Dh parents arrived today. They love an Indian resteraunt near us and want to eat there everytime they visit. I usually love it too (I am half Indian but a crap cook so it's like a taste of childhood going there).
However, I am 9 weeks pregnant and puking round the clock. The only things I can eat (this week) are soggy cornflakes and for the past two days I am having trouble keeping anything down, sometimes even fluids.
I can't open my own fridge without gagging so the thought of sitting there smelling all those spices is filling me with dread.
I've told dh to go on his own with them tonight, but he won't as the evenings is when my sickness spikes (I passed out on the bathroom floor thur night), but I am gettin guilt tripped by all of them. They say they will miss out if we don't all go and won't get a takeaway as its not the same.
I don't want to ruin thier trip, but I can't go. They are saying I can just nibble on some rice. It's the smell, and the fact that I am exhausted and can't keep anything down.
The resteraunt only has one loo and I don't want to be hogging it.
God, I feel like shit and just want to sleep!
AIBU?
to not want to go to an Indian resteraunt while suffering horrendous 'morning' (haha) sickness
Makqueen · 26/08/2013 11:28
YANBU you have offered alternatives, they go without you or get a takeaway, and they won't accept them. That's their lookout but refuse to be drawn anymore. Next time they ask tell them I've explained why that's not possible and then change the subject or retreat to the upstairs and leave them to it. What sort of arsehole behaves like this when you're clearly so ill?
For you and I hope you feel better soon.
YANBU, definitely! Don't go.
Have you tried any anti-sickness meds? I had hyperemesis when pregnant with DS and eventually couldn't even drink fluids, the rubbish OOH Nurse gave me anti-sickness tablets, which of course I puked up!
Ended up in hospital on a drip & anti-sickness suppositories (ewww, I know but they worked 
) helped after that. So much so that when we went out for indian meal one night, I puked on the pavement on the way there, went into a pub loo to use my 'medicine' and was happily eating a curry 30mins later!
If you find yourself this bad, get to GP.
Hope you feeling better soon.
AND (sorry op, but I feel very strongly about this) every pregnancy is different! Lucky mil and sil they didn't have any issues.
Selfish selfish selfish.
How dare they make you feel like this in your own home. Kick them out and kick dh in the arse. If you can't leave the bathroom, I'll come round and do it for you!! :o 
You DH needs to grow a pair, speak firmly to his parents, tell them that he and they are going out so that you can have some peace and quiet to vomit . I can't believe they are all being so unpleasant to you. Don't invite them to stay again if this is how they behave.
Why on earth can't they go with your DH (most ILs wouldn't care about leaving a DIL behind ) or own their own if they like the restaurant so much?
Next time your MIL starts wittering on about her pregnancies being sooo easy offer her a "well done" with a raised eyebrow 
Balls to them - you've offered up compromises and now they're sulking. Tell them to go on their own if it's going to ruin their visit that much - but you're done talking about it - it's a fricking curry and will still be available in 9 months. It's not their last meal.
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I was in hospital regularly after week ten in my first pregnancy as I kept getting dehydrated. But they wouldn't give me any mess. Well, one would but scared me so much about possible birth defects that I struggled on. I was sick until ds turned up at 37 weeks.
Dh has just come in to say he should go out with them.
They are STILL going on about it. They are pissed off because they want to spend the day in our city and I can't go, they are pissed off because dh doesn't want to leave me for the whole day.
They are normally reasonable people.
The last time I was pregnant earlier this year I had a MMC. I was feeling like this, but I dragged myself round London for the day with them, then Went for a bloody curry (I was sick all night) and I felt awful for the next three days. Started having cramps, had a scan and the baby was dead. So that is always in the back of my mind, I often wondered if I pushed myself too much that day when I was exhausted 
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