Too still feel down about this....

(35 Posts)

Saw my family at the weekend with my 2 beautiful children, the youngest being 9 weeks.
After 3 miscarriages between my children, when I did fall pregnant with dc2 I stopped all exercise out of fear and admittedly ate too much. After his birth I was 4 stone overweight. As soon as he was born I have eaten really healthy and walked loads, etc. That combined with ebf I have lost 2st2lbs so far.
When I arrived one of the first comments I got was, 'ohhh you really need to start thinking about shifting that baby weight, it doesn't suit you.' When I said actually it was going fast and I was shifting a consistent 3 lbs per week, the response was 'really? doesn't look like it - but when people are really big I don't think weight loss shows.'
Then she picked up dc2 who is a big baby above the 99.6th percentile and said 'oh your a big chap, watch out you don't turn out like your mummy.'

I've had eating and body image issues in the past and am really trying to shift this weight. At the same time I don't want to get silly about it. Just made me feel really down and sad, especially th comment about dc2, he is 9 weeks old for gods sake!!!
Still feel really crap about it and dreading next family get together!

WhoNickedMyName Wed 07-Aug-13 21:19:22

Whoever said this to you is a rude fucker. I don't know that I'd have been able to hold my tongue.

And 3lb weight loss per week sounds like you're being consistent and sensible. Congratulations!

Fancies40Winks Wed 07-Aug-13 21:20:39

Congratulations on your baby, and very well done on your impressive weight loss flowers

As for that arsehole, don't give them head space. They're obviously a very bitter and unhappy person to be so unspeakably rude, and they'll die a lonely death corroded inside by their spite.

DoctorWhosUnderpants Wed 07-Aug-13 21:20:48

Idiots.

Ignore the stupid comments and carry on the way you are going. Sounds as if there whoever said this to you is jealous.

itsaruddygame Wed 07-Aug-13 21:21:51

Dear god what bitch! Forget it - only a rude and ignorant idiot would make such a comment to the mother of a 9 week old - or to anyone for that matter. You have already lost a huge amount (my DS is 5 months and I have lost nowt!) and frankly you just made a baby so your allowed to carry a bit extra.

MalcolmTuckersMum Wed 07-Aug-13 21:22:47

Only possible answer

" I can lose weight. You'll always be a horrible rude insensitive cunt."

Well done on losing the weight - and slowly is the only good way of doing it!

Monty27 Wed 07-Aug-13 21:24:59

Congratulations on your baby smile and also your weight loss!

Anyway whoever said that to you is just not worth air time. Fuck them off out of it. Probably has some issue. No nice person would say such a thing.

Keep it going smile smile

Chottie Wed 07-Aug-13 21:28:41

Congratulations on your lovely baby. Please, please ignore this ignorant person. You are doing everything you can to be healthy and fit, just continue. Slowly and gradually is the way to get weight off and keep it off. smile

Goldenbear Wed 07-Aug-13 21:34:41

What a lovely welcome to you?? 3lbs a week and your baby is only 9 weeks old- see it for what it is, bloody brilliant!

My DC2 is 2 and I am still a stone off my pre- pregnancy weight of DC 2 and 2 stone off pre- pregnancy weight of DC1. My Dad is very brutal with his remarks so it has become water of a duck's back when 'overweight' comments are made. Mind you because I don't see him for 3 months at a time, he sees the contrast in weight loss as dramatic and is more complimentary these days.

CocacolaMum Wed 07-Aug-13 21:38:10

What the actual fuck, how rude whoever said that was. You should have uttered the MN favourite

DID YOU MEAN TO BE SO RUDE?!

What kind of arsecunt says something like that to someone with a 9 week old. EUGH I am so annoyed.

Catnap26 Wed 07-Aug-13 21:50:42

Just read this post and count leave without saying a huge congratulations to you on such an outstanding weight loss with such a young baby.please be proud of yourself smile

zatyaballerina Wed 07-Aug-13 21:51:54

Your baby is only nine weeks ffs, you're doing really well. Whoever said this to you was an obnoxious cunt, these types always show their true colours when you're at your most vulnerable and not up to fighting back. Keep going as you are and when you see obnoxious cunt again, point out her worst physical failing; your eyebags are enormous you can get them removed you know, god you've gotten wrinkly, you're getting jowls..... make her feel as shit as she made you feel.

wilkos Wed 07-Aug-13 21:54:29

shock what is with some people! Ignore ignore ignore.

