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AIBU?

to be irritated that this is a big deal?

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shelldockley · 16/09/2013 10:38

My name is shell dockley, I am 34 and I do not drink tea or coffee. There, I've said it, is that a big deal? No, I don't think so, only for some reason my best friend always makes it one! Every single time I see her, whether it's at her house, mine, or out for lunch/shopping/day out, it gets mentionned, EVERY SINGLE TIME!
It is not an issue anywhere or with anyone else, they know I don't drink them, they offer me something I do drink, that's that. It irritates me that she makes a big deal out of it, but I can never say anything, in case that is seen as me making a big deal out of it, ha ha!

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TigerSwallowTail · 16/09/2013 10:40

I don't drink them either and have been met with shock before at the revelation, I don't see it as a big deal though.

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Famzilla · 16/09/2013 10:41

How does she make a big deal out of it? What does she say ?

Quite a few of my mates don't drink tea or coffee, and I probably mention it when they come round as a way of reminding myself they don't and thinking of what to offer them instead.

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SPsTotallyMullerFuckingLicious · 16/09/2013 10:41

My name Is SP and I hate gravy and tomato sauce.

That is also something people seem to think is worthy of acknowledging often.

Cant believe you don't drink tea or coffee Shock that is really strange


Grin

I dont really drink it either.

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McNewPants2013 · 16/09/2013 10:43

It's not a big deal.

I love coffee and have an occasional cup of tea, that my taste. It would be a pretty boring world if we all ate and drank the same things.

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funnymummyspeaks · 16/09/2013 10:44

I don't like cheese, chocolate or coffee and apparently that makes me weird!! Lol!

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Fakebook · 16/09/2013 10:44

I don't drink alcohol. That's met with bigger shock than tea and coffee abstinence.

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TigerSwallowTail · 16/09/2013 10:44

Just to be clear, I don't see not drinking tea or coffee as a big deal, not that it's not a big deal that people are shocked by it :o I should just act equally shocked that they drink the vile stuff in the first place.

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SlobAtHome · 16/09/2013 10:45

YABU, I would honestly have to think of what else to offer you. :o I have DS's squash, would that be ok? Or milk.

God I need to get more drink options in this house...

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yoshipoppet · 16/09/2013 10:46

I don't like tea or coffee either.
Apparently I am peculiar, but according to this thread, I am after all normal. Phew! What a relief.

What I like best is when someone says 'well, what DO you drink then?' as if there is nothing else drinkable in the world other than tea or coffee. Of course the standard response to that one is 'wine please' :)

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SlobAtHome · 16/09/2013 10:46

funnymummy yes that's makes you VERY odd. You just listed my three fav things! :o

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absentmindeddooooodles · 16/09/2013 10:48

I dont like tea. At all. Everyone thinks this strange and comments alot. Ive found that just asking for wine helps Grin

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MurderOfGoths · 16/09/2013 10:49

Neither me or DH drink tea or coffee, people do tend to react like you've just told them you eat babies

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angelos02 · 16/09/2013 10:50

YANBU. I drink loads of water (about 6 pints a day) as I actually like it. I drink lots of wine too

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shelldockley · 16/09/2013 10:50

Famzilla, I think it is something to do with reminding herself, as the conversation always goes 'would you like a drink? oh, you don't like hot drinks do you...would you like a hot chocolate?' I do like hot chocolate, she knows this, we have known each other nearly 25 years, I can remember that she doesn't drink coffee!

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manchestermummy · 16/09/2013 10:52

My name is manchestermummy and I hate custard. And indeed any accompaniment to puddings. I hate cream and ice cream irritates my IBS big style so MIL please believe me when I say no thanks. I am not suggesting you are being inhospitable by refusing ice cream with the crumble, it's just I would rather not be having to spend the afternoon in your bathroom. And while we're on the subject, please stop asking if I would like a nice milky coffee. I take it black, and have done so for a lot longer than the ten years I have been with your son.

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manchestermummy · 16/09/2013 10:53

Sorry missed the point. YANBU. As you were.

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IShallWearMidnight · 16/09/2013 10:53

I drink one brand of fruit tea, or decaff coffee at a pinch (but only half a teaspoonful of coffee otherwise it's too strong, and some cold water in the top as it's too hot to drink). So it's easier all round to ask for a glass of water, but the looks i get, and the faffing around of "oh well I do have this herbal tea, or I could put milk in it, are you sure just a glass of water, I'm sorry I don't have any mineral water, you don't mean tap water is OK do you" when surely glass, tap, put on table is so much easier?

Other folks are weird I find Wink.

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CooEeeEldridge · 16/09/2013 10:56

Me either! I also don't drink ANY hot drinks. Yes this does Include hot chocolate, and no i dont need to try the snazzy Christmas ones.

Water / squash / wine will be fine thanks Smile

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ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 16/09/2013 10:59

Why not just laugh and say "you've known me for 25 years, how is it that you can't remember that I don't drink tea or coffee?"

every time she says it, reply with "and how long have we known each other?" and a big grin.

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MurderOfGoths · 16/09/2013 10:59

Oh yes, the "you want water?!" reaction. Like it's so damn odd.

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shelldockley · 16/09/2013 10:59

angelos I drink lots of water too, aren't we supposed to drink 2 litres a day or something? So why is that so weird?!

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StillNoFuckingEyeDeer · 16/09/2013 11:00

I don't drink tea or coffee. Or alcohol.
I also hate cheese and chocolate.

I am a freak Grin

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manchestermummy · 16/09/2013 11:01

My MIL does this. She will eventually bring water, but with cordial in it!

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MrsGSR · 16/09/2013 11:06

I don't drink tea, coffee or wine.

Dad always offers me tea or coffee and is always shocked when I say I don't drink them! I never, ever have.

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TCforTopCat · 16/09/2013 11:06

I don't like hot liquids, so tea, coffee, hot chocolate, soup and gravy all get "no thank you" from me.
I am very happy with anything cold, water, squash, vodka etc.

People find it difficult to understand but surely it is simpler to give someone a glass of tap water than have to boil a kettle and then faff around asking about how much milk, how many sugars Smile

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