To be so fucking sick of cooking food that my DS's don't eat...

(87 Posts)
GoofyIsACow Wed 23-Oct-13 17:55:34

Aaaaaaarrrrrrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhh

Is all

angry

GoofyIsACow Thu 24-Oct-13 21:42:44

BMW I think you just joined the general concensus of the whole thread so if you are an old fart so is everyone else on here! grin

GoofyIsACow Thu 24-Oct-13 21:41:50

Well i didnt make curry tonight because i forgot that Ds1 was at a birthday party for his tea and DT's were at DM's

Curry tomorrow, 20 mins on the table then taken away.

No fuss no stress no worries no eating i bet grin

Maybe there should be a support group for us to join at teatimes for help and virtual brow mopping! This could be it!

Foxy800 Thu 24-Oct-13 21:36:03

I am same as you BMW6, my daughter is a very fussy eater. I cook for her but if she doesnt eat it she goes without and will have no pudding.

It is very hard work but she is now eating some foods she wouldnt eat before.

BMW6 Thu 24-Oct-13 20:33:16

Oh dear, am going to out myself as an old fart....... dinner put before us, that's your lot.Eat or be hungry.

On the other hand, I loathe beetroot and always have. so Mum never put any on my plate. Another sis loathed cabbage, so that was never put on her plate.

But, the basic meal was what it was. Nothing else was cooked as a substitute. Everyone ate at the table, at the same time.

We were poor as mice by today's standards, but not malnorished.
But certainly were not "accommodated" when it came to meals.

TBH I think my parents were right.

Mattissy Thu 24-Oct-13 19:36:21

Catsrus, reverse psychology usually works in this house too, "you won't like this but I suppose you could try some"

Tantrums, you are right, my ds is 12 and his appetite is ramping up and up, some days I wonder how I'll fill him and he's as thin as a rake!

YANBU. It's soul destroying. I'm just cooking a nice pasta bake up. DD will splatter it all over herself, but eat some of it. I will eat mine. DW sit upstairs on her phone as she has already eaten while the kids were in school. DS will look at it, and if it is not complete crap then he will leave it and ask for "something else to eat. Because the thing is, I didn't like that food." angry

Sometimes I think I might as well just put a pile of dog cap on his plate, it would probably have more nutritional value than the sausage and chips he'll be demanding (which he will not get).

catsrus Thu 24-Oct-13 17:48:35

Reverse psychology worked with mine - i'd add something different to my plate - red cabbage, whatever and when they asked say 'it's a bit of a grown up taste - you wont like it' when they insisted they would I'd say "ok, you can have a taste, and if you like it I'll make some for you next time" nine times out of ten they would say they did like it. By the time they were teenagers they were often shocked at how limited some of their friends diets were

My ds1, when he was 2 ate literally nothing but cheese and bread. And I do mean nothing else. For 6 months.

Now he is 14 I cannot stop the boy from eating. He had 4 bowls of pasta yesterday. Which was quite annoying because I wanted there to be leftovers.
An hour after that he had a bowl of cereal. Then a kit Kat. And a hot chocolate.

One day, you will be wishing they would just stop bloody well eating so there's actually food left in the cupboards when you get home.

DanielHellHoundMcSpaniel Thu 24-Oct-13 17:41:10

I did tuna and veg rice not omelette for tea. Put it down and have feigned indifference while I fed the baby. Its being consumed, one grain at a time hmm but it is going in. Its been 25 minutes and he's consumed about an eighth of the bowl. Do I just let him keep going forever til he puts his fork down again or stick to the half an hour?

stopgap Thu 24-Oct-13 17:15:36

I am praying that my 2.3-year-old DS doesn't go through this stage. We're deep in the midst of hitting/whining/clinging territory, and I will go spare if his good eating and sleeping habits go out the window. They won't, will they? Will they?!

