to say no to another baby because dh doesn't want me to breastfeed?

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Hollibaloo Tue 20-Aug-13 23:54:15

I have a 7 and 2 year old. I am very much pro-breastfeeding and for fed my eldest til she self weaned at 3 and am still feeding my 2 year old. Dh and I would like dc3 but tonight he said that he wants this hypothetical baby to be formula fed. He said he knows bf is healthier etc but he thinks ff is quicker, easier and will give us more time together. His children with ex wife were ff and they had lots of nights out which we don't. I said I'd compromise and use a dummy but that bf is important to me and Seriseeing as I work from home and do all night feeds it should really be up to me. He said I picked to bf dc1+2 so it's time he had a choice. Aibu to stand my ground and say I will only have another dc if I can breastfeed?

But he has already ff babies, he did that in his previous marriage, so what is he complaining about?

Maybe he can ff the babies he gets with his third wife..

Quickquidqueen Fri 23-Aug-13 21:02:54

OhDearNigel grin

OP, why does he want another child? Really, why?

This man has sired four children already. (Can't quite bring myself to say 'fathered', as he appears to not actually want to do any fathering.) The ONLY motivation that fits with the behaviour/pronouncements described by you would be the 'look at me and all the fruits of my loins, I'm soooo virile' kind of thing. Which is about as attractive as his seeing "spare time (ie 5 mins while 2 yo is engrossed in shape sorter) as potential sex time". Hence your comment that you "like sex but don't like feeling I'm going to be mauled everytime baby/kids are occupied or asleep.".

And why do you want to have another child by this arse man?

MyNameIsRio Sat 24-Aug-13 18:08:22

Is it because he especially wants a boy/girl ?

Hollibaloo Sat 24-Aug-13 21:46:05

I don't understand how that'd be relevant Rio...?

MyNameIsRio Sat 24-Aug-13 22:16:48

Does he want another child so much because he especially wants one of s particular sex.

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