AIBU to find it irritating my DH doesn't shower everyday.

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bumpandkind Mon 14-Oct-13 08:39:51

My Dh can happily go three days or more at a time without washing. He admittedly never smells bad ( although his hair gets greasy) and he thinks it is a middle class obsession with cleanliness that he doesn't have to be a part of. I don't find it disgusting but it does wind me up.

LaQueenForADay Mon 14-Oct-13 18:21:34

Oh, gross...just ick confused

Both DH and I shower every day, and I really believe it to be necessary. Because whilst you might not actively smell bad if you only shower/bath 2-3 times per week, you certainly won't smell fresh.

In the early 80s, I had a bath once a week and washed in the sink on the other days in the evenings. I washed my hair once a week, as I still do. I am reminded what a hassle washing in the sink is on the (rare) occasions I still do it. We weren't poor.

These days I cycle to work, and shower and change into my work clothes when I arrive. When I go home I change back into my "home" clothes, which I will normally not change for the entire week. I don't use deodorant. I'm sure I must stink, but no one's complaining so I don't care.

Hopefully Mon 14-Oct-13 18:23:57

DH showers most days, but he can happily skip a day or even two and he literally smells shower fresh. It is weird. Some people are definitely less smelly than others. If I skip one day I definitely have more of an aroma!

Mia4 Mon 14-Oct-13 18:24:26

I had an ex like that- he didn't smell but he did have, to borrow a phase, knob cheese. He was fine the day after a shower but after that sex wasn't an option.

I don't wash my hair as much-the more I was the quicker it becomes greasy.

It all boils down to yiu and your dp talking- what is it that winds you up so.much if he smells fine? Is there poor hygiene in other places? Or do you just not like it and can't explain?

My dp hates baths; he never thinks a person is clean after and even used the phrase stewing in your own filth

usualsuspect Mon 14-Oct-13 18:26:02

MN is bloody obsessed with showering.

usualsuspect Mon 14-Oct-13 18:27:50

Competitive showering threads are dull as fuck.

PavlovtheCat Mon 14-Oct-13 18:30:24

mia my DH says that, or words to that effect about baths. He will quite happily have a bath to relax in, but always finishes by washing in the shower.

PavlovtheCat Mon 14-Oct-13 18:32:28

usual it requires no brain power but allows us to engage a little in some inane shit. That's why I like it, like watching shit on TV.

It's the MN version of a soap. HAHAHA! geddit?! I just did a joke <laughs at own joke>

LaQueenForADay Mon 14-Oct-13 18:33:40

Everyone is different.

But the way I look at it, I like to feel very confident that I smell fresh. And, the only way I think I can achieve this is to make sure I shower every day.

Because, the bottom line is it is very difficult to detect your own aroma (I find it impossible to smell my own perfume after I've put it on)...you might have a blocked nose...you might be having an especially whiffy day due to work/stress/hormones.

So, I'm just not prepared to chance it and hope/assume I smell fresh. It takes me about 7 minutes to shower and wash my hair..s'easy smile

Some people are mixing up smelling "clean" or "fresh" with smelling of toiletries.

Which is similar to what happens on Febreeze/Air Wick threads.

bumpandkind Mon 14-Oct-13 18:46:37

Since I started this thread a few people have asked about the presence of erm... Knob cheese! I have honestly never seen a speck on him. However Andro, if I'm going down on him I will insist on a pre shower.

Salmotrutta Mon 14-Oct-13 18:48:24

Remember we were going to have a Competitive Showering Gameshow usual and LaQueen - we decided that the last time one of these threads came up last week.

There were going to be rounds like Speed Showering with Gerard Butler...

AllDirections Mon 14-Oct-13 18:50:58

Pavlov grin

PumpkinGuts Mon 14-Oct-13 20:03:41

If he doesn't smell and hasn't got knob cheese I can't see what your problem is?

I would feel gross and be stinky dh would reek

LaQueenForADay Tue 15-Oct-13 11:40:56

Sal yes, yes...I had forgotten, dammit [reaches for phone, to call Gerard Butler's agent...]

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