To stay with my parents next week

(57 Posts)
FortyDoorsToNowhere Fri 25-Oct-13 23:58:18

Pil are taking DC on holiday, DH is working nights ( 6pm-6am) so for the first time ever I will be in my home alone.

I am so scared, but got no rational reasons why.

My parents have said if I feel that way to come home for the week.

I am in 2 mind as surely a 28 year old married women with 2 children should be able to sleep alone in her own house.

What would you do.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Sun 27-Oct-13 18:37:53

I love it, first time was weird but when DH goes away I go to bed early after watching whatever I want on TV especially all those crap programmes I feel silly watching when he is here, I eat what and when I feel like it, in front of the TV. If I wake up in the night I switch on the lamp and read. Its great. love coming home from work to a house as tidy as I left it. only my washing to do, bliss.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Sun 27-Oct-13 18:39:02

oh the lie ins, at weekends I get up, make coffee and toast then get back in bed and read until I fall asleep again. ahhhhh

Grumpywino Sun 27-Oct-13 18:42:11

Yabu, I have lived alone for ten years and love it. I refuse to give up that bit of independence and cannot understand what on earth is bothering you. Bliss is closing the front door on the rest of the world and cherishing my space.

teacher123 Sun 27-Oct-13 18:44:38

DH works nights every few weeks, I don't even notice really now! I don't get freaked out, but I won't watch scary things on the telly!

LittleRobots Sun 27-Oct-13 18:47:43

Oh yes! I gave up watching spooks!

Beautifulbabyboy Sun 27-Oct-13 19:49:15

Don't worry OP, I am a total and utter wimp. Aged 35 have spent grand total of 2 nights in a house on my own in whole life.... Currently moving from a terraced house to a detached house... which is increasing the fear factor in my eyes!! DH hates it that we can currently hear the neighbours on either side....I love it!!

TillyTotter1 Sun 27-Oct-13 19:56:49

Take it as an excuse to go for a night out with a friend, even just to catch a late film or a wee drink - by the time you get home you'll be so knackered you'll sleep straight away smile

FortyDoorsToNowhere Sun 27-Oct-13 20:11:07

I now feel lonely, missing DH and the DC.

This house is too quite, it's like a death eater has came and sucked all the life and soul out of this house.

gordyslovesheep Sun 27-Oct-13 20:17:31

then stick MTV on, pour another glass and do some nude dancing grin

FortyDoorsToNowhere Sun 27-Oct-13 20:20:09

lol. Thank god for MN

Beautifulbabyboy Sun 27-Oct-13 21:50:49

�������� Gordy.

whois Mon 28-Oct-13 00:41:01

Think it's a bit strange to be scared of your wok home, but if you'd be happier going to your parents then do that and have a nice holiday week!

smupcakes Mon 28-Oct-13 00:46:26

I really think you need to stay at home. I'm really surprised at all the posters who are afraid to be in their own homes alone.. You will be fine!smile

AnandaTimeIn Mon 28-Oct-13 01:15:05

Am a single mum (and he is 22 now, in and out all the time, he has his own key)....

No way do I ever feel afraid to be alone. Just lock the doors ;-)

Actually I love being on my own no crap exes or family to stress me out grin

nennypops Mon 28-Oct-13 07:43:47

Another one here who loves having the house to myself.

Chottie Mon 28-Oct-13 10:30:48

I would go home. I bet your mum can't wait for you to go home so she can spoil you! smile

scarevola Mon 28-Oct-13 10:46:18

I've lived on my own, and DH works away a lot. Before DC, it never bothered me.

And being alone doesn't exactly bother me now. But there was one night when all DC had sleepovers and DH away, and it was seriously weird to be home alone overnight again for the first time since DC1 was born. Just too quiet. But then they all went away for a long weekend, and I loved the tranquility.

I think you get used to a certain level of other occupants.

FortyDoorsToNowhere Mon 28-Oct-13 20:15:17

Today has been weird.

Got out of bed around 9ish a hot cup of coffee, read, had lamb steaks ( nobody likes lamb in this house) read a bit more in a hot bubbly bath all to myself. MN a bit, Facebook, watched a film.

I think I am starting to enjoy this.

IamInvisible Mon 28-Oct-13 20:21:33

I like having the house to myself, especially the bed.

DH has been gone for 6 weeks on Wednesday, he will be back in January. I do have the DSes at home (16&18) but they are often out. I have settled in to a nice little routine now. I do miss DH like crazy, don't get me wrong, but I am not scared about being on my own.

Isthisstormcomingorwhat Tue 29-Oct-13 17:01:27

I used to be really scared of being home alone. I wasn't so bad in our old small flat in London, think I found it comforting that I could hear the neighbours and there were always people passing by on the street. However the we moved to our current house (detached and rural location) and I hated it when DP was away.

Shortly after we moved, DP's job changed meaning he was away 3/4 nights per week. At first I used to be terrified and struggled to sleep, but gradually I got better. I wouldn't say I enjoy being home alone but I got to the point where I just got on with it and wasn't living in fear.

My tips are:

- I reminded myself my house IS secure, good doors and windows and we have an alarm with panic buttons next to my bed

- keep your mind occupied - when I wasn't busy my mind would play tricks on me. Do housework, watch TV, or set yourself some projects such as sorting out your wardrobe, do exercise videos

- phone friends

-focus on all the positives of having the house to yourself

Good luck

everlong Tue 29-Oct-13 19:10:35

Lamb for breakfast?!?

everlong Tue 29-Oct-13 19:12:44

I am a bit of a wimp OP too.
I have to go around checking everywhere is locked about 27 times
I find a large G and T helps before bed.

kali110 Tue 29-Oct-13 19:22:50

Yanbu. Iv always hated being in house alone at night

Hulababy Tue 29-Oct-13 19:29:41

I'm a wuss when I have to stay at home on my own at night, and only mildly better when I have DD for company. But we were burgled whilst we were in bed not that long ago - so that has made things far worse, even though I know that we have bought and had fitted much better locks and security, etc these dayys.

thegreylady Tue 29-Oct-13 19:41:38

I'd be scared too but I would make myself do it I think.I really hate being alone in the house at night.I read until I am so tired I can't keep my eyes open.I have a nightlight outside my room and the mobile close to my hand.

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