Woman on bus told me to move seats because she was allergic to my cats. Who was BU?

(135 Posts)
EweHaveGoatToBeKiddin Tue 30-Jul-13 17:38:19

Just in from the vets and rushing to get dinner sorted so shall make this quick-ish.

My kittens had a check up today at the vets. I don't drive, so me and dd took the bus with them in their pet carrier.

A woman was blocking the aisle with her legs out and shopping trolley so i asked if she could please move to let us by. She made a face as she looked at my pet carrier but finally moved and let us sit in the two seats behind her.

Then she starts coughing. After a minute of it, she turned round and informed me she's highly allergic of cats and they cause her breathing difficulties. I apologised and said I'd put them on the floor by my feet instead of on my lap, but she said that would't make any difference. She suggested i find somewhere else to sit.

The bus was unusually busy. There were only two seats left, but they weren't together. One had a dripping wet carrier bag on it (looked like a tub of spilled curry sauce inside) and the other was at the back of the bus between a group of loud (seemed very drunk to me) people playing music and talking about not so nice things...

I told her that dd won't sit on my lap and I needed two seats together so would be staying put.

Next time the bus stopped, she got up to speak to the driver! She didn't even try being quiet. I was mortified. She said that she was struggling to breathe because of my manky cats and that they shouldn't be allowed on public transport. And that her shopping is covered in fur now.

The driver asked her repeatedly to sit down, there's nothing he could do. Then he asked me how much further i was going. I told him still a fair bit, as the vets is in a different town. After another few minutes of arguing, the driver firmly told her to sit down or she'd need to get off.

Everyone was laughing at this point. The people up the back were calling crude things down to me thinking they were hilarious. ("I don't mind your pussy being on board etc etc") blush

Anyway, she sat back down and we set off again. She sat there swearing under her breath and coughing. Three stops later, she got up again and demanded a refund as she had to get off now or else she'd get seriously ill.

I'm not undermining allergies in any way, but what was i supposed to do? The driver said he doesn't do refunds as he doesn't handle the money and she'd have to write to head office. Ten minutes of arguing later, she got off.

I was 20 minutes late for my appointment because of her! Luckily i had a double appointment booked, but it meant the vet had to rush and do two cats in the space of one.

So, dare i ask? Who was BU? Please say it wasn't me. I feel rotten about it already. But i don't know what i could have done differently.

pictish Tue 30-Jul-13 18:28:47

Or maybe she's just an attention seeker alreadytaken, getting up and down out of her seat to involving the bus driver and making a scene, rather than just taking responsibility for herself and sitting elsewhere, like a person with an actual severe allergy would. wink

Ywnbu OP - I'd bet my last tenner she is a crank who likes a show.

Branleuse Tue 30-Jul-13 18:29:40

she sounds like a fruitcake. unlucky

pictish Tue 30-Jul-13 18:30:42

cough cough cough cough cough cough

I'm allergic to the letter A - you'll all have to go and post elsewhere. Now.

Roshbegosh Tue 30-Jul-13 18:31:45

A passenger who has to sit in the elderly / disabled section who starts to have difficulty breathing. Yes OP fuck her.

pictish Tue 30-Jul-13 18:32:52

And who got up and down to speak to the driver.....

expatinscotland Tue 30-Jul-13 18:33:47

Obviously able to breathe enough to get up and rant again and again.

pictish Tue 30-Jul-13 18:34:27

Put it this way - if I had a severe allergy to cats, and someone got on the bus with a pet carrier containing two, and sat right behind me....I'd remove myself. I wouldn't dream of making my problem someone else's like that.

EweHaveGoatToBeKiddin Tue 30-Jul-13 18:34:59

Roshbegosh, i do really feel for her as i appreciate how debilitating allergies can be. But the only thing i could have done was get off the bus and wait for the next. Since i wasn't sure when the next one would be arriving, i stayed.

Sirzy Tue 30-Jul-13 18:39:13

Rosh -

We don't know she was sat in the disabled seats.

We do know she was well and mobile enough to move around the bus to complain to the driver!

