New car decision- we disagree

(65 Posts)
Pinkpinot Thu 19-Sep-13 21:47:35

Dh doesn't drive. And is probably in the car for 2/3 long journeys a year
I do about 10-12k miles per year.
Who gets to decide what car we get?

Euphemia Thu 19-Sep-13 21:48:47

You both do, if it's being paid for from joint/family money.

Notfootball Thu 19-Sep-13 21:50:35

I'd say you but only because my DH knows so little about cars that he didn't even want to see or test drive the one I chose before we bought it.

Are you both after the same sort of car so could easily reach a compromise?

BoozyBear Thu 19-Sep-13 21:50:36

if you're the driver, you should get final say as you're the one who's going to have to be able to use it every day.

cumfy Thu 19-Sep-13 21:52:51

Who's buying the car ?

Sirzy Thu 19-Sep-13 21:54:33

who is paying?

I would say the main driver should get the biggest say though

StuntGirl Thu 19-Sep-13 21:54:59

It should be a joint decision if it's coming from joint finances, but if you're the one who drives your opinion is probably the more...informed. I'm surprised he isn't just essentially letting you choose. What's his beef with your choice?

picnicbasketcase Thu 19-Sep-13 21:56:07

Both should be looking around at what you want if it's both of you paying, but you should get ultimate decision as it's you who will actually be driving it.

Pinkpinot Thu 19-Sep-13 21:56:41

Well his money is paying for it, I'm sahm
He wants the bigger car or even SUV type

StanleyLambchop Thu 19-Sep-13 21:57:12

Who knows the most about cars?

Pinkpinot Thu 19-Sep-13 21:57:32

He says he doesn't fit in a smaller car, but he really won't be in it that often!

Pinkpinot Thu 19-Sep-13 21:58:55

I've done the research on the cars, he just knows the one he's more comfortable in

picnicbasketcase Thu 19-Sep-13 21:59:41

How won't he fit? Does he travel in an outstretched starfish position?

SirChenjin Thu 19-Sep-13 22:00:25

You do, because you're driving it.

What do you want, and what does he want?

bundaberg Thu 19-Sep-13 22:03:04

you do! you have to drive the blimmin thing

as long as you BOTH decide on budget etc

bundaberg Thu 19-Sep-13 22:03:51

in terms of comfort, it's far more important that the person actually driving is comfortable!

VanitasVanitatum Thu 19-Sep-13 22:04:39

It's family money, not his... You're a sahm that's harder work than a job!!!

Groovee Thu 19-Sep-13 22:05:36

I always get to choose. Dh is happy with anything.

Earthworms Thu 19-Sep-13 22:08:27

If he is only getting in it twice a year, but a small economical car for everyday use and use the money you save on purchase and running costs to hire a mahoosive SUV on the occasions when he does get in.

McNewPants2013 Thu 19-Sep-13 22:08:53

You do, it's you the one who is driving the car.

I can not get on with driving an estate car or cars with a gear stick with the reverse on the right.

Trifle Thu 19-Sep-13 22:10:59

I'd buy a cheaper car and spend the rest on getting him driving lessons. No fully grown man should be unable to drive.

Pinkpinot Thu 19-Sep-13 22:12:54

He can drive trifle- just a problem with his driving licence. Long story
Good plan, earthworms

BrokenSunglasses Thu 19-Sep-13 22:15:59

If it's about who's most comfortable in the care, then without a doubt you get the final say. Unless you are in a luxury coach or something, driver comfort is far more important than passenger comfort.

Your DH may have had a winning point if it were about cost or fuel economy or something practical, but he's a selfish arse if he thinks his comfort is more important than the drivers.s

Joint decision but weighted towards the main driver. Will your DH be driving the car at any point in the future, provided the problems with his licence clear up?

Pinkpinot Thu 19-Sep-13 22:23:49

Probably not anytime soon, he doesn't really need to drive, so not top priority

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