To have 3 children sharing a bedroom?

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fedupandexhausted Sun 06-Oct-13 18:29:10

My eldest had a friend to play on Friday and told her she felt sorry for her because she has to share with her sisters.

They do moan abit sometimes as one is tidier than the others but generally is ok. We only have one bathroom which isn't prob at the moment but may be in the future??

We could afford a larger house but have decided against due to costs and hassle.

But, this comment is niggling me.....Aibu?

fedupandexhausted Sun 06-Oct-13 18:29:59

They're 10, 9 and 7 btw

Madlizzy Sun 06-Oct-13 18:31:46

Yes, you are. It's very normal for kids to share bedrooms. My triplets shared a room for years, until DD was getting to an age where she needed her space away from the boys.

sonlypuppyfat Sun 06-Oct-13 18:32:47

Needs must and all that. I'd rather be a bit cramped than be in debt struggling with a big mortgage

redcaryellowcar Sun 06-Oct-13 18:32:48

I think bedroom sharing is fine, in fact we have a three bed house and once dc2is old enough I plan for him/ her to share with ds1 and have a small spare room, but because I like the idea of sharing rather than we need a spare room.
we have most of ds' toys downstairs which I suspect will continue so bedrooms are only for sleeping in, and there is space for that!

FortyDoorsToNowhere Sun 06-Oct-13 18:32:54

It really depends on the size of the room.

I shared with 2 of my sister and i loved it, it was the biggest room in the house so lots of space.

LouiseAderyn Sun 06-Oct-13 18:35:56

If your dc are happy with the arrangement then that is what matters. You are lucky they get on well though and I think as they get older they will probably want a bit more space.

peanutMD Sun 06-Oct-13 18:36:17

There are 8 years between my brother and i and we shared a room until i was 16, was never an issue.

frogspoon Sun 06-Oct-13 18:36:52

I think at age 10 your DD will be starting to go through puberty and will therefore need her own personal space.

It would be embarrassing for her e.g. to have her 7 yo sister asking what her sanitary towels and tampons are for.

If you can afford a house that will give her some personal space (and middle DD too in a years time) you should think about moving to a house that would give DDs their own bedrooms.

MinimalistMommi Sun 06-Oct-13 18:37:06

I loved sharing with my sister, and when we got separate rooms in our teens we ended up still sharing anyway.

If it helps, think of the room as a bed-room, literally a room with beds in it where sleep happens.

I think separate rooms are a luxury these days. Yes, it would be nice but it isn't a 'need' in my opinion.
YANBU

SadBadMadFat Sun 06-Oct-13 18:38:59

me , 2 sisters and 2 brothers shared a bedroom till we left home. never a problem.

BlackholesAndRevelations Sun 06-Oct-13 18:40:14

I agree they probably won't enjoy sharing for many more years, as the eldest goes through puberty.

My dp's two sisters shared well into their teenage years and HATED eachither- as soon as they had their own rooms they were the best of friends! grin

Smartiepants79 Sun 06-Oct-13 18:40:44

Three children in one room is quite a lot but whether it is unreasonable depends on several things.
How big is it?
Are they happy sharing?
Have they all got a little bit of their 'own' space?
I think at their age there shouldn't be a problem but as they grow you may find it gets trickier. If you have no more space you have no more space!
At the end of the day there is nothing wrong with them all sharing. If it suits your family then you stick by your decision. You have no need to explain yourself to a 10 year old!

FortyDoorsToNowhere Sun 06-Oct-13 18:41:29

I think at age 10 your DD will be starting to go through puberty and will therefore need her own personal space.

There is the bathroom for thing like that.

MinimalistMommi Sun 06-Oct-13 18:44:46

I think the puberty thing is rubbish, so what?! Totally agree, what's wrong with getting changed in the bathroom?! And if it's about hormones, they'll still have hormones in the main family areas!!

fedupandexhausted Sun 06-Oct-13 18:54:30

The room is a large double with bunks and a single in. They each have a wardrobe with drawers at the bottom, a shelf and an underbed storage box each. They also share a bookcase and we've put a tv in there too. There's enough floor space for board games , playing etc.

I've tried to give them places for their tthings..... Looking at houses to get more rooms we'd lose a lovely large garden and driveway unless we want to max out on a mortgage

Dolallytats Sun 06-Oct-13 18:58:40

I shared with my three sisters until I left home. We didn't have any more rooms and my parents couldn't afford to move so tough!! Of course we argued, but most children do!!

looseleaf Sun 06-Oct-13 18:58:42

And are they happy sharing? As long as they're happy it sounds great to me. Mind you by 8 I was sharing with 12 girls I wasn't even related to! But I was happy with the sharing space and was until I was 17.

foxy6 Sun 06-Oct-13 18:58:48

my 3 ds shared a room until last year when we converted the attic so they we 15, 14, and 12 they have always shared. there is no problem with it.

soverylucky Sun 06-Oct-13 19:00:01

A bedroom each or an extra bedroom would be nice but it is not essential. I am wondering is sadbadmadfat is my sister because she has described my childhood....

MrsTedMosby Sun 06-Oct-13 19:11:21

I have three boys in one room (9 yo twins and 6 yo) and two in the other room (age 14 & 11)

I'm sure they'd love their own rooms, just as I'd love to be rich enough to afford it! I don't think it does them any harm. DH shared with his two brothers till he left home.

My 3 sharers have the biggest room as I figure they need more space than DH and I.

Flicktheswitch Sun 06-Oct-13 19:14:18

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fiverabbits Sun 06-Oct-13 19:25:25

I have never had my own BED never mind a bedroom, my bedroom at home was for me and my 3 sisters and I'm 61 years old. My DH had his own bedroom from age 17 till 20 when we got married but he never had a bathroom just a outside toilet. He is the youngest of 6 children.

SeaSickSal Sun 06-Oct-13 19:28:33

My OH shared a room with two of his brother's all his childhood and they all went to uni and got good jobs, etc, etc.

Actually they are incredibly close and all look after each other and I think that is partly a result.

Remotecontrolduck Sun 06-Oct-13 19:35:29

It's maybe not the best thing ever, I wouldn't have wanted to share because I really am a person that values my own space and privacy

However, I was never in the position where I had to share, or a situation where I knew no different. Ultimately, there's nothing actually wrong with them sharing as long as there aren't major fights. If it suits your kids, keep on as you are I reckon.

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