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AIBU?

to be upset that they googled the price of the bottle of wine I bought to the Mum's social?

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LovelyVerity · 10/10/2013 16:19

DS has just started primary school. As I work full-time, I've never had much opportunity to meet other local mums, though I know some of them to nod to. Last Friday, one of the mothers organised a social (bring a bottle) at her house and invited all the P1 mums.

It wasn't the best evening for me - I only had 5 minutes to change as I was late back from work, and felt a bit of a mess. Everyone seemed to know each other and made no effort to include me, and one woman had this pointed conversation about how easy one child was - I don't find it easy :( I bought a bottle with me (obviously) - just grabbed quickly from the rack at home. I was given a glass of something I didn't like much - but obviously I didn't say that!! I was driving, so I only had the 1 glass.

Anyway, one of the mums I know slightly through work told me that after I had left a few of the mums there were pretty smashed and googled how much my wine cost. Apparently they have been posting silly comments about it on facebook all week - and it is "the" in-joke of the moment.

Is this normal behaviour? Am I being silly to feel so upset about this? DS seems to have settled well into school, but I can't help think that maybe it was a mistake to send him there if this is how the MOTHERS behave!

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RabbitFromAHat · 10/10/2013 16:21

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Delilahlilah · 10/10/2013 16:22

They sound pathetic. I wouldn't be concerned about their opinions. Lesson learned quickly there I would say.

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OliverBoliverButt33 · 10/10/2013 16:23

Jeez - what a nasty thing to do Angry

No, it's not normal behaviour.

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JustinBsMum · 10/10/2013 16:23

Wow, well if they're all as bitchy as that they are bound to fall out - the conversation sounded crap too but just ignore, ignore, ignore. They will find someone else to bitch about soon.

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YouTheCat · 10/10/2013 16:23

They have nothing more in their lives to do - so they bitch. They should come with a large sign saying 'beware'.

I wouldn't bother engaging with this group of cows. You don't need a load of friends. Better to have one or two good friends than loads who will rip you apart the minute you leave a room.

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bearleftmonkeyright · 10/10/2013 16:24

Omg Shock. What a bunch of uber bitches! No, not normal. I would be very upset.

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QueenofallIsee · 10/10/2013 16:25

Well the Mum you know slightly shouldn't have told you that as it could only hurt you without really being helpful...YANBU to be upset, what a bunch of absolute cunts! I would be making damn sure that they knew I knew and I would be making them as uncomfortable as possible in that knowledge as well. I cannot STAND people like that. assholes.

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Bowlersarm · 10/10/2013 16:25

Childish and rubbish behaviour from them. Hiopefull you'll meet some of the nicer mums soon.

I don't think the mum who told you was being nice either. What was there to gain by telling you? Nothing.

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CiderwithBuda · 10/10/2013 16:25

They did what????

How bizarre. And why?

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OliverBoliverButt33 · 10/10/2013 16:26

I would stick something on FB (that they'll all see) saying something like:

DS is loving his new school. So glad the other children have managed to display lovely manners given what fucking rude arseholes some of their mothers are.

Or something.

But that's just me.

No - that is not normal at all. Cows.

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AngelinaCongleton · 10/10/2013 16:26

Jesus, why on earth would they do that? Are you very loaded and they think it'd be worth a fortune? Or are they? They are weirdos! Praise The Lord your kid is happy and you know you don't need to make an effort with them (as they sound nuts)

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DidoTheDodo · 10/10/2013 16:27

They sound absolutely awful. Not normal behaviour at all. I really hope you have some proper, nice, supportive friends.
My jaw dropped at their childish unpleasantness.

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wheretoyougonow · 10/10/2013 16:28

Stay away from this group. They clearly haven't grown up from their school days.
At least you found put what they are like early on.

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BrianTheMole · 10/10/2013 16:28

They sound like a bunch of twats.

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mysticminstrel · 10/10/2013 16:28

Shock YANBU!

Though if you've ever suffered through the Pom Bear thread you'll see that the MNer in question also did this - and loads of people on here thought that it was ok/funny Hmm

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WipsGlitter · 10/10/2013 16:30

No this is not normal behaviour.

Things like this make me sad. Why do women do this to each other???

But... how much was it??!!

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OddSockMonster · 10/10/2013 16:31

Fuck 'em. No-one needs people like that in their lives.

There will be other nice parents at school, don't get hung up about people who have nothing better to do with their time than put others down.

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gamerchick · 10/10/2013 16:31

Man I would be so thinking of a comeback to that. They all, including the one who told you are pure bellends.

Are you going to call them on it?

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notthefirstagainstthewall · 10/10/2013 16:32

Well a really expensive bottle is bound to cause a reaction isn't it at a mums's social as opposed to a dinner party.
Did they think you were showing off or something?

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fluffyraggies · 10/10/2013 16:33

Pack mentality. Very sad :(

It's a miserable experience to be on the receiving end of this sort of behaviour - it's as if they're ALL still at school as well as their little kids.

Flowers OP.

They're not worth being friends with if this is how they get their laughs. I too would question the motives of the person that told you about it. But at least you know not to waste your time or energy on any of them anymore. Prats.

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Balaboosta · 10/10/2013 16:33

What's the Pom bear thread?

And why - was your wine super expensive ? Wink

And no - not normal.

IMO.

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KillerKoalaFace · 10/10/2013 16:33

Ugh! That is so vulgar and bitchy. I'm including the woman who told you about it in that too btw.

You sound too normal to bother with them. All my friends are friends I've made at work, a night course and from when I was at uni. I've not met anyone through DS's school that I think I'll end up being friends with tbh and I'm good with that. From the sounds of the bitches at this crappy sounding social you will also prob end up finding your friends in different places too.

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