To wonder what's the shittiest thing someones ever said/done to you?

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annabanana84 Fri 20-Sep-13 15:19:58

Something happened when I was 18. I fell pregnant. I was in a relationship at the time, even lived with thR bastard, but boy they were shit times but I thought I was 'in love'.

Anyway, I told boyfriend who said I had to get rid of the baby or I'd be out on the street. Property was in his name. I told my family. They said i'd have nowhere to live neither and i'd be on my own. I believed them completely, and I was forced and bullied into a termination and on a winters day I was marched to the hospital by my mother and bastard boyfriend (let's just call him cunt from now on, terrible word, but fitting).

As soon as I'd got the hospital gown on, Cunt said he had to go because the football was on and he couldn't miss it. I had the termination and my heart almost killed me with the pain that the baby inside of me was being murdered by my consent by me being there.

I was discharged and went home, was lied on the couch feeling really upset but trying not to show my feelings, and my grandmother told me to stop being so pathetic, and that I'd only had an abortion.

I now am 30 almost, still childless and suffer from fibroids. If I ever cannot concieve, I will never forgive those bastards.

Sorry it's so long, just never told a soul and it still hurts.

Anyone else want to pour their hearts out? It's quite cathartic I must say!

BlingBang Fri 20-Sep-13 15:27:12

That I looked like princess ann to a group of people
I mean, how do you get beyond that.

BlingBang Fri 20-Sep-13 15:31:13

Sorry, just actually read your post. That's awful and very serious. Sorry you were let down like that.

rainbowfeet Fri 20-Sep-13 15:34:38

So sorry that you had to go through all that. You are still young & I hope a happy future with or without children in it will go some way to healing your past. X thanks

thegreylady Fri 20-Sep-13 15:41:08

My best friend had an affair with my first husband. I confided in her that he seemed cold and distant and spent lots of time away "on courses".all the time he was with her.
He is dead now and I have no idea where she is although I used to see her on tv a few years back.
I never forgave her.

dementedmumof6 Fri 20-Sep-13 15:41:50

Not as bad as yours but stbxh who is the only man I have ever slept with and had been with on and off mainly on since I was 16 and had 6 children with telling me he had never felt about anyone the way he feels about his new girlfriend who he has been going out with for 2 months and I will be happy once I meet someone who I love as much and makes me feel the way she does him.

Betrayedbutsurvived Fri 20-Sep-13 15:49:54

Sorry you went through that op. My parents told me they'd never have another baby in the house after my daughter was born, essentially forcing me to stay with my sexually and physically violent boyfriend. I was only 17, very naive and this was nearly thirty years ago so no where near the help available that there would be now. The big kicker was when my sister got pregnant two years later and moved in with them so my mother could look after my nephew while my sister worked.

That's so awful Anna.

Mine is my dad telling me he had terminal cancer. He didn't, it was a ruse to try and get 'his inheritance' early from his parents, aunt etc.

Officershitty Fri 20-Sep-13 15:57:05

OP, I'm so sorry to hear your story. To give you hope, I have large fibroids and when I was in my early 40s I gave birth to a DS. So it is possible. (I met my DP later in life and did not want DC with previous partners).

Only a few posts in and it makes me cringe to see how awful human beings can really be.

Mine was a step family member being completely inappropriate towards me (and my two younger sisters) during a holiday for a special event. I didn't make a scene at the time as I didn't want to spoil it and cause huge rows....fast forward five years later and he arrived uninvited to my weding, and when DH and I told him to basically fuck off, he caused a massive scene, denied it all and said I was making it up for attention. It's caused a rift that still hasn't healed and I hate him beyond all measure, if I could go back in time to the big holiday where it all started I'd have raised holy hell, and if he has the misfortune of running into me any time soon, I don't think i'd be able to control my anger.

Jammybean Fri 20-Sep-13 16:03:44

I was 17 and mum was getting serious with then bf now husband no. 2 she sat me down and asked me how I'd feel if he came onto me?! shock I told her in no uncertain terms that I have no interest and never will have any interest in any of her current or future partners. Yuk!

Jammy that is utterly bizarre!

