SIL is extremely volatile. I have witnessed her shouting at her toddler before, she is constantly shouting and rowing, to the point whereby PIL have asked her not to come for Christmas anymore.
MIL has confided in me in the past that whilst on the phone (SIL lives other end of the country) she has heard her calling toddler a bastard, shouting, screaming etc. child's father is involved but they are not together. I told MIL at the time that something needed to be done, but technically as it was hearsay I couldn't do anything myself. I don't have a particularly good relationship with her so its not even like I could talk to her about it myself.
MIL has called to say that child's father has called her, after dropping his dd home and witnessing SIL trying to hit her, and dd saying 'no mummy don't hit me on the face!'
Now I don't know what to do. I'm very aware that this info is now third hand, it may not even betrue but to honest it wouldn't surprise me.
My personal feeling is that SIL is mentally unwell and struggling (understandable as single parent), but obviously the child is in danger, or at the very least (if the hitting remark untrue), an unpleasant environment.
I have asked MIL to please ask father to take child, at least for few days and potentially call ss. I have said that if he doesn't do it, she probably should. SIL clearly needs support, this ant continue, it is abuse.
I don't feel that I can contact ss because nearly all my info is third hand, apart from knowing SILs temperament... I also don't kw her address or anything so couldn't give enough info anyway probably but I don't want to just leave the poor baby in this situation if she is in danger. MIL is reluctant to involve ss as she thinks they will just wip child into care. I have explained that this is unlikely if SIL is cooperative and at the very least she will go to her father whilst SIL gets the help she needs.
What do you think? Keep my nose out? Call ss? Or bide my time and see what DNs father does?
Any advice appreciated, I'm at a loss.
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Namechanger13 · 27/08/2013 10:49
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