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STOP using the word "retard".

(212 Posts)
Sparklysilversequins Sun 13-Oct-13 11:59:23

This has been done many times before and I can't think why I am needing to do it again, except I have seen it used twice on here this morning already angry.

It's offensive. It's not JUST a word. It's no less offensive if you prefix it with "emotional" or use it to describe some silly thing you or a friend did, or some bloke you saw with his trousers half way down his backside as young men sometimes choose to do.

It may be that some believe that the use of this word is considered acceptable in other countries (ie the US) and this often trotted out as a reason for its use but that is not actually true here. As of 2014 the American Psychiatric Association plans to replace the term 'mental retardation' with 'intellectual development disorder'" in the 2013 edition of their manual.

most offensive terms used in relation to disability.

HTH.

Jan49 Sun 13-Oct-13 12:04:55

I agree. I have a ds on the autistic spectrum and I wince every time I see that word.

waikikamookau Sun 13-Oct-13 12:12:54

I cnat believe mumsnetters use the word shock
it is very common in American tv programmes still.

saulaboutme Sun 13-Oct-13 12:25:34

I've heard children use it and my ds copied them. They'd heard it on a you tube video from America.
I explained to him it's not a word I want to hear him use again and why.

DontPanicMrMannering Sun 13-Oct-13 12:27:50

Wtf does "brave" mean, just looking at your list have never ever heard that.

Which is I suppose a terrible thing that I have heard all the rest.

DiamondMask Sun 13-Oct-13 12:33:56

It's a horrible word and I cant understand why, after numerous threads and campaigns, people still use it.

CoffeeTea103 Sun 13-Oct-13 12:35:04

Hear this word so often, don't know if people will ever stop using this word. It's horrible confused

EeTraceyluv Sun 13-Oct-13 12:37:29

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Pagwatch Sun 13-Oct-13 12:37:39

[sigh]
I know.
And you know some dick will rock up talking about censorship and how language evolves in a minute. Oh and PC brigade.

Twats

Gileswithachainsaw Sun 13-Oct-13 12:38:25

Not to be confused with "tardy" which means late.

Agree it's a nasty nasty word.

Is it still used medically in this country? As in when they talk about mental retardation? Or has that been stopped now?

TheVermiciousKnid Sun 13-Oct-13 12:39:29

Why the fuck would anybody use a word that is so offensive to so many people, when there are so many other words that could be used?! Fuckers.

skylerwhite Sun 13-Oct-13 12:40:59

EeTraceyluv, are you being ironic?

SabrinaMulhollandJjones Sun 13-Oct-13 12:41:05

I hate the word. I overheard ds1 using it the other day. He'd picked it up on YouTube. We had words. He won't be using it again.

Inexcusable to use it on Mumsnet.

Gileswithachainsaw Sun 13-Oct-13 12:41:10

I still hear the word "spaz" being used a lot by school kids round here too.

StarfishTrooper Sun 13-Oct-13 12:43:58

I don't know why people still use this word. My son is what would have been called 'mentally retarded' decades ago (he has global delay of unknown cause) and yet we have friends, actual close friends who STILL throw the words retard, mong, special around in conversation and post 'comedy' photos on facebook of people with 'special' faces etc. It's deeply upsetting.

K8Middleton Sun 13-Oct-13 12:47:10

Yes see also fuckt*rd

It is not a contraction of fucking bastard. It is a contraction of fucking ret*rd.

Not clever.

Gileswithachainsaw Sun 13-Oct-13 12:48:31

Would also like to see the word gay being used as an insult.

"That's so gay" seems to be disturbingly popular when taking piss out of school friends.

EeTraceyluv Sun 13-Oct-13 12:48:33

No, I'm relating the responses I got when I asked people to stop using the word.

skylerwhite Sun 13-Oct-13 12:49:57

I was referring to your calling those people 'fucking morons'.

skylerwhite Sun 13-Oct-13 12:50:33

Their original comments and responses were hateful, to be clear.

PlayedThePinkOboe Sun 13-Oct-13 12:52:04

EETracey Am killing myself (allowed to say that?) laughing at your turn of phrase - and yet it is wholly demonstrative of why demonising a word is backwards (see! You can't say anything!). People do dumb (ooops, there we go again!) things - we use language to describe them.

I agree, it is a horrible word and I would be furious if someone used it in my hearing.

I saw it on here in the week and winced but by the time I had though of a response that wouldn't end with me being deleted, I had been distracted by RL.
I wish people would think before they speak.

DiamondMask Sun 13-Oct-13 12:52:56

It's used lots at ds's school but when I brought it up with the Head he wasnt bothered. He'd suspend someone for using a racist word however, but disabled people and vile disablist words are fair game.
I pointed that out long and loud and he said 'you cant stop teenagers using words'
Except you can and do when its racist.

Agree, OP.

While we're about it (pet hate), the word 'cretin' means someone with congenital disabilities. Lots of people don't know that, but if you do, it really gives you a shudder to see it.

Some people are nincompoops.

newfavouritething Sun 13-Oct-13 12:54:19

There's an epilepsy drug Tegretol Retard, always makes me go hmmm.

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