Opinions on men watching porn/masturbating. - isnt that what SINGLES do?

(44 Posts)
Corrigan92 Tue 17-Sep-13 01:53:54

I'm talking father of your child, lives with you, long term thing. opinions on looking at pics of other girls, internet porn and masturbating, isn't that one of the reasons FOR relationships? that you have each other for that kind of stuff? not there right hand and a laptop screen ...opinions guys!

DioneTheDiabolist Tue 17-Sep-13 01:56:39

I am not a masturbation substitute. Nor is my boyfriend.hmm

Corrigan92 Tue 17-Sep-13 02:05:49

I am neither for or against just wonderingmopimions as it came up in a chat with a few friends. there view was that surly if they are turned on they should satisfy each other as they are in love and was disgusted at the thought that another woman on a screen could be doing that instead...

badgeroncaffeine Tue 17-Sep-13 02:29:32

I'm male and in a relationship. I no longer find my partner attractive and we rarely have sex. I find myself doing the things I would do when single really...admiring other women etc. I should just end it with her, but she's a very kind person and I don't have a better option lined up yet.

LabradorMama Tue 17-Sep-13 03:57:30

Wow badger, you sound a right catch.

Blont Tue 17-Sep-13 04:27:24

'Yet'!

picnicbasketcase Tue 17-Sep-13 06:16:53

Better option. Yikes.

I don't think necessarily 'single = porn' and 'relationship = proper sex with an actual 3D human'. Otherwise there wouldn't be so many threads where women are offended after checking their OH's Internet history or walking in on them.

BlackholesAndRevelations Tue 17-Sep-13 06:24:27

FFS badger. do her a favour and leave now. She'd be much better off without you.

LRDMaguliYaPomochTebeSRaboti Tue 17-Sep-13 08:21:59

Nope, that's what wankers do.

Sorry, couldn't resist.

I'd be creeped out at the idea of being a porn substitute, but I don't see why there's an assumption all single men watch porn, either. They don't.

PaulSmenis Tue 17-Sep-13 08:26:48

Badger, do the honourable thing and tell her that you feel this way. It's not fair to string people along like that. If you were honest about this, you could both find people who are more suitable.

To answer OP. I'm a woman and I have a sex life with DP, but it doesn't stop me from masturbating and thinking about other people. I don't look at porn, because I prefer reading naughty stuff. So, I don't think it's all pretty normal.

PaulSmenis Tue 17-Sep-13 08:28:30

Sorry, I meant to say that I don't think it's unusual and it's pretty normal.

kali110 Tue 17-Sep-13 08:32:25

I dont think so at all.iv been with my bf 4 years and it dont bother me.helps when im not there!

kali110 Tue 17-Sep-13 08:34:18

Plus i wouldnt walk out on my relationship because my bloke was doing this!agree with paul, normal for men and women who are not single.

meditrina Tue 17-Sep-13 08:35:58

If OP had wanted sensible answers I suspect this would be in Dadsnet, or Relationships, or perhaps chat. For the answer surely has to be that there is no single answer for all 'men' - or all women come to that. Each couple needs to sort out the parameters of their relationship in a way that works for both of them and offends neither.

PaulSmenis Tue 17-Sep-13 08:36:49

I think so kali. I love DP and find him attractive, but I still 'flick the bean' over other people. Sorry. TMI there. blush

BuskersCat Tue 17-Sep-13 08:38:21

come on now don't feed it ladies.

I hate porn, I find it disrespectful to everyone involved. masterbation doesn't bother me though, sometime you want to have a bit of selfish relief

LRDMaguliYaPomochTebeSRaboti Tue 17-Sep-13 08:39:55

YY, I was going for what buskers said more clearly.

PaulSmenis Tue 17-Sep-13 08:40:57

I don't like porn, but I do wonder whether men and women are wired differently in this respect. Women I know tend to read filthy stories, whereas men watch porn. That could be because porn is mostly made for men though.

Saying that, I have watched gay porn and it was hot.

gamerchick Tue 17-Sep-13 08:42:23

Don't tell me OP you're outraged that your other half masturbates to porn?

Porn use is a personal no one size fits all thing and some woman have huge problems with.

Masturbation is everybody's right.. can be used for a range of reasons and none of their partners business when it's used normally.

LRDMaguliYaPomochTebeSRaboti Tue 17-Sep-13 08:46:19

I don't think they are, paul (wired differently). Just FWIW.

PaulSmenis Tue 17-Sep-13 09:14:34

Do you think that it's more of a social conditioning thing LRD?

LRDMaguliYaPomochTebeSRaboti Tue 17-Sep-13 09:16:39

Yes, probably. I think different men and different women are more and less visual/verbal. Loads of men like dirty books too.

It's a separate question from opinions on men (or anyone else) watching porn, though, IMO.

PaulSmenis Tue 17-Sep-13 09:21:15

There's a lot of variation in porn though. I think there's a lot of difference between a man masturbating over an image of a naked woman and a watching hardcore video.

LRDMaguliYaPomochTebeSRaboti Tue 17-Sep-13 09:23:32

Dunno. Don't think it matters.

DaleyBump Tue 17-Sep-13 09:24:17

Fucking hell, this again.

Lots of people in healthy relationships watch porn and masturbate. It's normal and private and you should be staying out of it.

Badger that's as absolutely disgusting comment. Leave your wife, she deserves much better.

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