to send my address first?

(132 Posts)
MrsPeeWee Mon 23-Sep-13 14:06:48

Long story short.
We bought a 10 week old kitten 2 weeks ago. We didn't feel she was settling in to our family so for that reason (and many others) we decided to take her back to the people we bought her from, just as they had told us too, because if she didn't settle, they'd prefer to take her back.

We took her back yesterday as well as all her food, scratch posts, etc. The lady didn't give us our money back for the kitten. She shouted over to DH as he was walking back to the car that she would pop me a message to get our address and details and post the money through my letterbox today. She hasn't messaged me at all. blush

AIBU to text her my address, so she knows I would like my money back?
AIBU to even expect her to give us our money back? I'm unsure on what is the right thing to do.

Thanks. blush

chillykitty Wed 25-Sep-13 10:33:55

That is aibu for you

Nyborg Fri 27-Sep-13 10:08:28

It's also worth noting that this story is the reason why some shelters won't rehome kittens to families with small children - a fact someone mentioned upthread in a disapproving way. The home is often too unpredictably noisy an environment for the kitten to settle and small children don't read a cat's behaviour well enough to avoid getting swiped etc. So the family are unhappy, the kitten bounces back to the shelter and eventually moves to a new home where it takes much longer to settle because of its previous bad experiences. Shelters are full to bursting - with one notable exception, my experience has been that they are generally very pragmatic and open-minded about finding adoptive homes.

kali110 Fri 27-Sep-13 17:29:59

Dont think op was bu for taking the kitten instead of dumping the poor thing, back but am suprised she is getting the money back.
Also think that 9 days isnt really much of a time for it too settle in.

MrsPeeWee Fri 27-Sep-13 20:20:22

Did you not read the rest of the thread Kali?

kali110 Fri 27-Sep-13 22:31:13

Yes i did read the whole thread op. i think the kitten should have been kept away from the little ones as it was going to be unerved by kids at that age. Think it would have been better to have read up before you got the cat so you knew few things to expect.
Think you are lucky to have got your money, if you do get it back at the end.

FreshLeticia Fri 27-Sep-13 23:52:55

Incredible OP, that you think that a kitten will be settled in your home after just two weeks - or was it 9 days? It often takes much longer than that, esp with pedigrees.
The poor thing must have been very scared to swipe at a toddler, either that or small children had been tormenting it.
Cats are hard work and some pedigree breeds are very difficult. I do know as we have Burmese and have had many other breeds over the years.

BTW, any decent breeder will not let a kitten go until it is 13 weeks and fully housetrained and vaccinated.
You must have gone to one of those kitten farm places. Shame on you for that.

MrsPeeWee Sat 28-Sep-13 10:27:25

Fresh - Stop assuming. You're completely incorrect.

The toddler was his his pushchair, and wasn't making a peep. He was ready to go home and kitty had been put in to the utility room for the whole visit and up until that moment. It was completely unprovoked.

I am sorry that you look at it this way, however, my family come before a kitten in this situation I am afraid.

You may think 9 days isn't enough, but I believe it was plenty enough, because I'd prefer she went back before she had become attatched to her new surroundings.

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