to let my children play with a tennis ball in the road

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HopeClearwater Sat 03-Aug-13 11:15:27

Don't know what to do. We live in a small cul-de-sac of 3-bed semis. My dc are allowed to play with bat and ball outside at the widest part of the cul-de-sac. I can see them from my house. I don't let them play football there. An elderly neighbour is taking great exception to it, hates the ball rolling into his driveway (everything is open, tiny front gardens mainly converted to hard standing). He's just shouted at my younger child when the ball rolled into another neighbour's driveway.
He stands in his front room watching them when they play out and waiting for the ball to go somewhere he thinks it shouldn't.
I have a tiny back garden and my other neighbour complains when any balls land in his garden, so I feel that's out now as well.
I'm trying to be sympathetic to the old guy but I can't help thinking that he'd have spent his childhood in the streets of London and not stuck inside. He's shouted at me too, told me they shouldn't be playing out and it infringes his rights. I was very polite back but didn't actually agree or disagree with anything he said.
Help...

Altinkum Tue 06-Aug-13 22:03:54

**Thanks everyone for your responses.
I don't let them play football as they can kick it really hard. I do take them out to the park etc but can't do it as much as they'd like. They are sporty outdoors kids and I'd like to keep it that way. But of course I don't want a neighbour dispute.
I am at the top of the close next to the widest part of the road, yes. There is not much to his front garden - grass, tree, bush under window - and another neighbour maintains it for him as a favour.
I grew up in a similar road; there were loads of us kids and we played out the whole time. Sad that I can't do it now with my children.
Some of the ideas upthread eg badminton, softer balls etc, are excellent. Thank you.**

This was the OP 2nd post, she took everyone's points of view on board, and liked the suggestions such as softer ball games etc...

She was then indicated with assumptions, more assumptions and blatant rudeness, I think I'd be sarcastic also, but then I've read all OP's posts and everyone else's, she's no more sarcastic than the next poster, or the posters making the assumptions/not reading ops posts.

It's really is six of one and half a dozen to the other.

HopeClearwater Wed 07-Aug-13 14:03:14

Ah Altinkum thank you for your kind words. I did slightly lose it further down the thread with the number of assumptions and the amount of speculation.

I put it on AIBU because I genuinely wanted to see what the range of responses would be. My children are no longer allowed to play out in the road now. I still harbour unfriendly feelings towards the old man who shouted at me and (separately) my kids rather than coming round and asking me about it calmly. But I will be polite.

HopeClearwater Wed 07-Aug-13 14:06:55

And he is a grumpy old git, although I did not use those words, so he won't be getting any tea or cake from me. His (very pleasant) wife can give him tea. I don't like blokes shouting at me, or my children. I bet he'd never have shouted at my DH.

Cravey Wed 07-Aug-13 15:14:25

Altinkum your response is all very well, but I certainly wasnt rude or sarcastic, merely stated what I thought. Op replied in a way that came across as sarcastic. No need for it IMO. Op I totally think you have done the right thing in not allowing them on the rude.

Cravey Wed 07-Aug-13 15:14:35

Road even.

ilovesooty Wed 07-Aug-13 15:21:21

Op I totally think you have done the right thing in not allowing them on the rude

That's a different thread grin

Altinkum Wed 07-Aug-13 22:33:11

Cravey you've took her comments personally, if you weren't making assumptions and speculating, the theirs no need to take offence to the OP, comments. They clearly weren't directed at you, and I disagree, their was no need for half of the assumption/people basing it on their own road situation etc....

I would be rude too if have of these comments were aimed at me, simply because 1/2 of them are fabricated or assumption based!!! Even when the OP has answered most of the assumptions based at her!!!

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