Because I'd say 80% of things that anyone arranges with me either get cancelled or forgotten about by the other person. It's got to the stage now where I've stopped instigated plans with others as they just simply never go ahead. People end up cancelling or forgetting and then making plans with others.
And even now when people suggest to me that we meet up, they still forget. What's the secret to getting them to remember? Are you supposed to FB chat said person each day and say how you are looking forward to meeting up on Thursday or something?
Last week I was invited to a friend's house for lunch. She lives in a town about 30 miles away. She invited me a week before, and we arranged the time etc. I arrived at the planned time and she was out, shopping in the city with another friend and she'd 'forgotten' she'd invited me.
Then another friend invited me to meet her in town one day this week, to go shopping and out for lunch. On the morning she sent me a FB message saying she was sorry but she'd forgotten she was meeting me and had now arranged to meet another friend instead.
And another friend is very flakey; she'll make plans with me, at her suggestion, then when I try to confirm them she'll act like she never said it in the first place and as if I'm making it all up.
I'm really quite fed up with it. The people that cancel on me seem to have plenty of time to make plans with other people and they stick to the plans, yet they cancel on me. I tell people I'm disappointed 'Oh no that's a shame, I was really looking forward to it', and make it obvious I'm not happy at being cancelled on or forgotten about but it still happens.
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dorisdaydream · 20/09/2013 16:25
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