TheRunawayTrain Fri 20-Sep-13 16:05:38

That's so awful anna sad thanks

Someone once told me they thought SIDS wasn't really real as such, and parents had suffocated their child. Knowing what DS1 had died of. angry sad I will never, ever forgive her for what she said to me.

spongebob13 Fri 20-Sep-13 16:06:16

dp in an argument saying that if he met me today he wouldn't look at me twice. I know that's nothing compared to your story OP but hurt like hell.

bananananacoconuts Fri 20-Sep-13 16:06:37

Mine is when my now exh screamed at me in the street that he didn't believe i was pregnant. This was as i had just had an internal scan to confirm a miscarriage, a week after i had discovered i was pregnant, 2 weeks after i had caught him mid-affair!
He thought i'd made up being pregnant to keep him! Fucking nobber.

Rockinhippy Fri 20-Sep-13 16:07:41

Less than a month after the death of my DM, where I & my young DD had been the ones sitting by her hospital bedside for weeks on end & helping her as much as we could - because my DF & DB couldn't cope, so ran at the first signs of stress sad - well at least that's how it was for my DF - my DB just couldn't be arsed if I'm honest - blamed his work commitments for keeping him away - even though his work isn't high pressure, was local & his boss had told him he could take time off whenever he needed it - despite her doting in him & still spoiling him in his 40s he didn't even bother to see her every day, let a lone stay longer than 45 minutes.

After DB lied to DF, DF rounded on me telling me how much DM hated both me & DD & I was dead to him - on my contacting DB - he let rip with the biggest load of nasty jealous bile he had obviously bottled up for years, from what a bad daughter I had been, to what a rubbish mum I am now & how awful my young DD is - gloating & laughing that he had finally got DF to see the truth as he had with DM.

None of his accusations were true of course & he has since been trying to hack into my accounts to delete his gloating messages about how gullible Dad is & boasting about his drug taking & Dad like mum believing his lies that he's stopped etc etc.

Neither have spoken to either me or DD since, though I suppose I was doing to much to help them & putting myself bottom of the list so it's done me a favour in a way - the injustice of doesn't hurt any less though, especially with DDs birthday coming up & realising even if DF remembers

Not sure that's been so cathartic TBH just made me think about it again sad

reggiebean Fri 20-Sep-13 16:15:08

So sorry, OP, that's terrible x

I think the worst thing that happened to me would have been my flatmate stealing my money from me. She used to steal my cheques (from the back of the book, as if I'd be less likely to notice) and make them out to herself. We looked similar, so it even went so far as her stealing my ID and going to my bank and withdrawing money in person. She stole money from my handbag constantly, and even went into my change jar and pulled out all the "big coins" and cashed those in, leaving me just with pennies!!

Jammybean Fri 20-Sep-13 16:15:44

golden my mother is very odd.

spongebob13 Fri 20-Sep-13 16:15:54

oh and MIL who I love to bits saying about a rape story in the news that the girls probably brought it on themselves (not knowing it happened to me).

Famzilla Fri 20-Sep-13 16:20:07

My mum making a fake online account of me, and forcing me (at 19) to go on dates with much older rich men she had met on there. If I didn't do as she said she would go hysterical, call me every name under the sun then cut me off for months on end and get my dad & brother to threaten me.

This is after making me homeless at 16.

I recently went no contact with her and she was threatening to come round my house & wipe the floor with me infront of my 6mo DD.

sonlypuppyfat Fri 20-Sep-13 16:22:16

When my DD died suddenly all I got was phone calls asking if my mum was ok noone asked about me even though everyone knew I adored him

samu2 Fri 20-Sep-13 16:23:02

My dad is a sociopath. Pretty much everything he has ever done to me has been the shittiest. Way too many examples to go into but the worst was telling me he would kill himself if I didn't move in with him when my mum left me, then he met a new GF and chucked all the stuff he bought for me for his new flat on the road.

NandH Fri 20-Sep-13 16:27:47

anna that is awful, I feel like crying on your behalf sad you poor poor thing, I almost hope you aren't in contact with any of the people involved with that. Could the hospital staff not see you weren't happen about having the abortion? I couldn't even begin to imagine the pain you feel, so sorry sad

Delilahlilah Fri 20-Sep-13 16:38:22

Unfortunately I have quite a list, but one in particular that left me gob smacked was my sister telling me that my miscarriage was probably a good thing really, as we were short of cash and the economy 'really wasn't good' at the moment....

expatinscotland Fri 20-Sep-13 16:53:12

The doctor sat across from me telling me my then 8-year-old daughter had cancer. She died 18 days past her 9th birthday.

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