valiumredhead Thu 24-Oct-13 16:46:52

Cue? I meant case

lifeinthefastlane1 Thu 24-Oct-13 16:33:59

shepherd pie finally eaten after a glimpse of the chocolate cake for pudding, I think mine is a lazy eater , she wanted feeding all the time and would go without if I didnt do it , I finally had enough and said do it yourself or starve, havent had to do it again , I also have a set amount of time to eat it, if its not done within 30 mins it goes in bin, then we have screaming abdabs until she falls asleep.
I am in the eat it or leave it camp too , and I do cook the things I know she will eat. but bloody hell shes such a faffer, she barely ever gets to have dessert as she never eats her tea.(and she doesnt care either , which says a lot as she is a total sweet tooth) but she stays for school lunch everyday and always eats the lot!!! (shes four).
Also have 2 grown dcs, who ate anything and everything so maybe its karma for being smug mum in the pastwink

valiumredhead Thu 24-Oct-13 16:08:55

OP in that cue then it is curry or nothing! grin

Sixtiesqueen Thu 24-Oct-13 15:53:04

What about when you eat out and you end up in some place that does frigging fish fingers because you know they will eat fishfingers.

We have been on holiday in London all week, surrounded by glorious places to eat (not to mention really interesting things to do, though we can't do them because we have the kids with us). We have found ourselves eating in places we really don't want to eat just to be able to feed the youngest.

Every restaurant ought to sign up to a kids' menu which comprises fishfingers and chips/spag bol or bangers and mash. Even Indian restaurants. Their trade would soar.

GoofyIsACow Thu 24-Oct-13 15:44:00

Actually curry is one of the things I have known all three to eat at some point! Whether they will partake this eve is anyones guess!

ColderThanAWitchsTitty Thu 24-Oct-13 15:30:03

Right there with you sister

<no bosom to hoike>

valiumredhead Thu 24-Oct-13 14:50:24

they are fussy and go back and forth on it

If that's the case and they have eaten something at least twice before then it would be take it or leave it in this house too. That's just attention seeking nonsense <harumpphh! Hoiks bosom>

wasabipeanut Thu 24-Oct-13 14:42:19

I sympathise. DS1 (6) is inclined to faffing with food and both he and DD (3) eat soooooo slowly. Mainly because they are too busy talking. DS2 is still at that lovely pre 2 year old phase where he basically eats everything. I avoid things they hate (only chicken and eggs in DS1's case) and have a take it or leave it approach.

I find its helpful to leave the room. I MN round the corner as their faffing annoys me and I don't want to turn mealtimes into a row. No anger or cajoling if they don't eat but no pudding/snacks etc. I'm actually really tight with snacks anyway - an apple two hours before a meal seems to really dent their appetites so I avoid where possible.

I often wish I had kids who are always claiming to be hungry. Mine never seem to be.

ColderThanAWitchsTitty Thu 24-Oct-13 14:30:47

OP doesn't know what they will eat day to day as they are fussy and go back and forth on it. Her best bet really is starve em till them eat. Unless she thinks there may be some special needs, kids will eat eventually, especially if it is something they have previously eaten

And they are only 2, so she has to start now with curry etc so it's a part of what they consider regular food. I get the impression that people think British children have inferior taste buds some times grin

(wonders if mumsnet India and and mumsnet Japan have parents moaning their children will only eat chips and chicken nuggets)

I'm a vegetarian and so are my kids though so I have to be really hardcore abut getting them to try new foods as a fussy vegetarian won't have any dinner invites... hmm

valiumredhead Thu 24-Oct-13 14:12:14

Arf @ controversial food grin

valiumredhead Thu 24-Oct-13 14:11:32

I wouldn't bother making my ds cauliflower cheese, he HATES it, really doesn't enjoy it at all. He will just about eat plain cauliflower though, so dh and I have cc and ds has it plain.

Crowler Thu 24-Oct-13 14:10:40

It makes me crazy with rage.

My oldest is like this. He'll faff about at dinner time, not eat anything, and re-enter the kitchen 45 minutes later and begin by "absentmindedly" picking up a tiny morsel from his plate that I've left there. Then, he inches his way to the fridge and "absentmindedly" eats a small amount of fruit. Then he inches his way to the pantry and "absentmindedly" takes a bag of potato chips.

It makes me feel like throwing him across the room sometimes. I don't really make controversial food; everything that I make, he has happily eaten at some point.

valiumredhead Thu 24-Oct-13 14:08:21

unless you know they will eat it

Did you not read that part of my post? grin

ColderThanAWitchsTitty Thu 24-Oct-13 14:05:18

wouldn't even bother cooking curry for kids that age OP unless you know they will eat it.

I'm pretty sure there are whole countries with kids that age eating curry

littlegem12 Thu 24-Oct-13 14:03:46

Colder thats so true re snack club playgroups.

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