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To ignore the Big Issue seller

(59 Posts)
Beeyump Mon 07-Oct-13 10:41:54

There is a guy that sells the Big Issue right outside the station I use to get to and from work. For ages, I felt guilty walking past him - usually very quickly as I was rushing to the office - but eventually bought one. Sounds ridiculous, but he held it too high for me to reach for ages, before eventually tapping me on the head with it and giving it to me. Ho ho!

Anyway, fair enough, but since then he expects me to buy one every Tuesday, yells out at me as I go past etc. so that I feel a bit conspicuous. When I have bought one again, he's all 'Heyy Beautiful...or are you gay?' and other rather random things.
In my paranoid, twitchy head, I now dread seeing him every morning and don't want to buy any more but feel flippin guilty. Honestly, I can make life such a trial for myself. Should I just keep my headphones in and ignore?

CeliaFate Mon 07-Oct-13 13:14:42

To follow your argument through, the richest people in the world should be the nicest. That's nonsense. I agree, being homeless and all the problems it brings may cause you to be unhappy and behave horribly to others.
But equally, it's about the character of the people selling it.
I do empathise with people worse off than me.
I do (self-righteously?!) give to charity via direct debit. Probably not enough though so I can't expect them to be decent to me. hmm

TheHeadlessLadyofCannock Mon 07-Oct-13 13:15:58

'Actually niminy I feel like you are dehumanising the homeless by making out they don't have the same ability as the rest of us to be respectful and not intimidating.'

I agree.

Vivacia Mon 07-Oct-13 13:28:56

I don't want to buy a BI. I don't have to. I agree completely, so you just say, "no thank you". There's no need to try to confuse or humiliate the seller with, "I have mine delivered". When you write, "it takes them a minute to work that out" it sounds as though you think you're clever and have out-witted somebody who, let's face it, isn't in the easiest place as it is.

MomentForLife Mon 07-Oct-13 13:41:33

Just smile and say no thank you. His behaviour sounds awkward but don't let it affect your daily routine.

pinkyredrose Mon 07-Oct-13 14:13:48

niminy is talking out of her arse.

Btw not all BI sellers are homeless. A lot live in hostels, shared accommodation, halfway houses etc.

Beeyump Mon 07-Oct-13 14:21:04

Well,niminy hasn't really helped with my guilt complex anyway grin

I do realise that I'm making this into a bigger deal than it need be.

KellyElly Mon 07-Oct-13 14:25:49

niminypiminy You're posts are some of the most fucking ridiculous things I've EVER read on MN and I've been on here for five years! Fucking nonsense.

OP, no-one has the right to make you feel intimidated or uncomfortable or act in a suggestive or inappropriate way no matter what their back story is. You need to completely block him out and ignore him.

Oceansurf Mon 07-Oct-13 14:29:09

Just say you've already got one!

Problem solved.

TEErickOrTEEreat Mon 07-Oct-13 14:52:09

"But you do need to understand that people who live on the streets have had the worst life chances -- they haven't been brought up in polite drawing rooms with Miss Manners."

Bullshit. Most of the world is one paycheck from homelessness. Even the ones who have been brought up in drawing rooms with Miss Manners.

Also, a lot of the BI sellers around here aren't actually homeless. They are just having trouble getting a 'regular' job, as so many are right now. BI is a way to give them a bit of income.

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