AIBU to find it irritating my DH doesn't shower everyday.

(115 Posts)
bumpandkind Mon 14-Oct-13 08:39:51

My Dh can happily go three days or more at a time without washing. He admittedly never smells bad ( although his hair gets greasy) and he thinks it is a middle class obsession with cleanliness that he doesn't have to be a part of. I don't find it disgusting but it does wind me up.

LaQueenForADay Tue 15-Oct-13 11:40:56

Sal yes, yes...I had forgotten, dammit [reaches for phone, to call Gerard Butler's agent...]

PumpkinGuts Mon 14-Oct-13 20:03:41

If he doesn't smell and hasn't got knob cheese I can't see what your problem is?

I would feel gross and be stinky dh would reek

AllDirections Mon 14-Oct-13 18:50:58

Pavlov grin

Salmotrutta Mon 14-Oct-13 18:48:24

Remember we were going to have a Competitive Showering Gameshow usual and LaQueen - we decided that the last time one of these threads came up last week.

There were going to be rounds like Speed Showering with Gerard Butler...

bumpandkind Mon 14-Oct-13 18:46:37

Since I started this thread a few people have asked about the presence of erm... Knob cheese! I have honestly never seen a speck on him. However Andro, if I'm going down on him I will insist on a pre shower.

Some people are mixing up smelling "clean" or "fresh" with smelling of toiletries.

Which is similar to what happens on Febreeze/Air Wick threads.

LaQueenForADay Mon 14-Oct-13 18:33:40

Everyone is different.

But the way I look at it, I like to feel very confident that I smell fresh. And, the only way I think I can achieve this is to make sure I shower every day.

Because, the bottom line is it is very difficult to detect your own aroma (I find it impossible to smell my own perfume after I've put it on)...you might have a blocked nose...you might be having an especially whiffy day due to work/stress/hormones.

So, I'm just not prepared to chance it and hope/assume I smell fresh. It takes me about 7 minutes to shower and wash my hair..s'easy smile

PavlovtheCat Mon 14-Oct-13 18:32:28

usual it requires no brain power but allows us to engage a little in some inane shit. That's why I like it, like watching shit on TV.

It's the MN version of a soap. HAHAHA! geddit?! I just did a joke <laughs at own joke>

PavlovtheCat Mon 14-Oct-13 18:30:24

mia my DH says that, or words to that effect about baths. He will quite happily have a bath to relax in, but always finishes by washing in the shower.

usualsuspect Mon 14-Oct-13 18:27:50

Competitive showering threads are dull as fuck.

usualsuspect Mon 14-Oct-13 18:26:02

MN is bloody obsessed with showering.

Mia4 Mon 14-Oct-13 18:24:26

I had an ex like that- he didn't smell but he did have, to borrow a phase, knob cheese. He was fine the day after a shower but after that sex wasn't an option.

I don't wash my hair as much-the more I was the quicker it becomes greasy.

It all boils down to yiu and your dp talking- what is it that winds you up so.much if he smells fine? Is there poor hygiene in other places? Or do you just not like it and can't explain?

My dp hates baths; he never thinks a person is clean after and even used the phrase stewing in your own filth

Hopefully Mon 14-Oct-13 18:23:57

DH showers most days, but he can happily skip a day or even two and he literally smells shower fresh. It is weird. Some people are definitely less smelly than others. If I skip one day I definitely have more of an aroma!

In the early 80s, I had a bath once a week and washed in the sink on the other days in the evenings. I washed my hair once a week, as I still do. I am reminded what a hassle washing in the sink is on the (rare) occasions I still do it. We weren't poor.

These days I cycle to work, and shower and change into my work clothes when I arrive. When I go home I change back into my "home" clothes, which I will normally not change for the entire week. I don't use deodorant. I'm sure I must stink, but no one's complaining so I don't care.

LaQueenForADay Mon 14-Oct-13 18:21:34

Oh, gross...just ick confused

Both DH and I shower every day, and I really believe it to be necessary. Because whilst you might not actively smell bad if you only shower/bath 2-3 times per week, you certainly won't smell fresh.

pigletmania Mon 14-Oct-13 18:05:52

I don't shower every day, but wash my face and Fanjo. I have eczema and it dries my skin

MissFenella Mon 14-Oct-13 18:01:06

Not sure why being clean is thought to be a MC trait on here? It was the working man who bathed more regularly as they needed it.

My dad has bathed everyday for the last 64 years, because he needed to at first and now it's a habit. He also uses half a bar of soap, because he hasn't realised he is no longer scrubbing off coal dust.

We all followed suit on regular washing because it was the household norm.

We also had an outside loo until 1987.

PavlovtheCat Mon 14-Oct-13 17:58:39

wally a delayed response as I just got home from work. I guess it must be grin I looked at that word, and looked and could not work out why it didn't look right grin

Ffs I don't shower daily and I don't smell either

Don't ask me how i know or any of that bollocks I just fucking don't and I also don't like the accusation that I do by a bunch of people on the internet who I have never met
Thank

TrueStory Mon 14-Oct-13 17:24:04

I am not sure what the OP finds disgusting though. DP doesn't smell bad she admits, so whats the problem? Just the "idea" of not having a shower every day hmm?. I agree it is a middle-class obsession, and a stupid one at that.

eurochick Mon 14-Oct-13 17:21:47

See, in the 80s, many people didn't shower every day and I didn't think they smelled, but that is because I lived with a heavy smoker. Now I am rarely around smoke, I have the sense of smell of a bloodhound and can definitely notice if someone isn't bathing regularly. One of my work colleagues could definitely do with more showers! And Dublin taxi drivers (sorry, Irish posters but I have only ever noticed this in Dublin) - the majority honks! It's a greasy hair smell. Holding your breath all the way from the airport to the city centre is no mean feat...

chrome100 Mon 14-Oct-13 17:19:52

I can only think that all those who do not shower every day must lead very sedentary lives. Even cycling the ten mins to work makes me whiff a bit, never mind being at work which, even being a desk job, still involves me using stairs, rushing from one room to another. How can you possibly NOT need to wash at the end of the day?

Andro Mon 14-Oct-13 17:12:49

no he does not shower before or after sex!!!

Cottage cheese anyone? ICK!

I hope he doesn't dare suggest you perform oral sex on him, that would be beyond gross <vom>

fluffyraggies Mon 14-Oct-13 16:26:04

horry - think you may be right! I used to be an everyday showerer (for literally all my adult life) and daily hair washer. My hair was always greasy and lank by day 2 and needed washing again. But - 3 or 4 months ago i suffered from dreadful early pregnancy fatigue plus a bit of depression and it stopped me showering daily; I just didn't have the energy or the inclination, and guess what? I didn't smell and my hair looked bloody great! grin

Since that discovery i've been washing my hair every 4 days'ish and i'm showering every other day'ish. My hair is looking the best it ever has, and i'm still not smelly. (I'm not a 'sweaty' person, and if i'm going to have sex with DH i will jump in the shower with a shower cap on)

DH is a different kettle of fish ... he needs a shower if he's been at work as he gets cement'y, but he's rarely BO smelling. I actually LOVE the smell of him when he is a bit whiffy blush Makes me come over all animal and want to drag him to bed grinwink

bumpandkind Mon 14-Oct-13 16:17:41

Clockwatchinglady I'm going to give your suggestions a go! I think the possibility of sex not being available unless clean will have him hot footing it to the shower!

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