution to your problem. Whereas you are just stating a fact, hoping to get some empathy. You won't get it, what you will get is advice.

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DreaduCated · 27/10/2013 20:02

I don't think you can call it advice. Advice is supposed to be helpful. And I don't buy into that 'just being male' stuff.

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HumphreyCobbler · 27/10/2013 20:04

this would drive me mad

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DoYourKegels · 27/10/2013 20:24

I understand my husband is extremely literal. I make allowances and concessions all the time.

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