To not want MIL to do this to my cloths?

(101 Posts)
NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Fri 23-Aug-13 08:35:04

Since there is already a tea towel based thread on here I thought I'd join in the pettiness! MIL is staying and while she is lovely she has a maddening habit...bear in mind this thread is slightly light hearted...but i am also a bit annoyed too.

When she's tidied the kitchen or washed up (which she does at least once a day bless her) she always takes the cloth I use for wiping the surfaces and sink over and spreads them to dry over the side of the sink or the body of the mixer tap...the cloths are always stained and dirty looking....as though she's wiped up four coffee spills with it.

I don't see the need! I place them in a a little bleachy water after a wipe around...she must think hanging them to dry will minimize germs....but surely she should take note of what I DO in my house which is what I do when in hers!

I never follow MY routine in her kitchen but adhere to HERS!!! AIBU?

oldgrandmama Fri 23-Aug-13 10:23:20

J-Cloths, or the cheap substitutes around in Pound/Near Pound shops. By the way, your MIL sounds a saint - as I am myself, of course!

sydlexic Fri 23-Aug-13 10:28:30

Give her a stern talking to, if you don't she will be hanging tea towels on the oven door before you know it. My DH does this I think he is being PA.

SPBisResisting Fri 23-Aug-13 10:30:36

J cloths do not clean as well as string cloths. They dont provide the friction/scrubby action. I use j cloths fir the bathroom

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Fri 23-Aug-13 10:44:35

just bung it in the washer and redrape.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Fri 23-Aug-13 10:58:56

No draping! Draping is wrong!

MadBusLady Fri 23-Aug-13 11:34:36

Kill her.

Aniseeda Fri 23-Aug-13 12:53:05

YAB(lightheartedly!)U. I am a cloth hanger so you wouldn't want me washing up for you.

My mum tends to leave the dirty cloth floating in a bowl of filthy water - I'd love it if she rinsed out the bowl and hung the cloth to dry but I just quietly roll my eyes and do it myself!

Your MIL sounds fab grin

valiumredhead Fri 23-Aug-13 14:01:54

I put sponges through the dishwasher when I worked as a nanny,I was told it was revolting. Bizarre people. Not a revolting as not buying new dishcloths for nearly a year!

Soribell Fri 23-Aug-13 14:07:06

I am weird (sorry) about cleaning cloths, too. I do get, though, that it sounds a bit mad to others, especially if they are doing the cleaning for you.

For me, it's the way DH uses them that drives me mad. I just put them all away and leave out sponges he can uses if he feels like cleaning. I don't think he even knows I have "proper cloths" for cleaning.

Crinkle77 Fri 23-Aug-13 14:13:34

yabu. It probably hasn't even occured to her to ask what they do with the dish cloth after using it. Is she supposed to ask what the correct protocol is everytime she does something? She is doing your washing up. Just be grateful.

Nagoo Fri 23-Aug-13 14:14:59

grin @ coffee stain, not shit grin

SilverOldie Fri 23-Aug-13 14:34:40

I have read some awful MIL stories on here but this takes the biscuit. How dare she do YOUR washing up and use YOUR cloths and then, I can hardly believe it, DRAPES them.

By the way, what time does she finish at your house so she can come to mine? grin

raisah Fri 23-Aug-13 15:25:05

Send her over to mine please. I don't have a MIL but she would have driven me nuts if she was still alive.

You are both right, rinse out in bleachy water & spread out to dry. That is what I do.

comingalongnicely Fri 23-Aug-13 17:10:03

I don't know about germs, but I hang mine over the tap as it dries better that way & doesn't end up stinking as much....

BlackholesAndRevelations Fri 23-Aug-13 21:18:20

I just binned mine after dp half-arsedly used it to half mop up some tea he spilt on the living room carpet. hmm

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Fri 23-Aug-13 21:19:54

Oh come come; I am NOT moaning about her cleaning! She's welcome to clean, sit or do a dance in my kitchen. Just not to drape the frigging cloths!

Mintyy Fri 23-Aug-13 21:21:55

Yab totally and utterly U. No question.

Bowlersarm Fri 23-Aug-13 21:22:56

YABU. Surely you know by now OP.......

tanukiton Fri 23-Aug-13 21:33:17

You are my mum aren,t you! I hate the pot of bleach festering with food stuff to one side. You hate it when I put the used cloths and sponges in the dishwasher to be blasted. If you are my mum know I love you. If it is your mil know she loves you she is doing the dishes.....

SilverSixpence Fri 23-Aug-13 21:36:29

YABVU if she is cleaning and washing up at least once a day. However I get driven mad by MIL leaving teaspoons on the counter so I can't really blame you smile

BlackholesAndRevelations Fri 23-Aug-13 21:36:34

Dishcloths in dishwasher, really? Hmm... Might try that one!

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee Fri 23-Aug-13 21:41:04

My Mum came to stay with me last year (5 LONG months grin) and bless her, she tried to do things my way, but if I had a £1 for everytime she said 'x never hurt you' or 'I don't see why you do x' I would be very very rich.

... and I don't think she missed an opportunity to remark on how long the washing machine takes and what a waste, why not do everything on the 'quick wash'. Sigh.

I think a couple of hmm looks (after having explained it twenty million times) did the job - I stopped short of saying 'What happend to - 'when you have your own place you can do it your way, until then it's done my way'' grin

Just think, it could be worse, she could leave them in a festering heap. Just chuck them in the machine or bleach.

80sMum Fri 23-Aug-13 21:47:18

Blimey! I would be pathetically grateful if someone cleaned up my kitchen. I think you are being a tad unreasonable here! But if the cloth hanging really bothers you, why not just remove all the cloths before you mil arrives and put out a pack of Flash wipes, tell her you are using those now instead?

iamadoozermum Fri 23-Aug-13 22:03:09

I'm a draper - there, I've said it out loud. My DM is a draper as well, DGM (maternal) is a bleacher so we're only a 2 generations of draper family. DH on the other hand is a heap at the side kinda guy [seethe emoticon] and don't get me started on DMIL (who is otherwise wonderful but her dish washing tactics!!!!).

gamerchick Fri 23-Aug-13 22:08:10

Put out sponges.. cloths are minging any which way.

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