ProudAS Tue 30-Jul-13 18:41:03

YANBU this woman sounds rude, aggressive and just out to cause a scene.

I don't like the "your allergy your problem" mentality though. Someone with an allergy had as much right as anyone else to enjoy and complete their journey. I wonder whether MNers would have taken that attitude if the OP was eating a bag of peanuts and another passenger had a nut allergy.

pictish Tue 30-Jul-13 18:43:19

Yes I would. Sorry.

If I had an allergy, when it came to public places, like a bus, I would see it as my responsibility to remove myself, if someone happened along innocently toting the thing I was allergic to...whther that be two cats in a basket or a snickers bar.

Sirzy Tue 30-Jul-13 18:43:52

Proud as - my sister has a nut allergy and in that situation she would have got off the bus.

The only public transport where she asks for nuts not to be eaten (and has a doctors note to support this) is airplanes because its not that easy to move away then

ENormaSnob Tue 30-Jul-13 18:44:08

Yanbu

Its not like you shoved your pussy in her face.

5madthings Tue 30-Jul-13 18:46:06

Fgs she obviously wasn't having breathing difficulties or she wouldn't have been able to get up and keep complaining to true bus driver.

I have allergies, they are a pita, I keep my home allergy free but when I am out in public it is my responsibility to move myself away from an allergen. I can't expect the general public to stop walking their dogs, talking their pets to the vet etc, I have to take responsibility for myself and I do, I move!

maddening Tue 30-Jul-13 18:47:57

Yanbu - but also how old is dd? Sorry if I missed it.

pictish Tue 30-Jul-13 18:48:30

And just imagine all the cat owners that get on and off buses, sitting near this woman with cat hair on their clothes, that don't produce a major coughing fit and performance to the driver....

She was a crank.

thebody Tue 30-Jul-13 18:49:01

silly drama queen. I luvs kittens.

sorry know I shouldn't but the comments from the lads about your Pussey made me laugh.

Didactylos Tue 30-Jul-13 18:49:03

if she can argue, shes got a patent airway....
see, its a good thing
tfic grin

EweHaveGoatToBeKiddin Tue 30-Jul-13 18:55:44

I'm actually quite worried now about her. At the time, the cough seemed a bit forced. But it could very well have been genuine. It started pouring with rain on the way home which can't have helped. I hope she has a husband or someone that lives with her.

Maddening, dd is 5yo. smile She has ASD and there's not a 'cat in hell's chance' she would have sat on my knee unless she actually wanted to (which she didn't). Also, she's a bloody heavy lump and i would have struggled to cope with my knees being squished for 30 mins.

And not to mention i didn't want to sit in curry sauce or beside the loud, drunk people. Nor would i have expected anyone to sit here. Which is why the situation's difficult. I couldn't move and nether could the woman.

kali110 Tue 30-Jul-13 18:57:46

Dont have sympathy purely because of how she reacted. Maybe if this woman had been so rude and humiliated her op may have moved. If she had such a bad allergy then how was she able to parade up and down the bus?then argue with op and the driver, clearly wasnt struggling with her allergy then. Hope i never sit by the lady im always covered in cat hair!i maybe a crazy cat lady when im old and senile.

Hulababy Tue 30-Jul-13 19:00:52

YANBU

She was obviously able to move enough to get up and rant several times.

LynetteScavo Tue 30-Jul-13 19:00:59

Sounds like the bus journey from hell.

Sound like you were the only reasonable person on the bus.

IrisWildthyme Tue 30-Jul-13 19:01:21

YANBU and she was being a crank. Other previous posters have made all the sensible and reasonable points why so I won't reiterate, just add my voice in your favour. If she had the voice enough to argue, she wasn't actually in any danger.

everlong Tue 30-Jul-13 19:01:58

She sounds a nutcase. If she was really unable to breathe she have moved herself away from you.

belatedmaybe Tue 30-Jul-13 19:05:48

If the bus was full/fullish then sitting in the easy access seats does not mean she needed to use them. Personally I would choose them rather than sitting nearer a group of yobs. The fact that she was citing hair on shopping despite being feet not inches away makes it pretty clear she was professionally offended nothing more.

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