My mum is terminal ill and does not have long. My partner and I have been engaged for over a year and decided that we would like to get married ASAP, so my mum will be well enough to attend.
We don't have much money so decided on Registry office, very immediate family only, followed by a meal in the High Street. A very simple, cheap as possible affair, as it has be arranged in 6 weeks.
Anyhow told my mum and dad, who then insisted on paying for cars, photographer, flowers and the meal. My dad said he would like to invite more family and make it a bigger affair and suggested an evening reception too. My mum told me to phone a nice local hotel and find out the price for meal and evening reception. I told her that would be really expensive and she said just find out the price and let us know.
I was planning on buying a very cheap simple outfit, no cars etc, just registry office, then a 5 minute walk to the meal in the High Street. However, as it was being made a more grander affair, with wedding venues and reception a wedding dress would be more appropriate (and I loved the idea too) and managed to buy a lovely (very cheap) dress.
Anyhow I found out the price and it was really expensive, so I phoned round a few more places and managed to find a really nice place for a fraction of the price and I was really excited to tell my mum and dad.
I told them yesterday, their response was almost how dare I arrange an evening affair, they couldn't possibly attend an evening function and only wanted a meal, which I was instructed must be at 1pm! They would pay for and attend a meal and if anyone wanted to do something after, then they should put their hands in their own pockets!!
I felt extremely embarrassed, upset and a bit gobsmacked. I will go back to my original plan of us paying for the meal etc, however I am now left with a wedding dress and wont be able to afford anything else. And I am going to feel a right idiot, walking down a busy high street to a normal restaurant, in a wedding dress!
AIBU to think sod it and wear my jeans?
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weddingblues3 · 17/09/2013 10:08
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