Congratulations on your baby and your very impressive weight loss thanks 3lbs a week is amazing!

WandaDoff Wed 07-Aug-13 22:02:51

Your baby is 9 weeks old & you've already lost more than 2st

You are doing fantastically well.

Whoever said that is saying it to fuck with you, ignore them.

Who said it? DSis? SIL? Tell them to fuck off anyway.

Firebomb Wed 07-Aug-13 22:03:54

I love everyone's creative way of swearing LMAO. I absolutely agree with everyone. You're losing weight at an incredible pace!

I gained, I think, around 2 stone while I was pregnant (115lb to 143lb American). My DS is 5 months and I am still around 123lb (almost 9 stone I think). I breastfed for awhile until I couldn't anymore and that helped with weight loss as well as constant walking in the beginning.

Obviously this rudeass needed to put you down in order to feel proper about their own body, otherwise why bring it up? It's never appropriate to discuss someone's weight unless it's to tell them how gorgeous they look! Otherwise NO COMMENTS! ignore ignore ignore. Seriously. I think new mums wear any weight well anyway. At least you're not using 'new mum' as an excuse to keep eating loads and loads of food and putting on weight instead of losing it!

Daddoinghisbest Wed 07-Aug-13 22:05:27

I saw something on FB - Family isn't always blood. It's the people in your life who want you in theirs; the ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile, and who love you no matter what. Forget these comments from these poor insensitive fools. You're truly to be admired. You're doing so well. Stay strong and be with people who are good for you.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Wed 07-Aug-13 22:07:44

Agree with the Rude Fucker comment. The person that said this is scum.

Saffyz Wed 07-Aug-13 22:10:28

YANBU. How rude and uncalled for. Do they normally come out with put-downs?

I think I'd say "if you can't think of anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".

lastnightidreamt Wed 07-Aug-13 22:18:49

Totally rude and unnecessary.

Congratulations on your baby and your great weight loss so far. ( You don't even need to be thinking about this though!!)

Plus there is absolutely nothing wrong with a ebf baby being high up on the centiles early on - all mine have been, and are now like rakes!

Ignore her, and knock 'em dead at the next family get-together.

lastnightidreamt Wed 07-Aug-13 22:21:18

Seriously, who on earth would think it was acceptable to say any of these things.........it never ceases to amaze me!

What a fucking rude Bitch with a capital B.

I'm overweight too with no recent babies as a good reason and comments can be so hurtful. My mum used to be like this and could never understand why I would get so upset.

Congratulations on your bundle of joy. Ignore the idiots.

StrangeGlue Wed 07-Aug-13 22:31:09

Your baby is 9 weeks old and you've lost loads of weight in a really sensible way. I'm so impressed! At 9 weeks I was still wandering into doors and talking to myself and crying!

That person must have been jealous and bitter surely. There is no way that 2 stone lost doesn't show - you must look so different.

And saying that to a baby is just vile.

Caboodle Wed 07-Aug-13 23:29:03

Congratulations on the birth of your baby and congratulations on your weight loss (which really is quite fast - well done - wish I had managed that...took me bloody ages).
Why would somebody say such a rude and hurtful thing to another person? This is just beyond me - ignore them, put on your lovely (skinny) clothes that you fit into so soon after giving birth, smile and....move on.

Thanks all and for all the lovely comments. My family are lovely but very, very blunt!!
I have taken photos of myself at start of weight loss and each few weeks to keep myself motivated and I know there is a huge difference! Just really gets me down. Prior to this I was keeping an eye on the weightloss but was just letting it happen through doing things I enjoyed and was enjoying making healthy meals etc. Then this week I have weighed myself every day getting obsessed if the scales don't go down each day (which again is silly!).
Going to let it go and remind myself 9 weeks ago I was giving birth and have two beautiful children to enjoy. I know the weight is coming off and that's all that matters!

Crinkle77 Thu 08-Aug-13 09:42:22

Who ever said that was a complete t**t. They are probbaly just jealous of your lovely little family

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